I've a BF with whom i'm in luv from 3 yrs. We trust each other & cant stay wihtout each other.
The prblm is he was in luv with another girl b4 me & he says she left him & is loving another guy nw. He told me all thse before we both accept each other. I've asked him many times, the reason for their luv to break. He says something or the other but still now that question remains in my mind. I've got her contact number & address should i call up & spk to her or leave the matter & b happy with my BF now. Pls tell me.
2007-01-11 18:44:12 · 28 answers · asked by Rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
are you a cop ???. what has it got to do with you. has he cheated on you ??? is he happy with you ??? be happy with what you have dont be ringing up his ex just to make you happy you will lose this guy big time....
2007-01-11 18:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear Rose, just because roses have thorns does not give you the right to poke someone. Why should it matter to you really? She is in love with another boy and getting along with her life. If, however, you suspect that your boyfriend has some dark side to him, which could be the reason for they break up, then I quite understand you apprehensions. I agree it would be wise to find out the truth. However, you will have to be more diplomatic in your approach. Try and get a girl friend to do the needful without alerting the ex girl’s suspicion. Needless to mention that your boyfriend should be kept in the dark as well till you are sure one way or the other. It would have helped if you told us what reason your boyfriend gave you for they break up. Take care & Best of luck.
2007-01-12 03:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you are having a hard time with the fact that your BF was in love with another woman, other than you. The truth probably is though, you are not competely secure with yourself. And that is why you are dwelling on the "should I call her or not" scenerio just because he used to be in love with her. My best advise to you...and I don't care if you hate the man....Read the Dr. Phil book "Relationship Rescue". Great Book! It will really help you get over alot of those types of fears and get down to the root of the problem. But no, don't dig up something that's already been buried. Good luck with that!
2007-01-12 03:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Rose... give the guy a break. He has confessed to you that he was in love with someone else prior to your relationship.I think he has been preety open with you and he luvs you now. Do not even think of calling up his ex, because it will surely sour your relationship with your BF. I suppose you would know the reason why.... Trust will be broken...
Forget everything and enjoy your relationship as it is now.
2007-01-12 03:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sudden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why u wanna interfere in past life of him let the gones be by gones.. han if u feel that somewhere he is not completly comitted to u due to that last gal than u need to take some steps otherwise if vu do something now then he will feel that u don trust him.. i know its not easy but try n avoid this matter.....
2007-01-12 04:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by nisha d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to create unessary trouble for urself. Stay Happy & chill. Let time go by & he will tell you the reason on his own. Let that mind of urs to rest & don't trouble urself thinking of petty things. Chill
2007-01-12 06:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Meagan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't what you to know the reason why they got brokeup and so he is doing like that. well you both trust each other right then why is that you want to cross check.
remember, in love...
Both of them has to trust eachother unconditionally and love passionatly.
Cheers,
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2007-01-12 05:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u do trust that he loves u then let be gone be gone and be happy u r just trying to get urself to be miserable and maybe if u just leave it be he may one day tell u y without feeling that he is in the hot seat
2007-01-12 02:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by vakere2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first think is if your BF is love to you serialise the you now leave this matter.because you both live together last 3year.if you see any area to go your BF to his ex GF then you talk to her and resolve the problem.you know, you love who person those love to you.you have not love to who guy those love to other.but every think is fair in love & war.
2007-01-12 04:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by satyant k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP THIS NOW!!! YOUR OBSESSING OVER HIM..IS HE CALLING YOUR EX'S? He is gonna think your phycho..are you? Hopefully not...worry about what you have with him now. Because worrying about this specific thing will only drag your relationship in the mud, the past is the past. When he is ready to talk about it, he will tell you. That is his private life he had before you. And you had one too before him.
2007-01-12 02:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by RAW AND GRIM \,,/ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave it as it is.Why bother calling that girl to ask why they broke up?Its of no importance to you,now is it?Whatever they had and whatever happend between them is in the past..as in behind you!You are happy with your guy,as you say yourself....why ruin it by snooping in his past???
2007-01-12 02:49:15 · answer #11 · answered by marjoleindnl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋