Hiya boys, i heard that men like/prefer younger woman, i myself prefer older men, but umm,,,thing is i am 24yo female and my hubbie is 30. Its just i am a little insecure cos i have caught him watching porn sites and its mostly teenies hes watching,,this really hurts me cos i have had 2 kids but i have kept my shape and although am not vain i have been given a few compliments from men in the past, so why does my hubby look at these other GIRLS arent i young enough for him? i am really hurt why do men have to watch porn? i am soooo insecure and know what he really likes school uniforms and here there is a lot of students who dont take their uniforms OFF they wear them even after school and i keep thinking my hubby is out there gocking at them,,,i want him to be looking at me,,,,i have worn uniforms for him but i keep thinking hes imagining a young teenie bopper and not ME, he says he prefers to see uniforms on me not other woman,,,i am really insecure cos i love him.
2007-01-11 20:21:24 · 22 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he's kinda full of it. I see that you have three options here . . .
1) Whenever he starts looking at porn, jump his bones. Rub him all over and make him feel good. Tell him that you won't have any man of yours resorting to PORN for kicks.
2) Tell him that you're hurt that he's paying so much attention to other women when he should be paying attention to you.
3) Let him catch YOU watching porn . . . . Then if he objects (hopefully he will, or this will backfire) you can say something like "now you know how I feel when you watch porn."
I would try them in that order. Then it would be time for counseling. Unless you can stand to watch the porn with him . . . but I don't like that idea one bit. It might keep the peace, but consider that after you've tried the three ideas above and considered going to counseling.
He's married to you, so he should be interested in you. You don't sound like a fat slob, so he should be physically attracted to you and not other women. I think he's got issues . . . like maybe going back to when he was the age of those girls. Who could possibly want to look at porn when there's a warm, lively, and attractive woman around who loves them? I know I couldn't. Dudes like that are pitiful. Good luck!
2007-01-11 20:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ALOT of guys watch porn just for the meer excitement but when it comes down to it he's in bed with you at night..When you catch him looking at REAL school girls or checking out women then that's when you need to worry. He might just have a thing for uniforms and it just happens its only teens that wear them. You are wayyy too young to be insecure..might I add that sharing your feelings with him will help..I'm sure if you ask what his obsession with teens is he will reveal more than you expect..hope that helps..P.S. Being insecure is just part of being a woman ;)
2007-01-11 20:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Williams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men just have addictions to porn. Try watching them with him. I know it's hard when you're already insecure and he's making you feel even more insecure by looking at other women sexually. Tell him how you feel and how much it hurts. If he loves you he will respect your feelings and concentrate on you. I mean it's only natural to look at something beautiful. He's human. It's in our nature. But, if you feel as though he is taking it to far do something about it. Hopefully he's not looking at underage females because that's really inappropriate.
2007-01-11 20:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy W 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are married to someone then he should not need to watch porn with young girls,its not fair on you that he is doing this, he is the one with the problem not you, just remeber that, tell him how you fele and see where it gets you,
2007-01-12 00:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by jcraze1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you worried about his fantasy? Until you catch him up to his nuts in guts of a schoolgirl, chill out. And try watching the porn with him. Guaranteed to stop him watching especially if you add a running commentary....
2007-01-11 20:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, men will always be men, and I'd allow for some room, let him keep his pictures of pretty women/girls, as long as you are still his only love and lady.
2007-01-11 20:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by Benvenuto 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that would make me mad to gees but hey if hes like that and you told him how you feel? but he didn't change? and if this is how he is then there's nothing you can do to stop him looking at school girl porn or looking at other woman and he might stop doing that in front of you but he will SPEAK like a cat and if it was me I would of spanked hes *** till it bleeds lol or try to make him jealous to looking at hot man :p lol nah dunno what to do in that case honestly you can either put up with it or not because that's how he is and you can't change a dirty mind.
2007-01-11 20:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
eh... Nobody on here can tell you if you need to worry or not. YOU know your husband. Trust me, watching porn and wanting to act on something like that is WAY differant. Maybe he just needs something like that to get himself going with HIS touch and not YOURS... ya know?
2007-01-11 21:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by kinda confused 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im 21 and love the older women. But then again I love the 18 yr olds too.
2007-01-11 20:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
mmmmmm....could just be a fantasy....you will have to watch this..don't take it personally - men watch porn to get some uncomplicated sex - not really to replace their woman.
2007-01-11 21:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by Ella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋