questions for parents..?

Question

what age do you allow your children to talk on the phone unsupervised and in their room? what age do you let them group date?what age do you let them date one on one? what age do you allow them to have company in the family room?

Answer 1

1. Talk on the phone in their room 13 if l know who they are talking to, 16 if l don't know who they are talking to.

2. Group date 14 upwards.

3. One on one dating 16 upwards.

4. Company in family room when lm home any age, if lm not home 16 upwards.

Of course its our job as parents to prepare them for life, if we have done our job right these things shouldnt be a problem. If you have a problem child well then you may need to think again.

Answer 2

My step daughters are 18&17 and I think we were possibly more strict when they were growing up, perhaps due to inexperience and the fact that they are girls.
They were only really given privacy on the phone at about 15 mainly due to the fact that we had one phone in the kitchen.
We allowed them to group date at 14 but they were not allowed to date one on one until they turned 16,their fathers rule not mine.
They were always welcome to have friends over if we were in the house but not otherwise,well now that they are older of course they can.
As for my own kids facing this scenario14yr old boy&12yr old girl.
14yr rarely left unsupervised on the phone simply bacause he will keep making calls without our knowledge and could be talking for over an hour. During the week he is allowed on the phone for max 20mins per night and only really to ask homework related question, the same goes for the12yr old. They are both allowed use the phone for an hr&30mins each day of the weekend,while my son can talk in his room my 12yr old must stay downstairs.
My 14yrold son both group dates and date one on one,he currently has a gf,I think he is a little young but she is nice&we place a lot of restrictions on the time they spedn together.
My 12yr old does neither yet but we most likely allow her to group date in2yr or when she is ready.

Answer 3

15 16 17 and any age

Answer 4

It depends on the maturity of the child. I probably will have no problem with my daughter talking on the phone with her friends at an early age. Group date, if supervised by an adult maybe 15. If not, she can wait til she is older. One on one dating, well presuming she owns a car at 16... I can't really stop her so I would say 16. It's my job to make sure she is prepared to date and can make the right choices so hopefully there will be no problem with her at 16.

Answer 5

It is up to the parent. They need to be trust worthy, but you still have to have some supervision, just not invading their privacy, you know what I mean? If you decide that they deserve to be trusted then I say why not. I think an ok time for them to talk on the phone unsupervised is maybe about 14 group date maybe 16 and one on one maybe 18. I hope this helps!

Answer 6

I suggest you carefully read the following info, and then decide for yourself. The first set is something you might like to share with your kids. The others may inform you of some dangers you weren't aware of ...

Youths---Let Your Parents Help You Guard Your Heart!
- Why Obey Your Parents?
- Attraction to the Opposite Sex
- The Persuasive Power of Your Peers
- Worthy of Honor
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2004/10/15/article_01.htm

What's So Wrong With Telephone Sex?
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/2/22b/article_01.htm

Can Internet Dating Really Be Dangerous?
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2005/5/22a/article_01.htm

Chat Rooms--What Should I Know About Them?
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2005/9/22/article_01.htm

How to Make Real Friends :
- We All Need Friends
- Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Good Friends--Bad Friends
- A Note to Parents http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_01.htm

Answer 7

Of course the interaction and understanding between my child and I is the paramount consideration in making decisions like this. My daughter is 24 years old and married living in another state at the present time. I hope that she’s happy with her lifelong decision.

When she was three and four she would copy almost everything I did; from shaving in the morning before going to work to when I was emptying the trash in the evenings and then I was checking the locks in the house before going to sleep. The telephone was one thing she loved to copy because not only did she have an opportunity to replicate what daddy was doing, but she also got a chance to speak to another person on the other end.

When I started noticing that she was very eager to answer the telephone, I placed in on a stand that was low for her to easily reach and I sat down with her a few times to practice what she needed to say when she answered the phone; “Hello, my name is ____________________, who may I ask is this? Please hold on so that I can get my Mommy/Daddy to answer your questions…”

She was so damn cute when she answered the phone! We would practice over and over that answer until she had it down without any mistakes. She understood that she was not supposed to say that she was alone or give any information other than they need to hold the line for Mommy/Daddy to come to the line. Even today, when she reads my caller I.D. she’ll answer the phone in a little girl’s voice, “Hello, my name is ________________________, who may I ask is this? Please hold on so that I can get my Mommy/Daddy to answer your questions…” She can be so silly that way…!

Now, changing the subject to members of the opposite sex. I think that the “teach one, show one, do one” technique is appropriate. My daughter’s Mother and I did some role playing in front of her at age 12, to at least entertain what she would do in a situation with a boy of her age range. It was really fun, and, after the first three times, after the silliness of the situation had dissipated, and, after she realized that we were serious about this role playing thing, she calmed down and actually started asking questions; “what do I do if the boy puts his hand on my knee, what do I do if he puts his hand around my shoulders, what happens if we kiss, what do I do about sex…etc.”

At first it was incredibly uncomfortable on a number of different levels; my baby girl was growing up and it was very very hard for me to accept this, but, I needed to let her know that within 5 to 6 years she was going to be old enough to strike out on her own and that there is a lot of world out there filled with people who just want to take advantage of her. My ex and I kept up this role playing as much as we could until, at around age 15 ½, she stopped asking questions, and at that point I think she thought she knew everything and I couldn’t teach her anything knew.

Of course now she has questions, but, it’s very amusing to me when she tries to ask her questions in a very subtle and crafty manner. Questions like, “can men have more than one orgasm?” “My husband is messier than you, dad, why?” “I want to talk to you about children…”

Grandchildren is a very very touchy subject for me, and, I have no idea how I will handle the situation until I’m actually in it; I’m sorry for the deflection. Good luck, remember, your children are extremely intelligent, it doesn’t take too much explaining to get them on the same page as you, you just need to WIN THEIR TRUST FIRST…

Aloha From Hawaii…

Answer 8

ooh ! difficult question... i have three kids myself... they`re still 7, 5, and 2 years old so that problem hasn`t cropped up yet in our household... i`ll be looking forward to reading the different answers as they come... : )

Answer 9

i do - many parents dont though

and dads also have a bond between their kids who ever said they dont! its not as stong but its strong enough for me to be prepared to die for my children