shes blinded!!?

Question

my cousin (who means the world to me) is madly in love with her man of almost two years. Little does she know- he's been sleeping wit my sister. He's 23, my cousin's 21 and my sister (twin sister) is 17. He's constantly telling my cousin that he loves her. She melts. & he does the same with my sister! i found out by mistake-- you c-- my sister went to my cousin's place the other day for the night-- i was out with my man, but we came home early. My sister left me a note telling me to call her but her cell was off- thinking that something was up-- i went ot my cousin-- (i have a key). it was 2 am. My cousin-- was asleep in her room--- but herself-- & no one else was up upstairs-- i went downstairs into the spare room-- to smoke as thats the only place in the house we're allowed to smoke-- & i walked in on my sister & my cousins bf having se*x!! i automatically bolted up the staris but chris (my cousins bf) stopped my & ask not say anything- how do i tell my cousin w/o breaking her heart?

Answer 1

you have to tell her and let her decide what to do..how would u feel if it was you who was being cheated on?????

Answer 2

Unfortunatly you are going to have two pretty unhappy women. Your cousin is going to be heartbroken and your sister is going to also be upset. But you have to go with your heart! In the end its better that you tell your cousin, gently now, then wait and let her fall even deeper for this guy. Explain the situation very simply, just like you did here. Tell her you accidently walked in on it, and that you thought she should have the right to know. I'm sure she will be hurting, but its for the best because he will probably cheat around with other girls if she stays with him. As for your sister- talk to her too! Ask her why she is sleeping with her cousin's man- that's not really cool either. I wish you luck and I hope that whole mess gets cleaned up!

Answer 3

Somehow you girls will have to stick together.
Your sister may need to be involved in this.
Your cousin needs to be told, if she finds out later she'll be really hurt that no one told her. She may well not want anything to do with your sister.
Your sister is possibly just flattered by this guy, but she needs to think how she is going to sort this out.
Could you ask the boyfriend to own up and be mature about it?Don't know if you get on with him, but you could tell him that if he doesn't tell her (by a particular day) then you are going to have to. You may decide to not tell her it was your sister he was with. He may tell her because sometimes people enjoy hurting others I'm sad to say. This is a really difficult situation. Brace yourself. She'll possibly blame you for a while, until she recovers.
Good luck

Answer 4

I would tell my sister and the bf that they need to tell her. And let them know that if they don't tell it u will. Your cousin will be hurt and will need someone to be there for her. There really is no way to tell her w/o breaking her heart, but least that unfaithful crab will be out of her life. But then again..if u tell her she could get mad at u. and still be with him. Is that a chance u want to take. I think u should start with something like this. I know someone and her bf is cheating on her Do u think i should tell her. Then see were it goes from there.

Answer 5

Well honey, there is no way to tell her something like that without breaking her heart.
Besides she may not believe you if as you say she is sooo in love, and it will just ruin your relationship with her.
I can understand that you feel you should tell her, I would as well. Try to get both your sister and your cousin in one room and then bring it up!Your sister will be forced into confessing and your cousin will definitely believe you then. It will not be easy for you or them both though. Be prepared that your relationship with both of them might be damaged.
Plus, there is always a chance that even if she believes you, he will still convince her to forgive............it was a one off..........I am soooo sorry crap..........you know how cheaters and liars are!
Anyway, do what your think is best. I personally think you should protect your love ones from that creep!!Sooner or later they will appreciate it and thank you for opening their eyes.
Good luck

Answer 6

well, simply u cant tell her without breaking her heart but u HAVE to tell her. Whats is gonna be like 5 yrs down the line n they are getting married or something? dont let this carry on. Yeah of course ur cous will be cruched but in the long run u r doing her a favour. She hate u if she finds out u knew n didnt say anything. U r doing her a favour, remember that. Time is a healer, she will get over it eventually, just make sure he doesnt wiggle his way back in.

Answer 7

This man really deserves no explanations handiest that he may still have her if he wasn't so cruel to her, simply when you consider that she is blind. I consider that if this girl chose you, she chose you from seeing with her heart and no longer along with her eyes and that i suppose that you are seeing her for the man or woman that she real is and now not for her outer appearance and her disabilities. I believe that making a choice on you, she made a excellent choice considering that she desires someone to help her now not harm her. Wishing you the quality of success. Incidentally, i'd take all measures to keep each of you far from the cruelty of the ex and his buddies.

Answer 8

There is no way you can not break her heart. That will happen no matter what.

I think you are damned if you do and damned if you dont. If they both deny it, you could get the blame.

If that doesn't happen, your sister and the boyfriend will both take it out on instead of admitting that they are in the wrong.

If you don't say anything, she will eventually find out andask why you never said anything sooner.

Up to you which option you pick. Personally, woud prefer honesty.

Answer 9

i do feel sorry for u being in this situation,u say that your cousin means the world to u,im guessing that u have a real close relationship with each other,do u realy want this cheat to break ur friedship u have with one another,as hard as it sounds the best thing to do is tell her,she will very upset and most likley very angary to begin with,she dosen't deserve to be strung along by this looser,no disrepect to ur sister but she should find her own man. your cousin might at first b angry with u but will soon respect u for telling her the truth,if she finds out another way she will never forgive u for not telling her,put urself in her place as much as it would hurt u i think u would want to know,tell her gently and with as much compasion as possible, u will feel bad too but she is your cousin and u love her.she will be heartbroken but time is a healer and it will get easyer ,let her find a true man they r out there its just finding them thats hard,your sister will be angry too that you have grassed on her,but blood is thicker than water and she too will come around in the end,its a horrible situation for them to have put you in,whatever you decide to do goodluck with it. x

Answer 10

No matter how you say it you will break her heart. She will probably get angry at you and blame you at first simply because you are the bearer of bad news. But once she realises how badly he and your sister are treating her she will be glad that you were honest with her.
If you do it, make it when you to are alone and together, be very sympathetic and understanding and just say it as quickly as possible, dont drag it out, tell her the details afterwards

Answer 11

How do you tell her without breaking her heart?

Sorry; that's impossible. If she could hear that kind of news and NOT be devastated, you'd really need to wonder how much she cared about him.

Tell the boyfriend that the only way he can stop you from telling your cousin is to tell her himself. And follow through on this. Don't take anything from him about how he'll change his ways from here on out if only you'll keep his secret; he has already demonstrated he can't be trusted, and the only way he can demonstrate that he's willing to change is to own up to his past transgressions and take the consequences for them.