After Spouse Dies,What Living Arrangements Did You Or Will You Make For Yourself?

Question

How have these arrangements worked for you ?
Where they the best choice ? or the only choice ?.
.Have you made them yet ?

We want to remain independent as long as we can.
Neither of us want to burden our grown children.
But the time will come when we don't have each other any more.
We have a modest 3 bedroom 1 story home.
We are 77 and 81 this year ~~~ mobil but slow..
Already we can't keep up with the house & housework like we once did. Back will start hurting and so on & so forth.

We would just like to hear your plans and thoughts on what you might have in mind for yourself ??? Thank you for sharing this important information with us. The clock is ticking !!!.

Answer 1

I am a youngster of 60 so I have not gotten to the point where I cannot keep up my own home and yard, yet. In order to stay independent here are some suggestions for you. If your children live nearby have one of them help with the yard work. But do try to do some of it yourself. Working in the yard or in a flower bed is good for the soul. If your children do not live near you could you talk to your church and they may have a program where the younger members help the older members with these things. My church has this kind of program. You can also try your local senior center as they would know of any programs in your area. Once the yard is under control enlist your husbands help with the house. He can do the dusting and vaccuuming as well as you can. But remember it is only the two of you now and you do not have to clean every day like you did when you had little ones around.

My plans for when my husband dies (not for a great many years I hope) is to live with my widowed sister. We have discussed this many times and know just what we will share. I know my financial situation and I keep up to date on that so that there will be no surprises. My husband says if I go first he will sell the house and get a small apartment just big enough for him. I said he would miss the kids and grandkids coming over and spending the night and he would really miss the dog but he said he would get over it you know how men are. Good luck and I hope both of you live a long time yet.

Answer 2

My husband and I plan to stay in our home as long as we can, but I know after our children are grown this 5 bedroom house will become to much for us to take care of. We raised our children like this.... We took care of them when they were young and as we get older they will take care of us... So I know out of our 6 children we will have plenty of help.

Answer 3

I totally comprehend that residing on your relatives would take priority. even as Paul wrote about Marriage he grow to be virtually at a loss at for what to assert, and admitted that he grow to be making concessions out of practicality, no longer teachings on faith: "in trouble-free words, enable each human being lead the existence which the Lord has assigned to him, and in which God has referred to as him. it is my rule in each and each of the church homes." a million Corinthians 7:17 "in case you marry, you do not sin, and if a woman marries she does no longer sin. yet those who marry would have worldly issues, and that i'd spare you that." a million Corinthians 7:28 He even is going to assert that a wedding ceremony between a believer and a non-believer will consecrate the non-believer and their little ones. So there is truly no longer some thing incorrect with residing on your relatives, if that is what you want to do. would favor to be sure you open up somewhat to the Lord, notwithstanding. :)

Answer 4

Better to live a free life.

Answer 5

I would just live on my own.

Answer 6

That wat your children r there for we should care for u both.U done your bit in raising us as good kids so please let us do our bit too.