What should I do? I feel like my sister just comes when she needs something. we fell out because her husband was always saying sexy things to me, i felt uncomfortable. Also, he tries to tell everyone around him what to do. he tried to charge me for storing some things at their place, but they had actually kept them and sold them. it's the only time i've ever said 'enough is enough' she came back home though, because she broke up with him, i ended up caring for their baby 24/7, putting him to sleep, feeding him, everything and she said i could do this full-time while she worked and we could get a place together. so i'd be paying half the rent, and looking after her baby full-time. she ends up going back to her husband, the next time she stays i dont get to see the baby, hold him or anything. anytime we go anywhere she wants me to pay. even for baby food. he husband wont 'let' her have an overdraft so she keeps borrowing £1000's from my mum.
2007-01-11 20:02:05 · 4 answers · asked by maria h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the thing is the ONLY time i ever said anything she put the blame on me. and she didn't talk to me for 4 years, then she would only talk to me if i apologised to her and her husband (who i dont like) There was one more thing i dont know if i can forgive her for. which is the main thing. she introduced me to my ex boyfriend who abused me for three years (totally not her fault i know!) but she said she knew what he was like before we got together and she never told me, when i did get away she told him where i was and he came and found me. my sister can be fun too, but when she wants to be, not if i wanna go do something with her.
2007-01-11 20:09:37 · update #1
Talk to her about it.
2007-01-11 20:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh dear. It sounds as if your sister is one of those horribly toxic people who makes life awful for those around her, and especially for her family. She has partnered up with another toxic person and together they are a pair of steamrollers, using and flattening anyone who falls in their path.
Sadly the only way to survive people like this is to cut them off. Generally people like this do not change. They see others as being necessary to serve them and to take away their problems. They don't even notice the emotional and financial destruction they leave in their wake.
I feel for you. It must have been gut wrenching to care for the baby and then have the plans change like that.
Please stop enabling your sister. It just makes you feel bad every time she lets you down again or uses you as a money machine. Be strong and cut the links. I know from personal experience that this is the only way to escape heartache.
2007-01-12 04:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why r u letting her treat u this way do u not respect your self dignity.Have a go at her again maybe u wont see her for another 4 years. Dont be bullied into doing wat she wants put your foot down.
2007-01-12 06:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur sister is so selfish.....please stop falling for her traps....live ur own life and cut off with her for a while....but still...good of you to pitch in....ur a good sis!
2007-01-12 04:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by lilbit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋