you love this guy but he does not have time for you and he doesn't even call u and you kind of miss him all the time.
2007-01-11 20:18:22 · 15 answers · asked by spankybee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it's because he's looking for work, leave him alone. That's what he needs to be doing.
Granted it does seem like he could take a few minutes here and there to call you, but if he's really distressed about his job situation, he might just not be thinking. Call *him.* Ask him how things are going, and offer your support. Just whatever you do, don't whine to him about not spending enough time with you. His work is very important to him, as it should be, and complaining that you feel neglected would make him feel like you want him to choose between the two.
2007-01-11 20:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, so been there! We had just moved into our own place when my bf lost his job though so I knew he wasn't being funny because there was something wrong or anything because he wouldn't have moved in otherwise.
Anyway, he 'looked for a job' for 2 1/2 months! And by saying that, I mean he looked for a job for 2 weeks and sat on his back side for the rest of it! Only now has he admitted that he didn't really try to get a job as much as he should have.
Me knowing he had done nothing all day though made it even worse that he didn't bother answering my call or replying to my texts coz I knew he wasn't doing anything else!
I did speak to him about it. It worked for about 2 days! Then he was back to not bothering anymore! He would even be laying on the sofa when I got in from work and not even bother moving when I got it. Talk about cheek!
Anyway, now he has got a job and everything is finr again. I think they just get a bit low that they haven't got a job so they aren't getting any money and can't do anything because they have no money, which means they are stuck with not a lot to do all day! I know my bf got really frustrated. Not that he actually made a lot of effort to get a job though!
2007-01-12 06:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is job hunting atleast. There are guys who don't even want to work but expects their partners to work and provide for them. Yours is totally different and you should have faith that he will find the job. Give him all the support he needs now. Some guys are shy to go to their girls empty handed. They feel they should take you out buy presents but cant afford. If you know him you will understand the pressure he is in at the moment. Pick up the phone and call him and tell him your fears and how you feel. Make him understand he will tell you what you want to hear and his true feelings. Give him a chance. I don't think you want a lazy guy who don't even bother to look for work while you try to make a good life for yourself.
2007-01-12 04:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by MEMSA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty hard, but stick with him - being unemployed can be pretty depressing, and if he's busy looking around for a job he'll be stressed too and he'll totally appreciate the fact that you're there even if you can't be together in person a whole lot.
It's not that he doesn't want to spend time with you - just think how good it will be when he finds work and gets a new burst of confidence.
2007-01-12 04:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by bonshui 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just be glad your guy is actively looking for work and not just being a lazy bum. If he's still acting the same way after he's found a job then maybe you should have a talk with him about it.
2007-01-12 04:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a REAL man...and as a REAL woman, you should support him and be patient...if he was a bum and didn't care about himself or you, he would take life is a joke but the fact that it has hit is social emotions and needs to overcome these times of trials and tribulations in his life, means that your boyfriend is a man of character, a man of depth, and a man who will stay real and understands the true meaning of life...
2007-01-12 04:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll help him in this matter.. like .. find out the Job coloumn in Newspaper && show him...It will give more confidence to him becoz he will feel that her GF is there with him............
Suggest him to DONOT Loose his confidence as I am always there for him........ IN ALL BAD & GOOD TIMES...
And Regarding time I'll Tell him ""After getting his job '''........... we will meet every Sunday or whenever he have a holiday........
AND 1 MORE THING I LOVE MY BF VERY MUCH
YEAH.......... I LOVE U...
2007-01-12 04:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's important enough to you, just keep him. However, he may find you a bit annoying when you keep coming back to him with the messages and calls while he's got a lot of things on his mind. Just keep a moderate distance unless you feel he really needs support and your presence.
2007-01-12 04:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by Benvenuto 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him how i feel. how i miss him and how i feel that hen doesn't have time for me....
if he really loves you, he'll listen and apologize and maybe make it up to you in any best way he can.....]
but if his love faded away with his work, then don't push yourself. move on with your life and try to understand his side.. after all, a person can only give you understanding if you understand him too...
2007-01-12 04:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by maila_venus9193 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep away from him and let him do his job searching properly so that you can live happily everafter
2007-01-12 05:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋