Young moms vs. older moms?

Question

I am a young mom. I am 19 and my daughter will be 6 months this month. I don't want drama in this post but I'm just wondering what you think the pros and cons are to each.

For example
Children of young moms are 3 times more likely to live to 100
Older moms had time to get an adult life without children

In response to kitkat I would just like to state that as someone in there teens when I had my daughter I think that generalizing that teen moms need assistance I think isn't really fair. I didn't and haven't gotten any state assistance. And my parents didn't contribute at all. We just recently moved in with my dad. That was at his request btw since he has a 5 bedroom house and only he lives there. I pay 500 a month in rent there so I don't feel like that means my parents help me out. Personally I consider older moms people who have kids in there thirties.

Answer 1

Downs Syndrome is a serious factor associated with maternal age. Assuming one is not adopting and plans to birth the child, by the age of 49 the risk increases all the way to 1 in 11. There are other chromosomal abnormalities among gametes as a prospective mother ages. That is one reason children of young moms are 3 times more likely to live to 100. Ovarian cancer and other problems may arise as well that could prevent child birth all together.

Aside from that being younger you will always be a little bit closer in age to your child and therefore likely have more similarities to relate on. As for experience, hopefully one has a support system of relatives to provide that aspect.

I have heard people say that they also lose the desire to have children if they don't by a certain point. You have a lot of energy at 19, much more than you will at 30 or 40.

Good luck and enjoy the life you have!

Answer 2

Young moms often feel that they are missing out on life because they don't get to go party and hang out with friends like others their age that do not have children. That's the only con I see to that.
Pros I see are that you are closer in age to your child so you possibly remember what they are going through better so you two can have a better understanding. Your children will be grown when you are still young and move out so you will have some freedom back at an age that you can enjoy it.

I'm not an older mom so I really don't know the pros and cons. The pros I suppose are that you get to enjoy your youth with the freedom issue.. but young moms get to enjoy life as well because kids are a great sense of happiness. Older moms probably also have the opportunity to get more education and establish careers... but I finished my BA as a young mom so I don't know. Cons, you may not be as physically able to keep up with your children... this all depends on how old you are talking.

Pros and Cons all vary because really being blessed with children at whatever age you choose, the pros always outweight the cons.

Answer 3

What do you consider older? I personally consider an "older mom" to be someone who starts to have a family in their later 30's or early 40's.

You can't lump all Moms together though. There are can be good moms and bad moms in each age group.

Younger Mom's (teen) usually can't provide for a child without assistance, they lack life experience and are often not in a loving stable relationship. I'm not saying all Older Moms can provide but the percentage for teens being able to do so are much lower.

Answer 4

I'm an older mom--I'll be 51 when my daughter graduates from high school. But as for pros and cons, life is for living and not too many times do we get much choice. Blessings happen or not (having babies) and mothers (and fathers) learn to make do as best as possible. Some young moms overcome inexperience by sheer exuberance and some older moms are more serene by world experience.
Whatever your style and age, it is in you to be a loving and wonderful mother.
Trust in yourself, and don't be too proud to ask questions of more experienced moms (not necessarily older) and experts!

Answer 5

I think that you mellow out as you age, especially around 35, for this reason i think that you are a more tolerant & reliable influence on your child. As a young parent you have so much energy to offer your child. Younger parents are also more likely to indulge in dangerous behaviour such as drug abuse. Saying that if you are a young person who is responsible for your child & not putting yourself at risk either, then the pro's & con's are 50/50 each way.

Answer 6

i agree with smoke as well...
but i don't think that i was younger or old but i do know what you are talking about.I was 23
I kept hearing all the time your so young to have a kid no I'm not
my mother-in law was only18 when she had my husband and she was a great mother...
energy for younger moms a plus.but i do have to admit younger moms don't always got there priorities straight if you know what i mean...
and the bonus with older parents is that they usually got more patients...and the tend to be more financially well....

For 19 though you do sound like a caring mother.... and are doing your research pretty good...

You and your Daughter take care and best of luck!!!!!

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Answer 7

well i was 17 when i had my son and i love every minute of it. pro you may have givin up your life now but when your 40 you will get a life. as for the older moms they never get a second chance to be young. you and your daughter will be closer. being so young sucks because of experience but if it is an older moms first there inexperienced too so i would rather have them while im young, you dont want to be hobbling into you sons kingarden class at the age of 75

Answer 8

well i am a young mum myself and recently became a single young mum with joint custody. when we where together being young parents was definatley a massive change in our lives and no one can tell you how much your life is going to change but all for good. i think with it all is you can easily relate to your child, ect. i don't think for a older mom would be a house etc cause i have recently bought a house on my own. having my boy has made me work harder and have a goal in life. when i was at school i had no idea or direction where i wanted to go but no all i want is the best life for my son!!!! though all your friends are going out every weekend etc your the one who wakes up with a beautiful boy next to you... so i am sure i am not missing out on too much!

Answer 9

well a pro for being young, you have more energy for the kids, and maybe time. a pro for older moms, they are matured, expierienced people, probably own a house by now, and have had a chance to live life a bit first

Answer 10

My Mom was 18 when she had me and I was 25 when I had my son. I really don't see the difference in the way care is given. If you are doing all that you can to love and protect your baby then who really cares how old you were when you had her. Also look at it this way you get more time to see her grow and have children of her own god willing.