I know that I'm suffering from depression, but I dont know what to do. I cant help but sleep too much, or not sleep at all. I dont take interest in things I normally did. Right now I'm home on break from college, I dont want to go back, but I dont want to stay home either. Between breaking up with my girlfriend, a pending divorce between my parents, and a terminally ill father, I just dont know what to do. I have an Army recruiter with a contract waiting for me when I get back, I want to take it so badly. Im sick and tired of everything and burnt out on college. I just want to get away from everything right now, but my father says itll kill him if I join. What do I do?
2007-01-11 19:42:54 · 13 answers · asked by Dave 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Do what's best for YOU and explain to your father that it's your choice and that you just want to see him happy however, you've gotta do what you think is best for YOU. He probably does not want you going in because of a mistake you made, he's got to be able to allow you to make that same mistake.
Try forcing yourself out of bed, beyond that, might be time to check in with a doctor to see if they can help you out.
2007-01-11 19:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Malone 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Joining the army is about the worst thing you could do in your situation.
If you are depressed and nothing normally interests you, WHY ON EARTH would you be interested in joining the army?
Joining the army while depressed is about the worst possible outcome , as they prey on people like you. The recruiters job is to assure you everything will be fine if you join. Also your dad does not approve of you joining, why would you intentionally want to injure your father? Spend as much time with your dad as you can, as every hour can be the last. Why go off to some boot camp knowing your freedom is taken away and you may never see your father again? Furthermore, why become a slave? cause thats exactly what a soldier is, a subverted slave, that must do what others order him to do.
You must be fully mentally healthy to make a life changing decision such as joining the army, joining one with depression could make things much worse.
My advice, Spend time with your father, FORGET the recruiter, they are like vultures preying on the weak minded.
Go out with friends, find a new hobby, dont worry about the girl too much everyone breaks up its a part of life, if you had a girlfriend before, you will most certainly find a new one in the future.
If your depression is extreme and you have suicidal thoughts then see a doctor.
Trust me on this, depression sucks, but knowing you can overcome it is one of the best feelings in the world.
You just need a new hobby. Play video games? I donno, smoke a joint with your friends, go clubbing. Anything to keep your mind off of being down.
Good luck man, Ive been in the same maybe even worse situations, I feel for you.
2007-01-11 19:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by MI6 W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As far as your decision to join the Army or not, that's up to you. You've definitely got a lot of stress going on. You may be clinically depressed. Why don't you see a doctor and let him/her see if you aren't depressed. If you are you may need to be on an antidepressant for a while. If you are clinically depressed I don't know if the Army would even accept you. That's not the kind of thing you want to keep from your recruiter. It would be a potential danger to you and to others who have to depend on you. You don't want to put others in danger do you? Just go to see a doctor. You'll be okay.
2007-01-11 19:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Butch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry you are in this position, it must be so hard on you. have you been diagnosed? if you get a therapist and on meds, it could work wonders for you! personally, i think you should join, its ur life and ur future! i know what its like to have a terminally ill parent, and my parents are divorced, my dad was TWICE. i am 17, i dont know how old u are. but i think you should take it! and try to get diagnosed, it will make it so much easier, im in the middle of my last year of school so i am very stressed too. i attempted suicide last yr and i am still cutting. but i got the help and support, you really should get some too! what ur going thru is too much for you to handle on ur own! if u need a friend or just a non-judgemental person to talk to, email me! nemofiddler@yahoo.com.au and add me on IM. dont fight this alone when you dont have to!
take care mate!
2007-01-11 19:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, you need to see a counselor and get some treatment, after you seek treatment I would then make a decision on your life goals.
If it was me I would grant my dying fathers wishes, he does not want to see his boy in a war, you do not want to be in war, especially with your emotional state...
You need to set some goals, life is about things that go wrong all the time, don't run away from your problems, that will not solve anything for you, spend as much time with your father because it maybe the last time you will have, and you do not want to regret it later on in life..
Wish you the best of luck and good health
as for you girl friend, there are many more out there!!!
2007-01-11 19:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by curiouspuff 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do what feels right to you. respectfully it seems as though your father is using guilt to hold you back. if your father is terminally ill you may want to be with him until he passes on. after that you can go into the army. i lost my father to a terminal illness and i would give anything to have him back. think about that before you leave. you want to leave with no regrets. as far as your depression, i think it is natural due to all that is going on in your life. take at least one day a week and do something for you. good luck and i hope this helps.
2007-01-11 19:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by nakita 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't tell you what to do, but do suggest that before you sign ANY kind of contract or make any major decision about where you want to be and what you want to do that you seek help from a doctor regarding your depression. You symptoms are classic and the good news is that depression is treatable and beatable, but you need to take some active steps to help yourself here too. You have alot going on and alot to deal with emotionally so please get some help before you feel any worse. Its time to take care of yourself, make time for yourself and figure out exactly what you need and where you want to be. Do it. You are very much worth it.
2007-01-11 19:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by kfraserseeto 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to a school counseler or minister if not a pscyaitrist- just find someone with counseling skills to point you in the right direction. Best of luck~
2007-01-11 19:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a homeopath because homeopathy has wonderful medicines for depression without any side effects and they also offer a permanent cure rather than taking life long medicine.
2007-01-11 19:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
by these question i feel you won't be able to oppose your father &go against him because lack will power get dominated easily start to think what are lacking points in you you should firm on your own decision &capacity explain others .here bach flower medicines help you a lot
2007-01-12 00:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by tejaswini j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋