My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year now. I think that he may have cheated on me one night when I was out of town. We got into a fight three nights before and I left without telling him where i was going even though he asked. Then he called me basically forty times a day and i ignored his phone calls....id pick up at the end of the night and end up hanging up on him. The third night he ended up going out with his friends to a bar...his friends are pigs from hell. Anyways all night i called cause ihad this feeling he was cheating...the next day i was told he went out and when i asked he lied and said he stayed on there couch....he eventally admitted it saying he lied cause he felt bad for going. And thats all the proof i have...but people who have nothing to hide hide nothing. for the last two months i question him endlessly about it and he is getting v ery angry saying he didnt..my ex cheated on me and i found out because i had the feeling, this could be the same
2007-01-11 19:02:48 · 14 answers · asked by Keri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
smell his nuts..lol
2007-01-11 19:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 01:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you know the worst thing to do is keep on questioning him about it. i did that when my boyfriend cheated and i wanted to know what happened. it almost tore us apart. even to this day when i bring it up he gets mad. guys are stupid arent they? yeah well you know did you ever think that maybe he didnt cheat at a bar?? like he couldve been at a stripclub(alot of guys call a stripclub, a bar) and got lapdances or something. since he felt bad about it. that could be it. well yeah my best advice is stop asking him if he cheated and try your hardest not to think about all the time. the arguements will just gets worse and worse till you guys wont even wanna be around eachother anymore. think about it, ask yourself if theres anyway hes not lying?? and then ask yourself, if he did cheat, can you get over it and move on? tell him if hes gonna cheat on you he might as well break up with you cause you dont need him wasting your time. it sucks being happy and then finding out it was all i lie... well hope things turn out okay with you
2007-01-11 19:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are over-reacting. I understand that he went to a bar with his "pig" friends, but you need to trust the guy.
Just because your ex cheated on you does not mean that your current boyfriend will cheat on you.
He obviously cares enough to call you 40x in a day after y'all fight to make sure you are okay and check up on you and try to get things straightened out.
So, he went to the bar? That doesn't mean he cheated.
Now, if you start seeing other signs of cheating, then be concerned. Right now, I don't think there is anything to worry about.
2007-01-11 19:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes gut feelings are correct, and you shouldn't ignore them.
what you should do is have a long serious talk with him. tell him that he already lost some of your trust when he lied to you about going out. make sure he knows that you WANT to be able to trust him and be with him (if you do), and that in order for the relationship to work out, he needs to be able to tell you the truth.
don't bring in the part about your ex cheating on you and what you thought at the time. if you don't want to question him anymore, i suggest that you don't, and just end the relationship if you can't live with his answer.
2007-01-11 19:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by dreamnnsomniac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is possible he hasnt cheated,,let him know you want the truth and try to mean it when you say if after he has told you you will try not to bring it up again,,but make it clear,,you may be prepared to keep going with the relationship even if he has,(if you are prepared to do so) and work on it but you have to know the truth,for your sanity if nothing else.try to point out cheaters often get found out and it may not be straight away but if he says 'no' and later you find out that he did cheat it will be harder if not impossible for you to trust him again,,,,the truth can hurt yes but it is the truth and can be built on but if lies are carried through after a relationship was in crisis it is likely that relationship will not survive.
2007-01-11 19:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's ruining your relationship then you should just end it. You'll never trust him again.
Why would you feel bad for going out with your buddies unless you have something to hide?
Move on.
2007-01-11 19:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by st3psp8 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just stop asking and go on with your life. You are just making yourself miserable and if he isnt giving you any reason to believe he is cheating now drop it. If you cant do this then you need to break up and move on with your life.
2007-01-11 19:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should dump you.
You sound like a pain in the rear.
If he cheated then he should not be in a relationship.
If he didn't and you are treating him so poorly he should tell you where to go and go get himself a nice sensible girl.
2007-01-11 19:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well thats a tough one. you need to just trust your man and what ever he is hiding will surly come to the light. once you have more proof of what actually occured then you need to make your own decision about the discovery. remember you dont have to continusly ask questions. just sit back and listen to him you may find out what you need to know by just listening to him tell on himself.
2007-01-11 19:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by crazy T. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all sounds a bit immature to me. get over it and start again. if u dont wanna lose him, get off his nuts about it. if he cheated, he cheated. you will find out eventually. if you dont trust him, why are you still with him? whats the point? what are you going to get out of the relationship if you cant trust him
2007-01-11 19:13:14 · answer #11 · answered by annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋