I want to sabotage my ex and I thought this feeling would go away with time and I thought I was feeling better about the situation but when I think about it sometimes it makes me so mad. Why would you stay with a woman youdon't love simply b/c you don't have the woman u love around and the relationship has been strained. Even though he said he really wanted to try and that he called crying about how much he missed me and then stay around the old bat knowing he don't love her and that she is worthless. He had a good woman who has been taking care of his son for over 9 years and he was too chickenshyt to work at it. He admitted he he was afraid b/c I would not trust him anymore but he gave me reason to. I want to sabotage him so bad just to mess with his mind. I know it is not the high road but I want to be even with him. What should I do?
2007-01-12 01:16:09 · 7 answers · asked by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all there's never really a right or wrong when it comes to your emotions. They are pure raw feelings. However, acting out on them just to hurt someone else(even if you feel justified in doing so) may not always be the best approach. Basically I can tell you that even if you do hurt his feelings and get revenge it isn't going to make how you're feeling change in the slightest. I know it seems like it but you arn't going to feel better all of a sudden just because now his feelings are hurt. You'll probably end up feeling worse in the long run. I would never think of denying you your feelings, but if I may offer advice for a better solution to them. The trick is not to attack cause that leaves you open for retaliation. Instead I suggest going for the sweetest vengence I've ever found. All you need to do is take care of yourself(forget about him) and work on getting to where it is you feel you want to be in life. While you do this (and patience is the key) he'll be stuck in his misery if not spiralling downward even further. Eventually he'll see you are doing awesome and he's doing terrible, and when that realization kicks in it's going to eat him alive from the inside. It's hard, but letting someone else shoot themself in the foot is so much more rewarding than any revenge you could ever extract yourself. The best part is you get to watch their self destruction and enjoy every minute of it without any feelings of remorse or guilt because all you were was an observer to the tragedy. Hang in there and give it some time and I promise it will all be worth it.
2007-01-12 01:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by Xander : Crimson Angel of Logic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feelings are ok; acting on some of them is unwise. I suspect you know that already. I think it's human to want to strike out when we're feeling hurt. But, what's the point? The only change you'll get is more loss, a black mark on your heart, and less respect for yourself.
I suggest two acts. One, set aside a block of time. Then write you ex a letter. Tell him every ornery thing you'd like to do to him, spell out how his actions affected you, and suggest the stinker burn in Hell. LOL Now, after you'd typed page 50, and you're emotionally drained, the second step is burn or tear up the letter. You must never send letters like that. You got out what you needed to, you'll feel more powerful, and remember, the best revenge is "LIVING WELL". Take care of yourself, get a new hair cut, do fun things, and by focusing on yourself, you'll find suddenly you aren't focused on him anymore. He's making his choice about a relationship. Right or wrong, you can't change him and shouldn't waste your precious time trying.
He'll simmer in envy that you aren't crying over him and have moved on and livin' well.
2007-01-12 01:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by metaphysical_kitten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think this over very carefully, you answered your own question, you said, I know it is not the high road, and that is so true, plotting to do something hurtful to another person is not in our best interest.
Please remember that how we treat others will come back to us. What we put out in the universe will return to us, you don't want bad karma in your life. You reap what you sow, and I believe that you want to reap only the best, that you want positive rewards in your life, for your sake, not his, be the bigger person, do not do anything.
Move on, as soon as you let him go, really get him out of your system, Mr Right will come along. By allowing thoughts of your ex to consume you, then you are blocking Mr. Rights path to you, put this malice behind you, and allow someone good to come into your life.
2007-01-12 01:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lottalady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong and it's okay to feel that but not okay to act on those feelings.
He sounds troubled and any contact with him would be detrimental to you.
2007-01-12 01:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get even is the best thing u can do it will show him that u know how to play his game to. So go for it.
2007-01-12 01:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by sweety_8620 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong but we are only human, sometimes you have to be the more mature person
2007-01-12 01:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure.. it is not intelligent and not humanly...
2007-01-12 01:24:58 · answer #7 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋