so yea, its to my high school sweetheart, but she now has a child that is not mine, but i dont mind that at all, cuz i believe i can be a real man, unlike her real dad who ran away from it....anyways, im just 20, and if i get married, i wont get to do all the turnin 21 fun, and parties and all that good stuff...but i do love this girl and her daughter....is marriage worth giving up your freedom?
2007-01-11 21:33:21 · 15 answers · asked by Mr. Right 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are still active military, nope, dont get married til you are out of service. if you loved her enough to marry her, then you wouldnt need to ask. take your time, you can still be with her, without the marriage certificate. why rush it? take your time and grown up.
im glad that you are responsible as far as the child goes, but you are still too young also.
dont get married cause of the child, get married cause you love your gf.
2007-01-11 21:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by sharma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why won't you be able to go out and have fun just because you are married? It is not a life sentence! You can still go out and socialise *shock* even go out with your new wife! But it will require more planning than you are used to i.e. Babysitters etc. There is no reason at all why you can't have a 21st party. It might not be the bash you were expecting but that is not to say it won't be a giggle. Or why not have 2 parties, one with the lads and another with your family?
If you have not thought about these possibilities then imho you are too young to be getting married.
2007-01-11 21:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are too young to get married,why burden yourself with a woman and a child that is not even yours. Don't do it. She is probably pressuring you to get married so she has someone to take care of her and her daughter,lame excuse,and selfish on her part.
Besides what will you do when the father of your girlfriend shows up at the door when he finds out that you are her father now,and will your girlfriend still fall for him again,and leave you there with nothing? ...believe me you are asking for trouble.
You are too young,and there are many women your age that does not have that burden with them and you can start fresh with a nice woman.
My advice to you would be to go to college and if the feelings are still there after college,then you will be able to make a better decision in 4 years..but not at 20 years old.
2007-01-11 21:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I second the others who say the makeup makes you seem older. also, per chance some human beings assume you're older because you've a son. some human beings do exactly not comprehend that there are 20 12 months-previous moms and dads interior the international. Heck, i'm 27, and that i at times nonetheless catch myself taking under consideration all moms and dads as being older than i'm, at the same time as there truly are human beings my age and youthful who've little ones. yet yeah, in case you tone it down on the makeup, you'll likely seem youthful.
2016-11-23 13:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you be there for her and her child without getting married. 1 or 2 years of this approach will tell you volumes regarding your question: Im only 20 and thinking about getting married.......advice from everyone!?
Take your time, life goes on for a very long long time.
2007-01-11 21:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your kind enough to be a man once u have the guts to be father.well when comes to real life there comes a challenge,as ur scarifies fr few things needed at the same time a burden might feel u lack of having fun guys at ur age, if u overcome that ur a hero!then bout ur family ties must be overcome as u now independent u will have no problem for staying in ur own sweet home,so totally ur brave enough to "yes i do", now u must be prepare for taking care of the two whom gonna starts ur new life and ends ur bachelor life.i personally agree for u to get married now, with a condition with a job and ur parents blessings!!!
2007-01-11 21:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by reeve mathew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend a long engagement--maybe two years.
Giving up your freedom sounds cool until you've done it. Take some time and think about this matter. If it's what you want then commit to it. Otherwise finish being a kid.
You'll never be 20 again.
2007-01-11 21:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first: freedom has nothing to do with getting or not getting married - it's a state of mind.
second: i am 33 and i am glad i didn't marry my highschool sweety. i am glad i didn't miss all the fun between 20 and 30. i start getting 'readyier' for marriage now.
but that is me. i am not to judge you for what you want to do.
experience your life your way...
all the best anyway
2007-01-11 21:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by 42 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think getting married is the best thing to do.. (right now that is..) you're still young and you can experience more things in life that are worth experiencing.. :) sure you can marry this girl, but also, think of what might be the possible outcomes of this.. :)
2007-01-11 21:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by jammy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love and kids is a wonderful gift from god if i was in your shoes i would say hell with freedom and go for the person i love and the kid i love...but if u really not in love with the girl and u just think you are then freedom is a good thing to have..
2007-01-11 21:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie_abbas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋