How do I get her to talk about her past lovers?

Question

My gf has had about 50 lovers. At first I didn't want to hear about them, but now I find I'm turned on when she tells me about them. How do I get her to tell me more and not sound creepy? I want her to talk about the sex, not the actual relationships.

Answer 1

Tell her, point blank, that you'd like to hear it. Tell her it's something that turns you on, and it's better for you to be fantasizing about her than some random woman on the street or in a porno mag.

Answer 2

ummmmmm she was a virgin when you met and so were you!.............................. leave the past alone. LISTEN, this info is none of any1's business, and itll only fuel arguments when the argument regresses. sorry, but i took 2 punches to the jaw for saying hi to an ex. why i stayed in a marriage with violence present is beyond me.

hey just keep those secrets private, the only other reasons for wanting to know are jealousy and a secondary experience of the situation.
or some other crazy unimportant reason. dont hide the truth from yourself, just dont dwell on it. and 50 men, so what, keeping score? if so, sounds like the game is lo-ball.
just wishing every1 gets that life long love first time out. im not hiding from truths. i learned the hard way, so im leaving a yellow sign.

Answer 3

women are creatures and not animals so you need to approach her as you would anything you know nothing about. women are very reluctant to open themselfs up about sexual encounters of the past even in the heat of sex, do not press the issue and hope for open doors and try and relate as close as possible to her natural self. she will tell you the answers you want, one if she trust you and second if she feels it will never come back to haunt her. as far as being turned on by her pass lovers and the encounters, you must relish what she tells you and be happy. if you ever show jealousy your done.

Answer 4

Your really will sound creepy to know her past sex life with her exes,You are more respectable if you watch porn by your self, you are making your self a cheap shots,by asking her what's her tricks to her customers, excuse me,'to her 50 lovers.

Answer 5

Quote: "I want her to talk about sex, not the actual relationships."
If this is what you want why bother knowing her past experiences in sex.
Explore it yourself and she will show you the way. Believe me seeing or hearing can never be better than acting.

Answer 6

Ask her-Can I tell you something that turns me on? I don't want you to think it's creepy or anything...but...
everybody has their turn-ons...why be embarassed to ask your girlfriend to please you?? Unless she finds it uncomfortable or embarassing..but its only words and it won't hurt her to try...but what if she doesn't want to remember her past sexual encounters that way? what if that turns her off?? then you just have to compromise....ask her to write it down lol...my boyfriends used to get turned on when I'd read them the steamy sex scenes from my romance novels...she can do that too lol...

Answer 7

i don't know man, that's emotionally damaging sh*t. that's why I'm

a virgin and I'm waiting till I'm married to a virgin girl to have sex.

den I'm the one and only hopefully for life. but yeah Good luck

homie. the best thing i can tell you is to just leave it alone.

because trust me no good, absolutely no good can come out of it.

Answer 8

She's left them and prefers you.
I don't care if I'm not the first to know you, just so I'll be the last.

Answer 9

Maybe you need to try a swingers party or some S&M. Make your own future together.

Answer 10

if you want to keep your g/f you will keep quite about her past loves because every woman has to have her little secrets and once you know she will move on to someone else.