me and my bf split up for good last week, i always thought we were just gona have a bit of time apart n then get back. i was really missing him so a few days ago i drove to his house to see him and he let me in and said we defo cant b together no more. but he grabbed my hand and took me upstairs. i was cryin so much cos i cant imagine my life without him. but i was tryin to talk to him as i didnt want to go round for sex, but he kept telling me to stop talkin and had sex with me, i was cryin as this was happenin cos all i cud think was this is gona b some other girl in his bed in a few weeks. he didnt use anything but didnt *** up me but he knows im not on any contraception as i only had a miscarriage a few weeks ago. after we had sex i went to the toilet, then went downstairs and he had my shoes, coat and bag waiting, he said 'my mates gona b home in 10 mins so u better go' i was so so so hurt, i felt so used. but this has been building up for ages, he wasnt there for me wen i was
2007-01-11 21:32:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wats going on??im heartbroken here?
me and my bf split up for good last week, i always thought we were just gona have a bit of time apart n then get back. i was really missing him so a few days ago i drove to his house to see him and he let me in and said we defo cant b together no more. but he grabbed my hand and took me upstairs. i was cryin so much cos i cant imagine my life without him. but i was tryin to talk to him as i didnt want to go round for sex, but he kept telling me to stop talkin and had sex with me, i was cryin as this was happenin cos all i cud think was this is gona b some other girl in his bed in a few weeks. he didnt use anything but didnt *** up me but he knows im not on any contraception as i only had a miscarriage a few weeks ago. after we had sex i went to the toilet, then went downstairs and he had my shoes, coat and bag waiting, he said 'my mates gona b home in 10 mins so u better go' i was so so so hurt, i felt so used. but this has been building up for ages
2007-01-11 21:33:31 · update #1
pregnant. but yesterday he tx sayin he was sorry for how he treated me last night, then he rung me twice, then sent a tx sayin im goin football now but i just wanted 2 talk to u. he put 11 kisses cos thats the date we got together. wat does he want? he finished me and tld me he didnt want me no more, and now hes ringin and txtin to talk? wat about? he said it all last time i saw him?
2007-01-11 21:36:21 · update #2
im sorry i know you love him but noone should be used like that, hes not a real man if he couldnt see that you were upset, shame on him, you need to forget about him, and find someone better,i know its hard to just move on, but you didnt deserve that, you need to be with someone who wouldnt do that to you, best of luck .
2007-01-11 21:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by x_rachie_bx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He took your hand lead you up stairs told you to stop talking and have sex with him? then after you finished he had your bag and coat and pushed you out the door? GIRL READ YOUR STORY IT WILL ANSWER YOUR QUESTION. im not saying your stupid i know cause i've been in your situation and i bet a million of the other women on here have been too and no matter how many times your friends tell you he's an idiot and to forget him you still cant because you love him. well honey you need to stop being the victem!! stand up be strong join a gym go for a walk or a run empower yourself to know that you dont need him you can take care of yourself and then your knight in shinning armor will come but he cant get to you if your sitting around moping about this past piece of crap boyfriend. so get of the computer now put on a little make up and a lara croft attitude and go for a walk or visit a friend. The only person that can make you happy is you!! Life is what YOU make it!!
2007-01-11 21:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet_Miss_Toni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant say nething for You. Jst this kinda things happens in this world, coz the world is full of good people and bad people too. Jst I will say try to divert ur mind from thinking about him. Try to join ur friends and njoy the life.
Think from the prespective that Life does not stand on one and only one realtionship. If u only had ur mother and nobdy else, can u imagine how u wud be feeling. Its like evenry relationship has a start and an end. Some relationships end up when we die and some relationshipps end up when they are not ment for us. This case of urs is the same. That guy is not ment for u. He humiliated u. I know u love him but the way he behaved, gave a strong signnal that he dont need u. It may feel bad , but thats the truth. On ur part, thats good that u love somebdy but if he is not mature enough to except that, I hope try to give ur love to the one who is in need rather than wasting ur love on a cheep guy like this. Whats ur emotions are totally emotional. See the color of the grass on the other side. Its good u came to know abt him soon. What if he married u and then did this. That is horrible.
What I can suggest is try to be emotionally strong. and u have a strong reason to stand straight before ur weakened emotions as u know that guy is wrong. Pray to God and I am sure You will get the Mr. Right very Soon..
Keep Smiling and Stay Beautiful.
Hrishikesh
2007-01-11 21:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by HB2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably will not take this advice, but move on. Let him miss you, he was the one who ended it. He decided that he did not want to be with you and that he would prefer in the future to be with someone else. Then he got one last bang out of you and asked you to leave. This man does not want to be with you, so dont answer his calls or let him mess you around anymore. He does not love you or he would never a)leave you or b)treat you like crap after you've slept with him. Move on there will only be more heartbreak down this road. You deserve a man who will really love you and NEVER want to leave you. Im sorry your so sad, it will get better. Dont let him keep messing with your head though, it will only prolong the inevitable pain. Goodluck
2007-01-11 21:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 01:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by geddings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur love for him is true and sincere... on the other side i dont think he luv u but he's after sex!! So better u stay away frm such crap! Sooner or later he would hve dump u so dont ever think to go bk 2 him.... u deserve much better and b patient someday u will find someone who is worth ur love n ur heart
2007-01-11 21:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh baby, that's so mean....................What a total creep, how is it possible that another human being can be so utterly cruel, selfish and revolting??? That would be one of the most callous things ever..................So what r u going to do now????????? Lots of choices here, depends on how quickly you want to heal??? Twas me.......................I'd go do some really full on exercise like running, swimming laps, bike riding for bout an hour.........sweat the misery and despair out of my system..............when that was done I'd probably be starting to get shirty about it instead of so blue.......that's when you go shopping girl!!!! Treat yourself to a manicure, facial, highlights in your hair...........................Be nice to yourself though, cos you are special, you do deserve to be respected and loved, he is an ***.................:)
2007-01-11 21:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by Minx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart...im sorry u have to go through all this.I'll make myself clear.he's a jerk..he doesn't want u.he's using u!move on with your life.u have to learn to be strong.u have to know yourself.don't let anyone disgrace u like this.u deserve a lot lot better.it'll hurt a lot i know.but u have to get over it.don't even give yr heart away to someone who doesn't care for u.love should be mutual and a relationship should have mutual respect.apparenty he has none for u.don't answer his texts or calls or just tell him u don't want him bugging u ever again.take care of yourself...keep smiling.life is too short to waste it on someone like that.good luck:)
2007-01-11 21:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do have sex with your bf when both of you can't be together. Just carry on with your life
2007-01-11 22:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not deserve u...do u copy me ...he doesn't ...he's the one who should be sorry he's a real jerk....u deserve someone better find someone nice bot someone who uses u okay...he's a jerk and that what he's always been he'll never change...remember...he's a jerk and will never change
2007-01-11 21:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by Stela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋