i am developing feelings for my friend with benefits but can;t tell him?

Question

I have known my friend for a year now and i am developing feelings for him but can;t get up the nerve to tell him. How do i approach him with theses feelings without losing my friend

Answer 1

From someone who has been there the advice I would give you is this: I am not trying to offend you, I just want to give an honest answer!
Friends with benefits is so hard and complicated. It simply means this: Your having sex with this person for fun. It' s a no strings attached booty. Meaning he can call you for sex and you can call him. He doesn't have to worry about you getting too emotional and attached to him, or worrying about you getting jelous if he hangs out with girls or his guys. Now, going into this, you should have known that.
Personally, I would not tell him, unless your ready to give up a friend. Guys go into this "friends with benefits" so that don't cant give the title "girlfriend". Basically, if he wanted to be in a real relationship I think that he would come forth first.
Now, if I were you, I would stop having sex with him before you really start to get confused and emotionally attached. If he asks why you guys cant have sex anymore, simply say "I am getting feelings for you that I dont want to have." Then if he asks you "Why didnt you tell me sooner, because I like you too," or something of that nature, then you know he has feelings for you to, but if he is just like "Ok thats cool," Thats him giving you the polite turndown!
Good Luck!

Answer 2

I had a best friend of 7 years and we did not have benfits, two years ago i finally admitted to him how i felt for him i had actually loved him for several years but was afraid to tell him because i did not want to loss him as my friend.
One night we where out on the town having drinks and i told him how i felt about him, we started a relationship and i moved in with him and now two years later we do not even talk, There where things i did not even know about him girls that i did not even know he was seeing in another county, Things happen for a reason i know but i have wish a hundred times, i would of kept my secret to my self,
I miss my best friend and i miss the guy that i love, but he just did not feel that way and i guess maybe he was hoping he would, He hurt me many times broke my arms and so on. So be careful of what you think you might know about this guy, Even tho you are the best of friends they could have a secret you do not know about, So it will be up to you do you want to risk it or not?

Answer 3

Don't fool yourself my dear, having a friend with benefits, is a huge lie. If friends with benefits mean what i think it means, which is friends for sex, then i stand corrected. sex belongs to only married couples, because the pleasure consumed by those who practice it, is something sacred, and should be shared by special people. Now you girls use the word, 'friends with benefits just to ensure that he's in that zone, since you don't want to friend-zone him, and don't want to be his boyfriend. YOU'RE FRIKING MEAN!!!!!! THAT'S WORSE THAN A FRIEND ZONE, Guys don't like that, even though it's for the sex.... at least decent guys will not tolerate that for much longer. Listen, you develop feelings for him simply because you've had sex with him, and those feelings you experience, are the feelings you experience with your husband. Forgive me dear, but guys never marry girls that they have slept with. Guys want to enjoy their marriage, with new-borns...... so, to answer your question, you need to summon up courage and tell him, and even if you don't, the feelings will over cloud you, you just can't think of anything else. So be careful what you do to yourself

Answer 4

You should have known that it will come to this!And honestly,he should have known himself....he is probably just waiting for you to say the word.Im not saying he is looking forward to hearing you confess your true feelings,and im not saying that he will run when he gets just a hint of what you about to say.Do what you feel is best...follow your heart,you never know where it might lead.
One tip though....if his close friends know about you and him and you guys go out in public together,then its a good sign.If he only sees you when no one is around,then thats a very bad sign.Good luck!

Answer 5

Honestly, if hes been a friend with bennies over the last year, he probably has other friends with bennies... but thats OK..... Just tell him hey I wanna know if your interested in seeing each other as more than our quick flings... If he tells you no dont worry, let things simmer down a couple days and everything will be ok I promise... Thats just how men work:)

Answer 6

Very very carefully. Ask him to tell you what he thinks of you. If he hints around that he has some sort of feelings I would go for it. If it is on a friendly basis I would wait a little longer.

Answer 7

i imagine he has emotions for you. maximum adult adult males wont smash their plans with their "boys". they are going to attempt to make new ones with you later. if he drove 2 hours in simple terms to work out you, that tells you proper there that he likes you. now the in effortless words question is, what are you going to do about it?

Answer 8

Just tell him

Answer 9

have that courage to continue....