Guys, I've been having this problem for a while now. Everytime I approach to talk someone or they approach me, I become flabbergasted. It doesn't matter if its a boy or girl, hot or ugly, I can't seem to think of anything funny or intelligent to say. My answer usually consists of "yes", "no","haha", and "thanks". I don't think I'm shy but I'm slowly losing confidence because I can't keep a conversation running. Anyone have any tips to help me resolve this issue?
2007-01-11 21:07:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's easy to talk **** to other people online isn't it?
2007-01-11 21:14:59 · update #1
Sounds like you are putting too much pressure on yourself.
First of all, take a deep breath, relax and realize that it's not that serious.
Conversation shouldn't be forced...just let it unfold. If you are having trouble with "what should I say next" remember it is better to be interested than interesting. By that I mean have lots of questions that you can ask...things beyond the "oh, what do you do for a living". Let one answer bring about another question...deeper level stuff. Listen intently and then respond. Don't stress....when you stress the other person is going to feel that and then they will become uncomfortable.
Above all, just be comfortable with who you are and what you are about. Have confidence in that and you will find it will be easier and easier to communicate!
2007-01-11 21:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by AprilDawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask questions. Become an expert at asking questions. A lot of people like to talk about themselves.
Sometimes, all you have to do to become regarded as a great conversationalist is to ask good questions. And follow up for more depth.
For example: you see me. you ask me what I do. I say I'm in business. You say "oh, what type of business are you involved with?" And so forth.
Most of this comes with experience. Also learn the difference between open ended and close ended questions. Read about body language and start studying it with live encounters as you meet people. It'll tell you more than the words they use.
2007-01-12 05:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just listen for a while. People will think you are very smart. When a subject comes up, that you know alot about, I'll bet you won't be able to keep quiet. If you need something to talk about, talk about something generic. For example, weather, sports, teams, hot girls etc. If that doesn't help, join a club that has something you are interested in, then you'll have alot to talk about. Good Luck
2007-01-12 05:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by CURTIS TERI C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, be yourself. You don't have to be funny all the time. Second of all make sure you have their attention, and that the timing is right otherwise they will not listen to you whole heartedly. Take a deep breath and listen carefully to what they have to say. Things should come naturally by then. If not go to your local library and check out books on how to talk to people.
2007-01-12 05:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by sasy_tabby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to "plan" a good conversation. They usually just happen.
A good trick is to ask questions instead of just trying to think of stuff to say. Once someone starts talking about something, things usually just pop into your head to add to the conversation.
2007-01-12 05:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep finding topics during your conversation. it can be anything; movies, sports, works..anything..., from there you can find the interests of your opposites. Then you can talk about the thing that interests your opposites. i believe you can talk long and long. I was like you before, that method gradually increases my confidence
2007-01-12 05:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by stardust 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Steer the converstation onto something you do know about (whatever is your hobby or music you like or something). Once you get into your comfort zone then the conversation will flow.
2007-01-12 05:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you all way been like this if so may-be you sure just take think a little slowly to see if that help
2007-01-12 05:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about the next topic while the current one is running. practice with your siblings or close friends a lot. relax and listen is also a good habbit though!
2007-01-12 05:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hahahahahaaaa....
here's some tips:
get educated
have an opinion
speak your opinion (grow balls if necessary)
don't be afraid of them being smarter than you are (sounds like they are, so yes, keep losing that confidence)
or.. if all else fails... go slit your wrists... your'e just as hopeless as i am...
2007-01-12 05:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by some dude 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋