A very good friend of mine told me that he wanted to date me when he started to get to know me, but I went into a 3 month relationship at that time. As we got to know each other I started falling for him and told him. He then told me he was afraid of ruining the friendship and we kept being friends with occational making out. Last night he said he knows their won't ever be anything between us and that it can't work, because we are too much alike. I mean c'mon??? So I know where I stand now, but it just seems so unreal. Is this how most guys think or is he the exception? Please help. I need to know, because i still think if he has feelings for me which along the line he said a couple of times then how can a decision be based on likeness???
2007-01-11 20:42:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he meant what he actually said. He is scared of ruining the friendship... he is kind of weak but If you want him maybe you should tell him that you don't care about the friendship they once had and now want a relationship. We only live once, why waste time being friends with someone you know you can like or love... tell him he has to take a chance otherwise you two will never know if what you have can ever be something more.
Again, we only live once... so talk to him... i don't think feelings go away unless he has another girl on his mind but if theres even a slight chance he's still thinking about you then those feelings are still there. Ask him to give you two a chance.. you never know... this relationship can be greater than he thought it can be.
2007-01-11 20:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by X Anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you can generalize about guys. there is nothing like guys always change their minds or never. this guy probably gave your friendship a good thought and value it more than the possible relationship. plus you're in a relationship already! he may not wanna be responsible for breaking you and your current bf up. your ambivalence may also be part of his decision. if you make out with him while you have a bf, would that happen to him if he's your bf? it's possible. i am not trying to be judgemental, but our behaviors pattern do repeat. if you really want him, break up with your current bf and be friend with him and see whether he's still interested.
2007-01-11 20:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Elle,
I dont want to be the one who said "I told you so" but I cant be the one to say it as I did not say it. But I'm sure they may be many around you, did tell you to watch out for this SOB. Anyway nothing is lost. Most men are like this, non commital but they still want your company, love, physical relationships and some times your moeny too and they will even be posssive. Take it easy and try to look elsewhere and concentrate on your education or a hobby. slowly take your mind of this fool and you will come around be yourself again. Be good!
2007-01-11 20:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but yes, most guys are like that. However, there are factors to concider. For instance, you say you're in a relationship, but hang out and make out with HIM now and then. Not a very good "trait" to possess. He probably figures you might do it to him, and you probably would. Also," if two people are too much alike, one of them is unnecessary"
2007-01-11 20:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by isis8x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, I understand what you mean, guys can be so confusing/complicated.
I think he likes you but is afraid of rejection or getting hurt.
Just continue to be really good friends and see what happens later down the road, he may not be mature enough or ready for a steady relationship.
I am in a similar situation, good luck and God bless! :)
2007-01-11 20:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit weird of him TBH. Either he's scared or he's changed his mind about wanting to date you. Only thing you can be pretty sure of is that you can't take what he's saying at face value because it's not realistic. Good luck.
2007-01-11 21:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by freakingweekend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course guys change their mind. Maybe he wanted to date you in the beginning on a superficial basis but then as he got to know you, he had doubts as to whether both of you could be together. I think most people (regardless of gender) change their mind about others once they get to know them more.
2007-01-11 20:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by John Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys do chnge their minds sometimes, we cnt blame 'em, they're people too. they have opinions too. but his beliefs are wrong......
i mean, if he loves you, he wont conclude that your relationship doesn't stand a chance 'cause "LOVE GIVES HOPE"....
and that is true.. ^_^
now seriously if he concludes that your relationship will just die out then he isn't worth the love nor of the make-outs. he only wants you for physical things, not for the love you give him...
2007-01-11 20:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by maila_venus9193 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is weak and confused,give him some courage
2007-01-11 20:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋