I'm 22 years old ( I will be 23 in June) and I still live at home with my folks. My friend got mad at me today and we had an argument. Then she trashed at me and called me a loser because I still live at home with them and haven't started a life of my own at my age and it really made me think and wonder if I'm too old to live with my parents? I never thought of it badly before because I still feel so young, but now that my friend said that and she does live on her own with her husband and she is only a month older than me, it definitely makes me feel bad. Please answer honestly.
2007-01-11 20:23:22 · 18 answers · asked by Mary R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honey, please don't listen to what other people think! It s - frankly - quite normal to still live at home. At least, that is if I look at my friends. I was 21 when I moved out and 22 when I moved back in. It took 2 years before I moved out again, permanently. Just take it easy and only move out when time is there and when you are ready . And also not unimportant: when you found yourself a very nice place to stay. I moved out because I was to hasty with agreeing with a student house. I ended up moving out because I and my house mates did not get along.
Last but not least: do not compare yourself with others. Your friend's situation is different from yours.
2007-01-11 20:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by MM 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
first of all ur "friend" doesn't live on her own she lives with her husband that's number one. She has someone whom she loves helping her or even taking care of her too, she has her husband u have ur parents. The difference lies herein:
Question # 1 to answer for urself: Do I have enough income to support myself comfortably and a significant other at this very moment? If u do then u should be out on ur own.
Question #2: Am I a student in college doing something for myself and my parents r supporting me through college? If so then screw what ur friend says about being a loser, she's no friend.
Question #3: Why is my friend calling me a loser when we have been friends for such a long time? Does she care for me in more ways than one and is angry that I didn't pay her enough attention, so she chose someone who has it more together than me as a mate and it angers her that I'm not such a go getter?
Question #4: Am I a loser mooching off my parents using all I get from working to party or self gratification? Or am I working and not helping or contributing with household bills and payments to ease my parents burden of me living at home with them being so old and most of my friends have moved on with their lives? If so, then I am a loser big time.
Question #5: I live at home still because I'm an only child and my parents r older and need me to help them with hosehold chores, bills, errands and so on? Then u r a great son worthy to be praised and I would say again screw ur so called "friend" and continue the excellent work u r doing. Drop the heffer from ur friend list and Christmas list cuz she ain't no friend.
2007-01-11 21:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Living at home is only an issue if your mom is still doing your laundry and making your dinner. If you're helping out with the bills and are fairly independent, why not?
Most people want to move out because they want to have a normal sex life, which isn't possible when they're living with their parents. However, if you are from a traditional culture and plan on remaining a virgin until marriage, that isn't an issue.
2007-01-15 15:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by D 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i replaced into 22 whilst i ultimately moved out for the 1st time. i did no longer bypass to college (on no account had the money), yet I worked my butt off and contributed around the abode. I tremendously plenty had my own freedom, so i replaced into in a position to come back and bypass as I please, with some floor policies. Wasn't too undesirable. i'm with you. in case you progression out around that component physique, that's positive. in case you get to be on your 30s, you have severe themes.
2016-10-07 01:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by geddings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent, and I feel a child should start out on their own when they are finished with High School. If they don't and stay living at home they don't learn the responsibility that goes with life. They become more depended on the parents.
2007-01-11 20:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Harley Mama 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If your parents r happy for u to stay then dont let it bother u but my thought is 16 to 18 unless they r still at school. U see if they r just bumming of u as teenagers and r just lazy then i would kick them out.
2007-01-11 22:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cultures it is normal for people to live with their parents well into their 20's and even 30's. Are you a student? Do you have a job? Do your parents want you to move?
I think that staying with your parents until you are financially stable is a good idea and I would not worry about it unless your parents have a problem with it.
Your friends was just trying to get under you skin and it looks like she did. Ignore her.
2007-01-11 20:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
shes married, ure not. she has a husband, ure not. so maybe she's a little bit jealous of u coz u still hv ur carefree life n probably dat just stress her up. but the real question is, do u want to move out? do u thk ur parents want u to do so? r u responsible enuff to live on ur own? that is up to YOU to find out. n if ur friend cant understand dat, then shes not much of a friend.
2007-01-11 21:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by little lulu 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly !!!!!!!!
lf your parents are happy with this situation and your happy, then its no one elses buisness.
Im sure you help financially and with the chores, so whats the problem????
my son is 26 and if ever he needed to move back home l would never shut the door on him.
Actually my daughter and her son live with me and its GREAT.
Financially and emotionally
DONT worry about your friend (well true friends wouldnt talk such utter crap)
Good luck
2007-01-11 20:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by angie h 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It varies with the individual. Some people are ready to launch sooner than others. It's probably better to stay with your parents now, while you're getting on your feet, than to have everything blow up later and have to come back home.
And your friend picked something to say that she knew would hurt, just because she was mad. That's on her, not on you.
2007-01-11 20:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋