how can i turn my bf on... more with out. actually having sex with him yet? because im not ready. but it really seems to bug him.. that we havent had sex yet. we've been together for 2 years... what are some suggestions to turn him on? and keep him happy?
2007-01-11 22:20:31 · 19 answers · asked by Daniellex3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
who plays with fire will get burnt...
waking up the monster might lead to sex
2007-01-11 22:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! You poor thing! I've been there --and most other women. We have more to loose than men do when it comes to sex.. Most guys are always turned on. They seem to let that urge over power their brain and what hurts us. The more you turn him on he will think you are teasing him and being mean. You are best to keep to your morals and prove to him that you are something special to wait for. Don't let him think he can break your resolve. Even if he gets mad and leaves, he will either come back or realize he made a big mistake. Men are like puppies when it comes to sex. They are not thinking straight. STD's AIDS, all kinds of emotions stirring up are the reality. A few minutes of fun isn't worth the chance men take with our bodies. If they really loved us, it seems that they would protect our honor and our health. So sad! Pray that God gives you strength and keep strong. Try to stay around parents or others. When you are alone it is a harder problem. Let him know that you deserve respect and that you are trying to protect your relationship. If you are thinking that anal or oral sex will be a better alternative, it won't. It still is sex and you can pick up STD's the same way.and sometimes worse. The more you give him the more he will want. Men try to get all they can get. Pretty soon you will find that all he wants is to be pleasured. Then a woman feels used. It's the way the world is. These are such hard yrs for a girl with morals. A woman needs a man to talk to them, security, and sweet words and a guy wants good food, sex and a girl to shut up once in a while. Good luck sweet girl and I will pray for you!
2007-01-12 06:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by belladmma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you are comfortable in doing,,, Is there a reason that is stopping you from having sex with him? Being with someone for a lenghty time involves a lot of trust and it seems that you man is just frustrated. If you are not ready then stand your ground.
To answer the "turning him on" ... you have to maybe change it to "pleasuring him"... as turning him on will only make him want to have sex more. Perhaps a nice massage with candles.... or I am taking it you are an adult.... perhaps oral sex may be something you both can look into until your ready..... If you are only a teenager than do only what YOU feel is ok
Good luck
2007-01-12 06:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ehlana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree perfectly with Lori cause if you turn him on, definately he will be driven to have sex with you, it's in every men's nature. And it will be a nasty thing towards him to turn him on and when things are going to follow you will stop him from keep going. So the only thing you can do to keep him happy is by telling him that you don't want to have sex at the moment and care for him and show him that you love him. Love someone doesn't mean have sex with him either.
Good Luck hun and hope this helps
2007-01-12 06:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
If you are over 18. Then why have a bf without sex?
If you are under 18, Don't turn on sexy with a boy/man until you are ready to have sex.
If you are waiting for marriage then say so, and no acting sexy with him. It isn't the correct way to behave.
2007-01-12 06:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're not comfortable with sex yet then dont even think about it. Sex should be a comfortable experience. If your bf cant accept that then tell him to move on.
Now there is a such thing as dry humping. Give that a try if you have to.
2007-01-12 06:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by Darktania 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turning him on doesn't seem to be the issue. Quite frankly, if you aren't ready for sex, perhaps you shouldn't be trying to "turn him on". That will only cause frustration. Perhaps you should concentrate, instead, on being there when he needs you and showing him loving (rather than simply sexual) affection.
2007-01-12 06:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
according to x president Clinton we can all ask Monica. He never had sex with her but, what was that stain on her dress. That would make you bf happy to discuss this.
2007-01-12 06:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by someones sister 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that must be something wrong with your relationship! You should ask yourself why you are not ready have sex with him because you're not really love him and why he dont even discuss about this problem. It's very weird because 2 of U are together 2 years without sex........Honestly, I think your relationship with him won't be longer..................
2007-01-12 06:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by JY2002 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You want to turn him 'ON' for what? Singing? Then buy a good music system. Laugh? Buy some comedy CDs.
Puuuuh
2007-01-12 06:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋