We went out for 3 months and 4 days.
Yesterday I got a note saying "I fell out of love with you. I dont know why but I dont love you anymore. Im just trying to say its over. Im sorry." And I got it in 5th period when we were switching classes. And.. I read it and tried not to cry. I am in his 6th period class. I did not even glance at him. My bff krissi told me he kept looking at me when he sharpened his pencil. Then the bus came. Not many people were on it, so I just cried. And now it's one day later. I cant quit crying. Im glad that today is parent tchr confrnce day so i wont be seen crying at school. I cant quit crying. someone please help me. I cant move on. Usually im upand adam the second its over. But i still love him. :(
2007-01-12 00:58:29 · 27 answers · asked by Itsallaboutmehunni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will take a little time but you will move on. Spend time with friends and concentrate on your studies. You'll be amazed how quickly he will fade. Unfortunately this is just the beginning of heartbreaks. Wait until you are older and spend years with a man to find out he's cheating or gives up on you. This is a way to help you cope with the world you are about to step into. Be glad you get the chance to experience it young so when it happens later in life you can look back and say, I remember when I was younger and a guy I was dating just a few months broke up with me. Boy did I think my life was over then! If I only knew then what I know now. This will make you stronger, smarter, a better woman. I promise. Just don't ever let it make you bitter. You will end up with someone who loves you deeply, until then take the heartbreaks as tiny lessons in life and enjoy the happy times. Remember this saying, The beginnings are usually scary, the ending are sometimes sad but it's what is in the middle that counts. He's sorry he broke your heart, don't hate him. Be thankful he was kind enough to let you know, apologize and move on.
2007-01-12 01:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on is always difficult. If it is over then there is not much to do except to accept it. As for dealing with it that is another matter. What I suggest is to get your mind off of him and just let him go. What else can you do? I have been in the same situation many times and in fact I find myself in another right now. I cared for her and loved her but she doesn't love me. So I am trying to tell myself I deserve better. This is what you should tell yourself. Don't waste time on someone who doesn't love you or can't make up their mind about you. Look for someone who will love you for the person you are. Someone who will appreciate having you as a wonderful girlfriend. This is what I am doing and so should you. Of course, I am looking for someone who wants me as a lover for her so my situation is a little different in that respect.
2007-01-12 01:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course it hurts now. Unfortunately it is a part of life, you will be hurt for a while, but the hurt won't last forever. Keep yourself busy, keep your head up, please do not dwell on him, the main thing is to keep busy, with friends, activities, you'll be fine, and yes, I can understand that you still love him, just because he chose to end the relationship doesn't mean that your love is any less for him. But you will get through this, sooner than you think.
Good luck, my dear, and I know that you will soon be smiling again.
Just remember, it is his loss, he missed out on being with a great person.
2007-01-12 01:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lottalady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dated this guy for 3 months...you have strong feelings for him but in now way are you in love with this guy. Listen sweetheart, you are young and you will probably have a dozen more boyfriends before you find mr. right, now dry up those tears and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You already know that you need to move on, so begin doing so. Ignore the guy and you'll feel better once you find a new boyfriend.
2007-01-12 01:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN.....
Nothing is worth your valuable tears...
Usually Guys like that, who tell Gals upon breaking an intimate relation (DO NOT KNOW WHY.....) are simply finding their way out.
It is just a stupid excuse, because they have no valid reason...
They like to play around for some time and then, they don't give a dame...NOT CARING ABOUT A GIRL'S FEELINGS...
Dru up your tears dear, and live your life...
Just be yourself, and do not pay much of attention to him...
Look ahead and forget the past....
The easiest way to do it is to convince yourself he has travelled away in a ONE-WAY-TICKET...
Try to find a decent Gentleman to get you out of the misery you are choosing to put yourself in for NO REASON...
I advise you (for your own self)....get on with your life...
The very best thing about HUMANS is that they FORGET after some time, and they get bored being sad continuously...
When my dad passed away, I thought it was the end of the world and I thought my tears would never dry up, but nowadays I laugh when I need to....
Compatatively speaking....This is a SIMILAR SITUATION; since we are talking about human relations...
Take it E Z, and I'm sure TIME WILL heal your wounds...
2007-01-12 01:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl i know how u feel.. its not going to be easy to get over him n i kno in ur heart ur wishin that it was a mistake and that he changes his mind and says he wants u back but b real even if that happens u no u need someone better who knows wat they really want from you. time is the only thing that can mend a broken heart and crying is gonna come and come and keep on coming let it out trust me jus keep crying til u cant no more. dont try to move on too fast either take ur time and love ur self before u begin to love another man. also if u feel this strongly for this boy i think u should tlk to him about what happened cuz if u are in love with him its ok to look a lil crazy over him. but dont chase him be strong and trust me things will get better in time!!
2007-01-12 01:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need to move on. It won't be easy, but you have to get over him. Besides, he proved to be a coward, for he broke up with you in a letter, and didn't face you.
Don't read that letter anymore, and start going out with your friends (avoiding where he is). Maybe he will come to his senses and realize the beautiful person you are, and beg for your forgiveness. Hopefuly when he does that, you will be way over him and with someone who really value you as the great and beautiful person you are.
2007-01-12 01:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts to love someone and not be loved in return but trust me it would of hurt even more if he disregarded your feelings and moved on without telling you that it was over, he still considers your feelings. look on the bright side you might cry today but tomorrow will be better in other to move on we must first grieve go head have a good cry time heals all wounds best of luck in the future
2007-01-12 01:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by tease :-) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about the crying it is an expression of grief and perfectly natural.Time heals when you see him at school just smile and say hello .He may have a worry that you are unaware of or perhaps he is worried about the future and his exams.One day he may tell you keep the comminication channels open.Perhaps he feels you are both to young to commit to a permanant relationship .Lindsay Have Faith in your self.good luck.
2007-01-12 01:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont love some1 who dont love you, so the only thing to do is make yourself move on. Becuz its not worth thinking about it anymore, so just get something else in mind and be about that. You dont need some1 who falls out of love, becuz thats not what love is
2007-01-12 01:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by Wifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋