I can't get over the death of my dog Charlie He had cancer and was put down 4mos ago?

Question

I cry alot about this and have never had a death(person or pet) affect me this way any suggestions of how to move on??

Answer 1

All Dogs Go To Heaven

"Not the least hard thing to bear,
When they go from us,
These quiet friends,
Is that they carry away with them
So many years of our own lives.
Yet if they find warmth therein,
Who would begrudge them those years
That they have so guarded?
And whatever they take,
Be sure they have deserved".
J. Galsworthy
I am sorry for your loss.
Everyone moves on in their own time and there is nothing wrong with grieving. When I had to put my dog to sleep I got another puppy right away and the puppy helped take my mind off of the grief I felt.

Answer 2

I know exactly what you're going through. They become family and it's so hard to let them go. I lost my 11 year old Rottweiler Nikki to cancer 2 years ago, and I still think about her on a regular basis. I keep pictures up to keep her around me. But what helped the most, as hard as it may be, is to get a puppy. It doesn't matter what breed, if you want the same, then do it. Give them an original name and start afresh. You won't be replacing Charlie, but giving another puppy a start at a great life, and they'll return the favor, no questions asked. I got a six week old Rottweiler puppy about a year after Nikki was gone, and the joy (and work) they bring is a great way to work through the grief. I had a lady tell me once, no matter how bad life gets, all you have to do is love a puppy. From experience I can tell you that can't be any more true.

Answer 3

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh. I know exactly how u feel. One of my pet dogs hope had to be put down coz she had cancer. I had her for ten years and she was a beautiful companion. I feel for u, its awful when u lose someone or something close to u. U don't have to get over it, take time to mourn and all your grieving will heal overtime. I still think about hope all the time, i look out the backyard and think about her. I also got another dog narla, not to replace hope but to help heal my pain. U should try and remember the good things about charlie and know that he is in heaven. He probably missed u just as much as u miss him. I'm so sorry, i don't know what i can do, but the only thing that eases pain is time, and everyone is mourns differently. I hope u are ok, im so sorry about ur loss. : ( Maybe u should get another pet, not to replace him but just to help heal the pain that ypu're feeling. It is very natural to mourn when u have lost something or someone close to u. Take care and i hope everything goes well. xoxox : )

Answer 4

Bless your heart, I know what you mean. I love my animals like they are my children, I guess you do also. The best thing I can suggest is to maybe get a puppy, not to replace Charlie, but to give you something to love and care for. That may help tale your mind off your loss. But time is really the only thing that will make you feel better. That is the bad thing about having animals is there are very few that live as long as we would like them to. Also small dogs live alot longer than large dogs. Good Luck..

Answer 5

It is very hard to lose a pet you love. I lost a little kitten I rescued almost a month ago and still can't look at the christmas pictures I have of him in my camera. It is hard and you are allowed to grieve for as long as needed and even when you stop being sad, it just means you finally found that place in your heart for him and he's always with you. I still cry for my baby as well I hand raised him from about 3 1/2 weeks and basically brought him back to life but then for some reason he couldn't handle his vaccinations at about 9 weeks and we lost him. I still sleep with his little sweater I got him, for a while I carried it with me. Whatever you need to do, wether you got his ashes or buried him, if you have the ashes make a little memorial for him, if you buried him visit the place. Just remember he's no longer in pain. I don't know if you beleive in anything spiritual or anything but if you do, look up the Rainbow Bridge poem, it's very touching and comforting. Take your time and eventually you will be able to move on and it won't hurt as bad anymore. Just don't rush it because it is normal to be sad for a long time and it is different for everyone. Good luck and trust me, it will get easier eventually even if it feels like it never will right now. :)

Answer 6

First of all you need to understand that dogs live in the moment.
They are not like us, they don't have regrets. We feel deeply when a loved on or pet gets sick but dog are different. They live for the special moments in life that are happening right at that time. Like - Walks in the park, cuddling upto there owners etc. When they get ill they don't think poor me like we do. They just accept it and move on. **What I am trying to say is this:
Your dog would have had many thousands of special moments with you. He would have been thrilled to have you as an owner and will always take with him the love you brought. You fulfilled his life and gave purpose to his life. In his eyes you are very special and will always be. Remember him fondly, at his best, without the cancer. Your dog deserves that. I have to say this though - He would not want you to look back, nor would he want you to worry about the future. Dogs live in the moment and He would want you to do the same. Enjoy each new day, find life in the smallest of things (walking in the woods) (paddling in the sea) (Enjoying God's creation) And maybe, just maybe he would want you to get another dog, (when your ready) and give that new puppy all the special moments you gave Charlie.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for your loss. Have you considered getting another dog? A lot of people feel guilty because they think that they are replacing their beloved pet. You can never replace Charlie and no one wants you to. But you can fill the void that he left.

A good book that someone gave me many years ago is "How to Survive the Loss of a Love". I don't remember the author but it did help me through a tough time.

Peace. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but it WILL get better. I promise.

Answer 8

I am very sorry to hear about your your dog, Charlie. Obviously, Charlie was very special to you. Try to set aside a time everyday where you have a little while to grieve for missing your Charlie. Then continue your day by moving on to thinking of other things in your life. Think of things that Charlie did that made you laugh and laugh out loud. Laughter is healing. Four months is not a long time, so be kind to yourself. Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

If tears could form a stairway and memories a lane
i'd walk right up to heaven and bring you back again

I know the feeling 2 years and still in incredible pain from losing my dog. I still cry about it. It feels as though my heart, my gut, my soul everything has been torn from me and left an empty hole. I hope you can find someone to talk to about it, people often think that it is just a dog and you should get over your grief with in a certain time. Never ever listen to them, take as long as you want to grieve and if you can, find someone you can talk to and share memories. Don't block the memories because they hurt too much either. as hard as it is to feel them let yourself feel and don't be afraid. As far as getting another pet that is entirely up to you,for some people it helps them with the grieving process for some it makes it too painful, only you can know that. I personally am not ready for another, i don't know if i ever will be, i don't know if i can allow myself to love that deeply again. Only you can know if you are ready. but if you do decide to get another pet, you are not replacing the other one or betraying them. You will learn to hold them in different places in your heart. Moving on is the hard bit, i don't have any suggestions because there is nothing to give, it is just something that you have to learn to deal with over time. all i can say is if you are lucky enough to be able to talk with someone about the memories then do it and don't fear their judgement that it is only a dog because it is not, it was someone you loved deeply. looking back i wish that i had been able to grieve openly, i hope you can.

Answer 10

Sorry to hear what your going through, maybe you can get another dog that might help. Most of the time when people have a hard time getting over a death is because they have feelings of guilt. Think about all the good you did for him and it should make you feel a little better.