We all reach an age where ,whether you believe in God or not, you become sexually minded. What are some was you guard yourself from this? What do you think people have the most difficulty with this? And...if you're willing to answer...have you ever had sex before marriage? If yes, Do you regret it?Why?
2007-01-11 23:36:34 · 13 answers · asked by none 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is just a question that I, as a christian, wants to know. I am still a virgin. In my Class at church, we're all reading about how to guard our hearts, mind, body and souls.
2007-01-11 23:55:20 · update #1
The Apostle wrote to Timothy in 1 Tim 2:22 Flee from youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. The way to avoid any sexual engagement is not to put yourself in any compromising position. Go out in groups. Do not be alone with a guy in a secluded place be in the open. Please God and your spouse to be by having sex only after marriage. If any boy respects you he will help you obey God and have the pleasure of sex without regrets or worse calamities. God's way is always the best.
2007-01-12 00:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by seekfind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex before marriage and I can't say it was a very fulfilling experience. God meant sex to be shared within the bounds of marriage so that you are satisfied physically AND emotionally, not just one or the other. Sex outside of marriage only allows you to be fulfilled physically, because you have no emotional connection to that person. Mainly because there's ALWAYS the chance that you will break up or the other person will just defect from the relationship. Marriage is a more lasting relationship, meant to be forever. Not to mention the fact that it's horrid when you are torn away from a sexual partner, it hurts deep down because you shared something so intimate with them. That's why alot of women will tell you that they felt dirty/unclean/disgusting after having sex with someone they didn't love or have any intention of marrying. Virginity is LITERALLY only a ONE time thing. You can be like the rest of the non-virgins out there in any moment you choose, but they can never be like you again.
2007-01-12 07:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe the crap that others will tell you. There will be a time that you regret sex before marriage. If you are asking the question you already know you will, but you're looking for an excuse. Think about all the issues could arise also: unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, relational breakdowns. If there is a guy that you like and he's not willing to be your friend without sex, he's not worth it.
2007-01-12 07:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by ctrl-alt-delete 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all have sexual urges especailly at an age where our bodies start to mature but that is also when our brain starts to mature if you belive in God then I will tell you that it is satan trying to pull you to him he doesn't want you to follow Jesus, the best way to handle this is to know where those thoughts are coming from and when they come ask Jesus to take them form you. I think people have a hard time with this because the feelings come stronger as we age, you also have to remember that in the Bilbe days they were getting married by 14 and because we don't do that anymore it is harder for us. and yes I had sex before marriage and yes I regret it because i ended up divorced because at a young age I thought I new the answers to everything and we were going to beat the odds but that didn't happen. I stuggled to raise the three children I had they are grown and I love them but I think my life would have smoother if I had stayed a virgin till i was married.
2007-01-12 07:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mary B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should find yourself a husband if sex is on your mind a lot.
How do you guard yourself from thinking all kinds of strange thoughts? We are to fill our minds with the word of God found only the Holy Bible. 2co 10:5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
Many Christians start their day with just a little prayer like this,"Lord thank you for everything, be with me today, amen" and think all will be find. We need to start with a sincere prayer and read God's word before anything else.
Knowing God's word will help you to know what to do when wrong thoughts come into your mind. As soon as a wrong thought comes into your mind stop it, don't think on it for a second. Start thinking pure thoughts, like what heaven will be like, and pray for help with whatever is trying to enter your mind.
Remember 2co 10:5 by heart, We don't have to let thoughts run wild in our minds, we can bring every thought into captivity like the verse says, to the obedience of Christ.
Hope this helps
2007-01-12 08:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in a relationship and I have to say that waiting until marriage is really hard. I have recently come to Christ in 2005. I was previously married and my ex husband and I lived together for a year before getting married. I think that most people have difficulty with waiting until marriage because of how much sex is thrown in our faces on a daily basis. Every where we turn there is some indication of sex - whether it is on the radio, tv, or magazine - even here on the internet. I had sex before marriage and knew it was wrong but gave into my own urges but now that I am walking in Christ - my boyfriend and I have made the decision to wait until we are married - this is not easy but we have put God in the front, middle and end of our relationship and through Christ we are making it. Our focus is on the Lord and then us. I reqret having sex before getting married as I value myself more now than ever before - I am special and my body is a temple for the Lord - so giving in to those things that are against the Lord makes me feel unclean and truly unfit to call on His name. I thank God for forgiving me for my sins and all that I have done and I pray that I will continue to follow His commandments. I am thankful to the Lord that I am able to call on Him when the moments are close and when we are fighting our urges - I thank God for a man who believes that marriage is the only place for sexual relations. I truly wish that to this day I was still a virgin!! I tell all that astill are to remain so until marriage!! God Bless!!!
2007-01-12 08:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by alissalynne_2000 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No I did not. When I was young, I am 52, Sex was taboo before marriage, You could not even talk about it Heard of shotgun weddings many happened in the 50s, 60s and even 70s
God Bless You
2007-01-12 07:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Trying to stay free from all the sexual....brainwashing, of this world is hard.
But your actions are dependent on your thoughts so I try to keep my thoughts pure too. That means nipping any stray thought off at the bud before it escalates. That also means trying to stay away from whatever might fuel fire too.
2007-01-12 07:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sudy Nim 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you feel ready then you should and you should let it be a pleasureable experience and yes i have had sex before marrigde and the only regrets i have is who i did it with i think that my choice of man wasnt the best so now i value myself more what bout you
2007-01-12 07:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The dictionary is the only place that marriage comes before sex any more
2007-01-12 07:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ghost Wolf 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋