ok me and my girlfriend split about 3 months ago and we still talk but this week she has called me every day and she is dating this guy but she calls me and she ask me the other night t not fall in love with anyone and i ask her to see me and she says she cant cause she knows we will have sex and she says she loves me but then turns around and says oh i didnt mean it but she told the guy she dates that i am her best friend and she needs me. she gets upset about me beung with other girls i mean dating them and she says you know if i told you i wanted to get back together you would cause i control you and when i tell her she doesnt she is like yea yea you know i do and i told her you want to be able to control me and you want me to still love you and she says yes she does and im so confused cause i dont know where she is coming from and just quiet how to take all this i mean does she still love me or whats her game i need answers please. does she want us back? help we dated for 3 years
2007-01-11 22:45:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She wants to keep you around in case things with this other guy don't work out. Leave this girl alone and find some one who will treat you with respect because this girl has none fo you.
2007-01-11 22:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you know what you have to do.... If someone told me that "they controlled me" I would be SEE YA ! I can understand that you were together for a long time but the fact that she is playing mind games with you whilst being with another guy is the answer in itself. I think you need to block her out of your life for a while and concentrate on you and what you want..... At the moment I dont see you both getting back together because no person would treat the person they love the same way she is.
Start a fresh !!! Meet new people and have fun with your real friends !!!
2007-01-12 06:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ehlana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ll tell u something..these girls are always very confused n they r always into this habit of confusing others..I am sure she still loves u, there is no doubts coz she doesnt like u dating n all..but she doesnt herself want to accept this very fact that she loves u..she is trying hard to stay in another relationship but definitely cannot take u off her mind..n dont think of she coming back or something..just stay the way you are..do not make any move from your side..just let things be..i m sure it will help..n u never know she might not even come back coz she is soooooooo confused n so r u..i know u guys dated for 3 years but still just stay calm n i m sure things will be fine!
2007-01-12 06:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by cool one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay...I'm sorry that you're having to go through this, but you need to try to get your space for a while. She's bouncing back and forth between the two of you...and she tries to CONTROL you. That is never a good quality that you look for in a girl. People on the bad side (you) of a controlling relationship will be unhappy. No, I don't believe she wants the two of you back- but she doesn't want to let another girl possibly take your attention. She enjoys the power, and possibly can't get that from her new man.
2007-01-12 06:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only answer is that you are still so tangled in each other's life, that you can't find a way out. Oh, and your feelings for each other aren't gone, either. But seems to me she's being selfish and mean by saying those things to you, like 'I control you'. At first I thought she still might be having feelings for you, but I think she's just playing with you (like a cat would play with a mouse).
2007-01-12 07:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez mate what are you a friggin robot ? she's pissin in yer pocket, she's happy as long as she knows she's still callin the shots about what you do women wise. LOVE you ?? mate in high probability she never did to start with or if she did it didnt last nowhere near the 3 yrs. seems like a classic case of she's not quite sure how things will pan out with the other dude and wants you as backup when the sh^t hits the fan " and that'l be VERY temporary, most likely...
anyway pal it's YOUR life YOUR decision. personally i'd have told her to F off .
2007-01-12 07:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by aerobatic22405 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense dude, but she sounds like a manipulative *****. Why would you wanna be with her?
OK, I'm assuming that she broke up with you, so if you don't want her controlling your life forever, here are some things you can do: Set some boundaries! Write to her and tell her that since you are broken up, she doesn't run your life, and you'll do exactly what you want to do. Give her set times to contact you. Put yourself in charge. Tell her if she wants to get back together, to tell you, and YOU'LL decide whether or not to get back together with her. But once you've set those boundaries, you've got to stick with them. If I were you, I get to going out with as many females as possible, even if it's just as friends having fun. You'll soon see that there are heaps of girls out there who will respect you and not manipulate you just to get a power trip.
GO OUT AND HAVE FUN!!!
2007-01-12 07:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by perthboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a long time and you obviously share alot but it seems like this girl is really confused. she wants other relationships but is probably finding it hard to let go of all you two shared. you need to talk to her and ask her whats going on. its unfair for her to keep you hanging around without knowing whats going to happen. you deserve more than that. if she still doesnt know what she wants then you make the decision and move on with your life
2007-01-12 06:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same kinda boat, and just like me you really need to walk away. But as for the rest, she probley does love you but she so messed in the head! she trying to chase you away, but when ever you go she reaches back, you need to take a week or two away from her and get your head straight, if this is who you want to be with, and if she comes back, get her to both types of doctors, head and body, but you cant let her walk all over you, cuz thats what she is doing
2007-01-12 07:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girl sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. How healthy does it sound that a girl wants to break up with you but still be entirely in your business without contact and get to see and sleep with whoever she wants. I can tell that you love her, the problem is she is too in love with herself to reciprocate that love. It's going to be hard but man up and cut her off for your own sake. You deserve better. Nobody, and I mean nobody that truely loves you will make you go through this.
2007-01-12 06:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by lustful TR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋