Why can't I find one who is a college graduate, never been married, no kids, with good credit and a job? I myself meet this rather "strict" criteria, so why don't any men? Am I destined to be single forever?
2007-01-11 18:14:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe because there arent any out there with your criterias... try norrowing them down!!!
2007-01-11 18:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by Becca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to broaden your criteria a little. I don't think there are many guys out there that can meet all those. I would stick with the job and good credit. But depending on what age of a man your looking for, you probably won't find one who has a college degree, never been married or the kid thing. But then again, you never know. Just be patient and the right guy will come along.
2007-01-12 02:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by confused angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that most men get tied down during the college years or earlier. The remaining men that fit your strict criteria are so rare that the first woman that realizes that he has all those virtues will do anything to get him and keep him. I don't think your destined to be single forever, but finding a man like that, as you already know, can be hard.
2007-01-12 02:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dre D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'I myself meet this rather "Strict" criteria"....this is Satan's way of making sure you stay single or have problems in your relationships when you do have one. When you meet someone always seek out their good qualities and ignore Satan's taunts about their bad qualities. But if their bad qualities can hurt you, you need to stay away or end it right away.
Match.com is a good place to meet people, but beware that there is a lot of con artists on these sites that will want your money or abuse you sexually. On the other side, there is quite a few good people too, so put up your guard and beware of those that ask for money or don't want to give you their phone number, or complain about a sickness to get you to send them money, And, beware of the overseas crowd...they are after money, IE Russia and Africa has a lot of on line predators, but so does the US.
When you do find some one, they will never fit your ideal of a perfect mate because there is always going to be something that pulls that perfect person away from you, or not measuring up, such as family, money,bad habits or attitude So accept this fact, and you will come out happier, and a winner!
Good luck
RD
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2007-01-12 02:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by Richard D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...Of course you're not destined to be single forever...He's out there somewhere. Usually when you stop looking for love, it finds you. Maybe you are not really compatible with someone who is as strict as yourself.
I wonder what your Signs are in...if you don't believe in Astrology, don't worry about this info, but if you are curious...just a little...remember your best match will most likely be a man whose Sun Sign falls in the same sign/or element, as your Moon sign; also you will be strongly attracted to someone who's Sun sign or Ascendant is in the same sign as your Mars sign. Look also to your descendant to see why you have chosen past relationships-and for characteristics that draw you to people.
With relationships it's not always a good thing to find someone who is exactly like you-it would be like looking in a mirror all the time. What would you learn from that, or what would they learn from you? Probably not much. It would be pretty boring. On the other hand, if you find someone who compliments you...believes and supports your desires, and admires to be like you-because maybe they are weak where you are strong....then there is opportunity for the relationship to flourish, and not become stagnant.
This also may not be your time...you may have other things going on in your life right now where there are more important lessons to be learned.
I also think that women can put out signals unintentionally that turn men off...but, that is another story lol....
I do believe you will get what your heart desires, and I do not believe in lowering your standards, but all the things you named pretty much seem to be all material items....which are necessary, but are not the foundation for a strong emotional bond that a relationship needs to survive.
If you don't know your Signs, and you want to...go to www.astro.com for free info...also on Thursdays they have free access to long-term links...
Love is just around the corner....so keep walkin...more importantly...keep your chin up...look confident...not worried that the right one won't come along..because ohhhh he will lol....
2007-01-12 02:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am single right now too, so I would feel a little hypocritical giving you advice. But, I do have to say that you might want to try online dating services... I know many people who have meet people over that.... And I don't think you are destined to be single forever :)
2007-01-12 02:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by CarrieBradshaw86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not forever...I mean you are setting a high standard. And you have every right too...Just most men are working for a living..I have never been married and no kids. I would be glad to talk to you if you wanted..
But I didn't go to college...maybe relax on the rules abit and stuff looking so hard...btw my name is Kevin nice to meet you.
2007-01-12 02:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you're asking for alot. Not everyone is going to fit into some perfect mold you have in mind. You don't have to settle for second best but, you can't expect everyone to make the same life choices you have made. Besides, not all people who haven't gone to college, have never been married or have no kids are horrible people. Either let go of that perfect ideal you have of your perfect mate or get ready to spend lots of time alone.
2007-01-12 02:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't exist anymore... and true love can't be restricted to a certain set of criteria. In short, loosen up a little and like someone for who they are, not what they do/don't have and what they've done. It's the person that counts.
2007-01-12 02:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not to destined to be single forever. Your man have yet to arrived. Be patient, and someone will come into your life when you least expected it. Believe me, its true.
I was like you once, but now, im happily in love with the most incredible man I ever met.
I believe u will found "him" too.
2007-01-12 02:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by CindyHoneyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try online sites, list your 'criteria' and sort them out. It's ok to be picky, as you should be to some extent, just remember that rarely does someone find a mate they don't like something about. Learn to compromise.
2007-01-12 02:21:34 · answer #11 · answered by Ms. Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋