What can I do?

Question

I know i'm far from the minority here, but it still grates on me. Because it isnt what problems you have, its how you deal with them in how serious it is. I have OCD and a mild case of autism. I recently had a bad breakup with my now ex-girlfriend and i don't know who to turn to. i dunno right now im really depressed and dont know who to turn to. I have asked people on here a similar question before, but I seem to just get cookie cutter responses, when in reality, its probably easier to chat with them, instead of giving responses. my email is [e-mail], if someone is interested in talking

She had been hanging around and cheating on me with drug dealers and junkies while I was going around making my life miserable to try and make hers better. When I found out she started abusing me for caring about her with "Who the f--k do you think you are in telling me who i can and cant be friends with". now i feel completely dejected from it

Answer 1

It takes time to get over a breakup even if you weren't deeply in love. And there is no easy way to speed up the healing time. It will take time, and when the time is right another person will enter your life that will become a good friend to you. You may not see it happening now since you are feeling so lonely and hurt, but trust me, it will happen. Time can't be rushed. And this depression will also come and go. But in your mind you have the power to determine how you want to feel. You might have had a very sad Life, but if you look on the Bright side of things you'll feel better within. No drug will help. You got to be strong. If you can, donate some time to a homeless shelter and you'll feel so much better inside. The more you give of yourself, the stronger you'll feel inside. You'll soon realize how important your Life is, for there is no one out there just like you. You are unique honey, and you are here for a purpose. Go find the Path to take. And don't look back. You can try some chat rooms, but forums are best. Find forums for depression and you'll find your not alone. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well OCD can flire up, it is what it is known for, i have it too, and just having a breakup with your ex could really help it fliar up and make you depressed, so why not just go and talk with a professional about this, cause all in all, you can talk to him or her live, and they will be there when you need them, and they will be able to help you a lot better, then even just talking though email can. So why not just take the time to make that appointment, and go see a doctor , therapist, someone that can deal with the smytoms that you are having. Someone that is going to stay positive, when talking and working with you. Right now you really do not need to be receiving email that can have an negative effect on you. So please go and get some professional help for this ...

Answer 3

Try going out more often and talking about it with your best friends they should give you some good advise on what you can do.I been in a similar situation as you are right now,My ex just stopped talking to me for the heck of it and I didn't even know why. I don't think she is going out with another guy but she just stopped for no reason and I didn't know what to do.But you know what I did? I started going out more often with my friends like the Movies games,Party's,and other places with them and It really worked.I decided to take her out of my mind for ever,and now when I see her I just say whats up? and nothing happens I don't feel any thing any more and the best thing of all is that It doesn't hurt or bother me for anything,and you know what? I know she still likes me but I will not take her back so she learns that your not supposed play with some one Else's feelings.Hope this really works for you.

Answer 4

I know this is probably what you would call a "cookie cutter" response, but have you tried posting to the forums on wrongplanet.net? It's a global forum for people with Aspergers and Autism and has a huge range of topics in it's on line forums.

Hope it helps.

Answer 5

what was the main problem between the both of you? is there any way for you to apologise and try to make up or does she have another guy with her. of course, it would be best if you attempt the make up with her. maybe you could try some hotlines of counsellors and/or ask your friends for help?

Answer 6

http://chat.healthyplace.com/
brilliant chat room, everyone is so supportive and willing to listen to rambling on, they have saved me from going insane many a sleepless night.