I've met someone new, should i tell him that?

Question

I'm going to break up with my bf, i know everyone says tell the truth but should i when the truth is i've met someone new?

I realised i had to break up when i just couldnt stop thinking about the other person, and that it wasnt an attraction but something more. I realised i just didn't love my bf anymore (we have been seeing each other since july).

Thanks
xxx

Answer 1

This happened to me, it really screwed me up, i never trusted a girl for 4 1/2 years.
i hope u dont break his heart, but u must b honest with him, as he will find out the truth eventually.

Answer 2

hi there,wow what a difficult situation for u to be in,i think there are some questions u should ask urself before u go ahead with telling him anything,if u really lost ur boyfriend would you realy be happy. there is a saying that goes,you don't know what u have got untill it has gone,if u tell him and then realize u have made a mistake would he take u back,if he done that to u would u take him back, is this new person u met 100% will he defenatly stay with u if u break up with ur bf, the fact that u have alredy met this guy and been seeing him for so long is going to devistate ur bf,if u realy feel that the decsion to leave him is right, the easyist way i think is not to tell him about the new man,can't u and ur bf try and sort things out,has ur new man got somthing better than ur boyfriend,is there a reson u went looking for another person,or maybe u dident go looking,im not a profesional, but do think first
i know u cant stop thinking about this new man but is thinking as much of u,whatever u decide to do,goodluck

Answer 3

Good for you for deciding you want to be with this other guy and wanting to be honest with your current boyfriend. I agree that being honest is always best if you can be but that doesn't mean you can't be selective.

Maybe you could tell him you don't love him anymore and that you want to break up without mentioning the other guy? Only you know him and know how best to tell him. Don't tell him about this other person to make him feel bad but if it will help him understand maybe it would be a good thing?

Good luck and just be clear and honest. He will be upset and potentially hurt but less so than if you string him along knowing that is not what you want. x

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Answer 4

Sometimes the truth is best sometimes it isn't, all depends on the circumstances. If you think that telling your boyfreind the truth may actually hurt him much more than may be ommiting a part, then prehapes you should keep that bit to one side. The fact is if you like someone else you are not in love with your B/F so one way or another you would have broken up, the fact you met someone else, simply speeded things up.

Answer 5

im soooo in the same situ. I have been with my bf for 2 years and have met someone else. I broke up with him yesterday my bf was so upset please spare him the heartache and keep this one to your self. Do not broadcast your relationship yet lay low for a bit let the wound start to heal and then let people no you have a new bf. Imagine if your bf said i want to split up as iv found some one else hoe betrayed would you feel. Dont tell him keep it as clean and painless as poss

Answer 6

Its crappy enough to break up with someone. Telling them you have someone new is rubbing their nose in it a bit. Just say its not working, you don't have the right feelings and you don't want to date anymore. Firm, kind etc. He will ask why - tell him that although he is a wonderful person, the feelings have just disappeared and you don't know why. I always dumped people the way I would have liked it done to me!

Answer 7

Well, if you're going to break up with him, do it. Don't tell your new friend that you're going to and then wait to do it. It's not fair to you BF now. But if you run from man to man everytime you meet someone that you find attractive then you will constantly be doing that, and it may lead to you cheating one day. Just be considerate of the person you are with.

Answer 8

I just had my heart broken on New years eve. It really does hurt and still can't stop thinking about it. I hope he will take it better than I have.

But yeah definately tell the truth. Not knowing why they've been dumped hurts just as much so you may as well tell him.

Answer 9

Only since July, give the guy a break, if you don't love him, just tell him, do you love this new guy? or you ganna gave him up when some things better come along? make up your mind, about what you want and stick to it like glue

Answer 10

Sometimes the truth hurts. I think it's important to be truthful but also be compassionate. Don't hurt him more than he needs to be hurt. Will he benefit from knowing that you're with someone else? If you're going to try and be friends or think he will hear from someone else then maybe tell him cause it is better to hear from you, but otherwise I don't see why you need to