I have been dating this guy for about a month now. We have gone out six or seven times. The relationship hasn't progressed and I am a shy person and so is he. I have not been in the relationship thing a lot, like only once before and I am not in my teens anymore. He is sending me mixed signals though, or at least I believe they are. For instance, he asked to hold my hand and then pulled away a minute after. He gives me hugs from the side. Then the other night he walked me half way to my door and thanked me for hanging out and said maybe I'll see you around. I am afraid that after what happened the other night I am not going to hear from him again. He didn't say I'll call you or anything. I didn't want to call him again, because I called him this last time
to make plans, and he is difficult to get ahold of because he never has his phone w/ him. What do you think of this? What should I do? Does it honestly sound bad?
2007-01-11 19:32:20 · 8 answers · asked by Ashley_Hanes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Basically from what I've read and understood, you two have reached a point where one of you has to take the initiative to make a move and get this relationship to the next level, If that is what you desire it looks like you will have to make that move if he is too shy or likes to play it so, he's probably thinking the same thing that he does not know how you feel about him, and he isn't sure what is happening. If there is a strong attraction between you two and you like him then I would suggest you try and kiss him goodnight to start up things. He should take the hint if hes attracted to you.
Best of luck!
Also some guys (me) don't like their phones and try not to use them that often because they can get annoying, if you aren't feeling the vibe when you make that first move, then end it after that and try and salvage a friendship.
2007-01-11 19:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sagely 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing, either he's just taking it as a casual thing or he wants to get the reaction he's getting out of you right now.
You say you've been dating for about a month. Yet the only physical thing you mentioned was holding hands. Since you're not in your teens anymore, I assume you're over 18 and legal. Have you guys shared a kiss yet? Or anything other than what typical friends would do? If not, then you guys aren't dating. At least not in his mind.
His behavior, which I have done the same on purpose gets a certain kind of response from some women. Right now, he's the guy on your mind. Other guys might call you constantly or invite you out all the time, but the guy you're really thinking about is this one. Because he doesn't do what every other guy does with you and it's got you wondering, "does he even like me?" "Is there something wrong with me" ....... If you want to know, ask him. Ask he what he wants. I can't make assumptions for the guy.
For all I know he could have an ex he's not quite over yet. Ask him an honest question about what he wants from you. If he cares about you, he will give you an honest answer.
2007-01-12 03:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is bad. I think its pretty normal. If he's a shy preson and so are you, then it would take a little time for both of you to feel comfortable around each other. And once that ice is broken, everything is going to be wonderful.
Now the question is how to break that ice,,, hmmm... honey u know what they say.... "the worst thing is not death itself; its the wait". :0) if you get what i'm saying.... i think if you like that person you should call him up and ask him again. You won't sound desperate, believe me. This would make him more comfortable around you. I'm pretty sure he'll be more open to you this time. Try it.....
"You can't lose anything when you don't have anything"
2007-01-12 03:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by Demonic Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is really shy and is worried about getting you to the door for that kiss. Have you thought of asking him over just for a pizza and movie night, that way it is causal and if he wants he can go home after the movie finishes instead of staying to chat.
2007-01-12 03:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like maybe he is not that into you. Because if he was then he would answer his phone AT ALL TIMES!! Even if he was shy he would make sure to have his phone with him if he thought you were going to call him! So I would just give up on this dude, and find a guy who doesn't mess with your head so much.
2007-01-12 03:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by cuteness 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
personally it sounds bad to me
if u are out of y[our teens then relationships arnt supposed to be so shy!
i dont know try phoning and leaving a messgae!
maybe he is gay... it's just a little wierd for me reminds me of mi relationship when i WAS 15!!!
maybe u shou;d move on
2007-01-12 03:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by iamflow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just sound like u two u just break it off. u two aren't that compatible and u two aren't getting the chemistry your supposed to. break it off before something bad happens. good luck to u
2007-01-12 03:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** wasting your time more fish in the sea
2007-01-12 03:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋