I'm getting married in September and my parents are paying for it. It's a small wedding (50-60 guests) and my mum has suddenly gone loopy about who she gets to invite. About a month ago we sat down and discussed who she wanted invited. I did as she wanted and suddenly it has all changed. She went mad as hell.
Is this common? I'd heard about bridezilla - but mother-zilla?
2007-01-12 01:25:07 · 13 answers · asked by Mango M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yea, don't worry about it! you need to let her know that this is your wedding and the decision has already been made!
2007-01-12 01:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by jacksonblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was totally calm and patient through the entire planning process. The problem came with his mother. She wanted to invite all these people and we said no. We paid for our entire wedding so we made all the decisions. I knew from the start that's how I wanted it to be. I didn't want someone else trying to put their spin on my wedding.
So yes, motherzilla's do happen. You just hear more about the bride going crazy than the mom's. Just be patient with her. Remember that this is a big moment in her life too. Her baby (you) is growing up and starting a new family. Granted she's gaining a son but it's not the same. After the wedding dust has settled she'll be back to normal. My M-I-L was the same. Now we get along great.
Good luck and Congrats!
2007-01-12 03:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by ziggyzp77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES there is such a thing as mother-zilla. My parents never had a formal wedding and now that I'm getting hitched my mother just freaks out when I say I don't want to invite certain people (her friends). Just tell your mum that you have already set a guest list but be kind to her, after all she is your mum!
2007-01-12 01:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My soon to be daughter in law and her Mother are in your shoes.
I f it was me, at this point, I would just run off and elope.
The Mother is bi-polar and talk about changes, she just keeps my future daughter in law upset.Mother isn't paying for the wedding so I don't know why she can't just calm down and let Barbara plan for what she can afford..
I have 2 daughters that got married. I stayed out of it but to answer your question I do think this is quite common. Would ruin it for me. Good Luck Honey !!~~~~Jill--USA
2007-01-12 05:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart-I cut my list off ABSOLUTELY at 56 and made it known. Our list is now up to 82! Thanks to the future m-i-l mostly. It happens. She hasn't gone mad; in fact she's as normal as can be. Try to roll with it if you can. If you can't for financial or space reasons, then you have to be firm and let her see the list, tell her who MUST be invited, and let her shave some off and add others if she feels her opinion of who has to be invited has changed since you started planning.
Good luck!
2007-01-12 01:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 01:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL.I don't mean to laugh but yes my dear it is very normal.If your parent's are paying for it let them invite the world.As long as you have invited all the people that you want then let her go crazy she may cut her list a bit when she adds thing's up.Good luck and congratulations.
2007-01-12 01:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is paying - so she feels like she has a right - and on a moral level she does (although it doesn't feel fair to you).
If you can't come to an agreement with her, then suggest that you take over the wedding costs.
Why is the
2007-01-12 02:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH YEAH there is such a thing! :)
Its crazy my mom did the same.except for the fact that HE AND I ARE PAYING FOR OUR WEDDING!..she wants to invite all her old friend and co-workers etc. HELLO its my wedding it should be my friends!
I hear you girl!!
Best of luck!
JG2B
2007-01-12 04:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by JAG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO, Momzillas are much more common than Bridezillas.
That is why I generally advise couples to pay for their wedding themselves these days.
2007-01-12 01:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very common. Weddings are very stressful for everyone. Just try to chill and don't say anything you may be sorry for later.
2007-01-12 02:00:52 · answer #11 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋