Do you think new mums should be given more financial support after having a baby so that they can stay at home longer? Most mums go back to work because they have bills to pay.
2007-01-12 01:12:04 · 23 answers · asked by swish 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
We waited until our kids were school-age (around 6 yrs old). It put quite a burden on our finances for awhile, but we wouldn't trade it for the world. the time we got to spend with our kids cannot be measured in monetary value.
2007-01-12 01:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Buckeye G 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Probably at about 20 to 22 years. The need you full time. No I don't think new mums should be given financial support so they can stay home longer. I think if mums are not able to sacrifice or afford to have children they should get their tubes tied or abstain from sex which ever is applicable for their situation. Of course the father should be responsible for the income. This should be planned before conception. If you had done this you would have been in the minority. Living up to ones responsibility is not an easy task. It can be done. I am a father and been married for 44 years. (Same wife) It has not been all roses. My wife did not work until the children were grown. I paid the bills and provided. My wife took care of the kids. It was done without any outside help. The result, adult children who are responciable. What a suprise. I fully realize this will not be a best answer because it is the truth, which is not always plesant. However the truth is always the truth.
2007-01-12 01:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by scallywag 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well of course it does depend on your workplace policy, where you live, if your provincial or state government offers parental leave and how long that is. It varies from country to country, even in some cases state to state or province to province.
And there are two sides to this issue. One of course is for the health and well being of the baby and the mums. Some babies are born preemies and therefore mums may need more time at home to bond and care for baby, after baby comes home from the hospital. There may be permanent issues around health that parents will have to deal with, so it's a wrench whether a baby is born disabled or able-bodied for mums to go back to work. There also may health related issues regarding mum is she experiencing postpartum depresssion. Then she may need treatment and it may be longer than what her parental leave is.
On the other hand , there are people who are doing the job that the new mum would normally be doing , perhaps on top of their work load or they've brought someone new in to replace her while she's on leave. These people , although thrilled for you about the baby probably want you to come back as soon as you can to ease the workload on them. And the new persons hired who may have just learned your job may be resentful when you come back in , and she's out of a job or transferred somewhere else.
Parental leave should be something you discuss with your employer even before you get pregnant and you should definitely check out all the monetary issues and their ramifications before even getting pregnant. Therefore the more information you have the better prepared you will be to decide whether or not you will return to work.
Some people say parents should be with the baby the first year of life , but other more realistic programs say the first three months. It's really up to you and your employer and your husband/boyfriend and his employer as dads can get parental leave now too. Maybe spell it off , whoever gets more stays home longer while the second spouse makes up the difference.
2007-01-12 01:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-01-16 06:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think that new mums should be given more financial support so they can stay with their babies longer. This will not only help the mother but also the children who are the future leaders of the world. Children are exposed to too much at a young age when a mother is not around.
2007-01-12 01:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
in my opinion its best to wait until the baby is at least 5 yrs old , this came up in my phsycology course in school too it showed a study done on mums returning to work and kids whose mums waited until they were 5 did better at school and where better adjusted,(5 used to be school starting age as that is now 3 perhaps its ok to go back when kids are 3) i waited til my son was 5 and found myself pregnant again so am still not back in work yet , but having worked for so long previous to my pregnancies i am still able to financially support myself at this moment
2007-01-16 11:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by 0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would like to be able to remain home with my children till they are 2-3 yrs old. i do think new mums should be given more financial support so they can stay home with their babies. i know many people who have stayed home with their children, its not been a change from normal life though as they live in council houses and off benefits, i was determined i would not live this kind of life and that any children of mine will have good role models as their parents, so, we saved up, we are married and own our own house, because of the drastic rises in house prices in the uk, although my husband has a well paid job there is no way we can afford for me to give up work and unfortunately when we do have children i will have to go back to work at least part time as soon as my maternity leave is up.
scallywag, unfortunately staying home with your children is a luxury open to few of us. not claiming benefits and not working are pretty much mutually exclusive, the only alternative would be not to have children, if this is your opinion you obviously dont think about the future much, many countries are already in trouble because like the uk they are ageing societies, people are having less children, mainly because of finances and the young population cannot support the massive elederly population, who do you think pays for your pension, your prescriptions and hospital vivsits?
as we grow up we put alot into society, it only seems fair that we get the best start in life and in my opinion that means having your mum at home with you for the first few years at least.
sorry about the rant but it really irritates me when people get on soapboxes about 'if you can't afford to have a baby then don't get pregnant' no one can really afford a baby and mistakes do happen.
2007-01-16 01:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by jen_82_m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for part time work about 6months or when the baby is weaned, best if the carer is the farther or another family member
i think a soci-economic structure that forces both parents to work full time is self destructive. it often good for a mother to have a life away from her baby befor they are 1 year old but i woulnd't want to be working full-time unless my partner was part-time
children of any age need love and care as much as food and drink
2007-01-16 13:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by amber 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my first I HAD to return to work, I took all the leave I could but still went back when my 1st was 5 1/2 mths old. It was awful, I really missed being home with her. The second child I stayed at home with. Our relationship is much closer than with my 1st and I think me being there all the time with the 2nd made a difference;
2007-01-12 01:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by huggz 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Swish,
This is a tough call. I think it depends on who will be watching the baby. I am a grandfather and I watch my son and daughter-in-laws baby every day. The baby gets the best of care and lots of love. If you have a similar case then I would say your cool, if not I would say stay off from work as long as you can.
TDCWH
2007-01-16 23:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by TDCWH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to think that 6 months is a perfecrly good age.
But in Denmark where I am from, woman can go on up to two years on maternity leave on their employer's expense. So maybe it's just me.
2007-01-16 03:58:05 · answer #11 · answered by Runeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋