Me and my boyfriend have been together a year and a half now. His x girlfriend always messaged him for the first 8 months of our relationship. It stopped for a couple months and now it is starting up again. This one day he said he was going to the bar, he did go but 2 days later I sneaked his phone to see all his recent calls. One of them was just 15 minutes after he left to go to the bar. He keeps trying to hide all his messages, and deleting the ones that our bad I think. I have no trust at all between the two of them. I'm a single mom with a 16 mth old son, been divorced twice because of these trust issues, I know I'm always right, but in your opinion do you think he has two relationships going on?
2007-01-12 00:39:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my son is from my last marriage it is not his by the way. I live with him and can't get by without a roomate. What do I do.
2007-01-12 00:44:03 · update #1
babe i think he does. What NEED does he have to contact her? Childeren? Sorting out money issues. No? I think he is still hung up on her and experiencing the best of both worlds. Tell him you suspect and scare him by giving him a choise.
2007-01-12 00:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I am sorry to hear that. Sounds just like my ex husband. I wouldn't trust this guy as far as I could throw him. You are in a hard place right now and I know you aren't going to like what I have to say girl. Maybe you should take a break from him until he "comes clean." If he doesn't well you know he is just a big cheat and a liar. You have kids to think about and I don't want to see you get hurt any worse than you need to be. I know it would be bad now but just think how bad you would hurt if you wait longer and then broke up. I wish you all the luck in the world. If you need anyone to talk to you can message me on messenger since I know what you are going through. My SN is liz_giordani on yahoo.
2007-01-12 08:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by liz g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he has by the sound of it chicks! Kick him to the curb!! I'm a single mum to n he mite feel that you'll stick around coz you don't wanna b alone but don't let him. You deserve better so confront him about it n b honest about seeing the calls. You'll soon know if he has a guilty conscience. If he flips about you checkin his mes n call's tell him its only bcoz he has made you feel insecure! Good luck babe x x
2007-01-12 08:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were living by yourself or with a different room mate before you met this obvious loser/cheater.
He's got you, a single Mom for stability, while he's got his ex on the side for some side & fun nookie.
Kick his butt out, or quit crying about it on here.
2007-01-12 08:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I didn't read past your subject line...exactly how do you expect to stop him? Does he "let" you do things or do you do as you desire because you are an adult who makes her own choices?
We don't "let" our partners do things....we have no control over that...that's for our kids, not our equals.
If you don't like what he's doing discuss it with him...if his reaction doesn't suit you then perhaps the two of you are not a good match.
2007-01-12 08:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to drop him, The same thing happened to me and he was cheating. I think secretly he still loves the X and he loves you to but he don't want to choose between the two so he is doing both of you. Drop him down. Don't let him do this to you.
2007-01-12 08:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had no right snooping into his private phone logs. You deserve what you get, which more than likely in this case (as in your past marriages) will be dumped. I suggest you seek counseling for your problems otherwise ALL of your relationships will be like this and that sort of life is not good for your child.
2007-01-12 08:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is cheating. But maybe he is just friends with this girl (I remain friends with most of my exs) and wants to be friends with her. If he knows that you object to his seeing her, this might explain why he keeps it from you. By the way, if his motives are proper, you have no right to prevent him from seeing her as a friends. If you went into my phone, by the way, I'd be livid.
2007-01-12 08:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he's just being friends with his ex. But it's kinda fishy that he's trying to hide things from u. U should confront him
2007-01-12 08:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by Rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have been divorce twice then your not looking for answer your looking for someone out of your circle to say move on and that's what you should do
2007-01-12 08:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by TOSCHA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋