who agrees that smacking your kids is the right thing 2 do when they r wrong?

Question

i believe that hitting your kids is right because u have to show the child who's boss and if you dont show discipline to your kids they will end up walking all over you

Answer 1

No!! when they do something wrong, you talk to them. Make sure you don't sound angry or mad and they'll be more honest with you, since they know that they're safe and that you always support them and correct what they did wrong. I've studied psychology a little and know for a fact that by punishing your kids, they're more likely to be rebellious towards you when they grow up. They're also more likely to commit crimes as they usually take out their anger to other people. Not that i'm trying to scare you about what you do to your kids, but i just don't recommend hitting your kids. Physical punishment is a last resort when you've tried to communicate with your kids but does not listen. Remember that you have to do this as early as possible because talking to them calmly in their teenage years won't work

Answer 2

I agree with smacking (not hard) but enough to let them know what they are doing is wrong, when all else fails. If yelling at them and having a authoritive voice doesn't work then yes I beleive that spankings should be in place. If you don't take control then you are going to have a spoiled rotten child who wants and does everything they want. I have heard many people talking to there children calmly about what they are doing but does it work? NO!! Talking to them like their adults isn't going to work the kids just look at you and laugh. If you feel that your child/children are in need of a spanking then by all means do it. They are your kids so you do what you feel is best.

Answer 3

First of all, smacking your kid is wrong. Now if you mean discipline and punishment, like a spanking, that's OK in my opinion. there is a huge difference between smacking and spanking. My husband had three kids when we married, all who were raised with discipline and spankings. I had two kids who were raised the same way. now together we have a three year old, whom he wont let me spank. she is the "boss" of the house and is a spoiled brat and not a very good kid. so in my own house there is an example of both ways. so i say yes... spanking as a form of punishment or discipline works alot better then not.

Answer 4

I believe spanking you kids is alright but it certainly should not be used as the only method of discipline. If you don't discipline your children, they do end up walking all over you. My nephew gets spanked when he misbehaves and only when other forms of discipline have failed. I have to say, he's a great kid. Well mannered and respectful. My step-son, however, doesn't get spanked by anyone but his father (his mother won't spake him). His mother's idea of discipline is talking and explaining why what he did was wrong. Since he doesn't get real discipline, he is out of control. He's rude and abusive. I believe if there are no negative consequences to bad behavior, the kids do end up walking all over you.

Answer 5

To some degree, the main thing is never take out anger on a child, then it becomes abuse. It's no different than training a dog, you don't want to give them "negative reward" when they are just doing things to get your attention. And your punishment is to discourage them. In otherwords they should fear discipline but not have to recieve it more than once to remember it. I had a nephew in the habit of biting people on the backside of the leg, I backswatted him with my hand across the face and he never bit anyone but his mother after that, because she didn't believe in hitting a child. And to be honest it was a reflex, I never thought twice about it, because when I was his age I would have got booted across the room for that or felt the bite of a leather belt.

Answer 6

IF you talking about Hitting and smacking the rear end ,than that is spanking, NOT hitting. All the people who call spanking hitting,dont know what their talking about. there IS a difference. If you are talking about hitting with your hand,or fist on any other part of the body,or even spanking the rear too hard,I beleive that is abuse. AND only after the child is lovingly taught by example,and with words about the particular action. Then if your sure he/she is doing the action knowing he/she is wrong,and UNDERSTANDS his own actions,than the spanking,or other punishments like taking away priviladges,and FOLOWWING thru makes a big difference. ALSo HOW you speak to the child makes a huge difference. I strongly believe in spanking.but also beleive you need to speak,and act lovingly ,and give them plenty of attention,and affection the rest of the time. a lot people,books,etc..will say spanking teaches the kids that the bigger one who hits,is right,..WRONG!!! it DOES keep them from walking all over you. If you want respect,and not fear,please be loving before,during,and after doing it,becuase a lot of kids that are physicaly abused only fear the parent,and will act out,and become worse,instead of better. One of my parents was physicaly abusive and the other very loving,(still spanked tho),taught by example,taught by words,and taking the time to explane things out,etc...So i got both worlds. I have two sisters. One turned out perfect because by the time she was born,she was not abused. the other was raised like me. I had problems in the beginning,but turned out fine. She on the other hand has major emotional and mental problems,and has man issues. because it was NOT spanking,it was salpping the face,punching the body,kicking the body down on the ground,beating the body,etc...THAT is hitting(and abuse),and the fastest way to screw your kid up! I had a little bit of that and it made me angry and lash out. Every time I hear a child crying,or a parent even yelling at their child,it gets my adrenalin running,and I feel my body go into fight mode,I feel like hurting someone myself. But I dont,I know that is just part of my post traumatic stress . But i still believe in loving,controlled spanking. that does work.

Answer 7

I have problems with the either-or thinking. *Either* you use your kids for a punching bag, *or* you don't discipline them at all. These are two extremes. Physical punishment is fine and dandy when used appropriately, but it can be overdone, misused, etc. without even getting into the question of child abuse.

It's been said that "If all you have is a hammer, all you can do is hit." Yes, you need other tools in the tool box. But the hammer IS one of them.

Answer 8

I agree to an extent. I grew up with being smacked for doing wrong and theres nothing wrong with me. I think discipline is what kids need these days. My mother only smacked our butts, and it was only when we did wrong. Nobody wants to get a good whooping, so of course we learnt quickly to be good. I thinking smacking the butt is perfectly fine, as long as its not abusive. I feel that punishment in the form of smacking has more affect on a child then just putting them in time out. Time out works, but as they get older, who puts a 13 year old in the corner for time out when they just got caught smoking, or doing drugs, or drinking, stealing, taking a joyride in your car, swearing at an adult, or whatever these teens do these days. TIme out at that age is just not effective, I mean come on, you just found out your child stole your car and took it for a joy ride, do you honestly think 10 minutes in time out is showing them they did wrong? Ok ground them, but thats still not even effective. A good A$$ whooping shows them they truly did wrong, and they learn quick, cause nobody wants to feel that again.

Answer 9

I guess I'm the only one here who thinks smacking your kid is wrong. Why would anyone want their kids to fear them? I'll never understand it. In my opinion it's just lazy parenting - your kids do something wrong, so just smack them. I don't get it. I have 2 kids that are respectful, polite, all around great kids that have never been smacked. But to each their own I guess.

Answer 10

To a point, yes. Always try alternative methods first, such as communication, removing privileges, grounding, etc. But there is a time & a place for a good smack on the butt. My parents found that time & place frequently when I was growing up and I'm as good a citizen as any, and better than many who were coddled & spoiled by their parents.