i just cheated on my girlfriend of 3 years. i don't really know why i did it. it just happend. please don't lecture me on how wrong it was or how stupid my decision or give your 2 cents of how much of a bad guy i am. i already know all that. i can't explain why i did what i did but i love my girlfriend i know since i cheated it seems like i don't but i really really do and i will never cheat again and i don't want her finding out. i don't want to tell her or let her find out yet i know it's going to be eating me inside everytime we get in a fight or something. have any of you ever been in this situation and how did you handle it without your mate finding out?
2007-01-11 18:32:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The flesh is weak and temptation is very cheap....so...since you already know what you did, hopefully you won't repeat that mistake, just keep this one to yourself, otherwise you'll have a heck of a time with trust issues....just keep your promise to yourself to never do it again, and thank God you are not married yet.
2007-01-11 18:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell anyone. Most of the time people fnd out their significant other cheated through other people talking and gossiping. Don't tell anyone. Do you think the girl you cheated with will tell? Sometimes girls sleep with a guy knowing they have a girlfriend but develop feelings for the guy and try to wreck the relationship in hopes they can get the guy. I'd never condone cheating and I can't believe I'm trying to help you cover it up, but somethings are better left unsaid. The only way your girlfriend can find out is if you tell her or if the girl you cheated with tells her. If you told other people then it's up to you to make sure that they don't say anything. On top of that most girls find out their man cheated because the man acts different. You have to act normal. Don't act like your hiding things or like you're guilty.
2007-01-12 03:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you've done the wrong thing, you're not the first person to do something they regret or make a mistake. Especially when it comes to human nature. You really need to make a decision about what you want to do. Do you want to tell her or do you want to leave it where it lays? One question you should really ask yourself is, why did this happen? Also would you want to know if it was the other way round. I hope it all works out for the best, these things happen to the best of us, dont feel like a bad guy at least you feel guilty and you know what you did was wrong.
2007-01-12 02:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her and forget about it. Don't act weird, over-emotional and start doing things out of the ordinary (like buying her gifts) this makes womans warning bells go off. Woman are very good at picking up vibes so be as normal and together as possible. You sound like you really love and are sorry so don't ever do it again, ok?
Cheating seems fun at the time but if you love someone it makes you feel really bad, guilty and can end up driving you nuts with worry.
Let it go and I hope she never finds out.
2007-01-12 02:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me..i never cheat on my bf before. No..i wont bash you, you are really regrets for what you did & u r so polite for asking help. If i want to say on my heart: you should tell her. Its difficult o live with a lie, really. Tell her everything just the way you put it here.
Or if you can live with the lie (its going to be very tough), just dont tell her. And yes, keep your promise not to do it anymore.
The choices is yours.
What comes around goes around. You should have think the consequences first..what will u feel if its ur gf who cheated on you? But it happened already..
I wish ou all the best
2007-01-12 02:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well
i have been through this once
My bf cheated on me...the gal got pregnant and she had to go for an abortion
we were'nt together at that time,so we went chatting then he told me he had something to tell me
he started and begged me not to leave him for anything coz that will be the worst thing that would ever happen to him
He told me loved me and......u know all those stuffs u say to reassure your love and commitment in a relationship
Then he told me
i called him...he was crying
He felt remorse,sad
I still knew he loved me
The truth is this ,i was glad he told me coz it made me feel that i was a real part of him and i was his confidant...his best friend
I forgave him and never thought it as an offense against our union for once
Hell would have set looseif i found out myself
i would have broken up with him
The truth is that a woman that really loves u will forgive you coz true love will forgive no matter what
True love does not hold grudges
I spoke with a male friend of mine a couple of months ago telling me ow his ex cheated on him
He forgave..but somehow she still left him in the end
Most times when a partner leaves coz of this act,its coz they have someone else in mind and that opportunity looks like a good reason to leave
Like i said true love will always forgive
You have to reassure her that it will never happen again
Let her know she is number one in your life
Let her know it coz she is part of u,u had to tell her
You cant hide anything from her
She will be a little upset....prepare your mind to face the rxn.Know that u are guilty and do ur best to win her trust back
If you hide it from her,it will eat you real bad
It might affect your relationship with her
and if she finds out....Only God will save you from her wrath
Take Charge of your life and your relationship
Lest i forget
Take a deep thought on what made u cheat on her...look at the steps and the trend in which it happened and try to avoid them for TRUST'S sake
2007-01-12 03:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by Tata 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never been in this kind of situation...but one way or another she'll find out im sure...sorry
i know that you've realized your mistake...the best thing to do now is to accept the consequences of the choice you've made.
if your girlfriend finds out let her decide if the two of you will still stay together and then be a good boyfriend from then on. if she should leave you learn from your mistake and move on...start fresh
2007-01-12 02:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're not really ready for a relationship. The "it just happened" is crap. You have to figure out what you did and take responsibility.
You COULD learn from this, never mention it to your gf, and NEVER do it again. But that's going to be really, really hard. Are you ready to grow up?
2007-01-12 02:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it and never ever do it again. Belevee me doing it more than once feels 10 times worse not twice as bad.
2007-01-15 12:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not here to lecture cuz i aint never been in your shoes but my maan of 3 yrs cheated on me n didnt want me 2 no either ... do u no how i found out his cousin snitched him out . yea we got in to it but in the end i forgave him n we still 2 getha . my suggestion is if u love her jus be honest its better she finds out from your mouth than some body elses . good luck
2007-01-12 02:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by bandolera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋