i HATE MY DAD!!!!!!!?

Question

and not in the normal way that a 15 year old girl hates there parents, butting in, not letting you have a life. my dad always talks down to me, and he doesnt care if i do something good, but if i do something bad its this huge deal. and he treats my 12 year old like hes a little kid, and hes not, so my brother just learned withing the last year how to make a sandwich....pathetic, but not his fault. my little brother is his little baby, my older brother, is well, the oldest, and im nothing!!

Answer 1

You know what? You will get over it. Perhaps your Dad just doesn't know HOW to communicate with you, being a girl. Guys are like that - they just don't get us! Just remember, he does not beat, starve, abuse or lock you up or not take care of your needs. Many children have parents that physically abuse and mistreat them. Count yourself lucky that your Dad only picks on you! He obviously loves you, otherwise he would not get so angry when you mess up. Give it time. As you grow older, the communication will become easier for both of you! Try going to him when he is relaxed and talking to him. Tell him you love him but feel that he does not approve of you. I think you will be suprised at the answer! I lost my Dad to cancer 3 years ago, and I miss him EVERYDAY. I would give anything to be able to talk to him again. Count yourself lucky yours is still in your life, no matter how imperfect he is.

Answer 2

U should ask him why do so. i is something that u hv to solve. I would suggest u to be calm and try to make him happy in anyway u can. if nothing happens then say him all u think of him. some parents love one child more than others but u should not hate him for it. u should show him that u are also a part of family and must be loved in the same way others are loved.
if he is angry due to some reason then u should correct. because u are his daughter u better know him and one thing i must say that this age is the one when u find loneliness in your life and thus u need a friend with u can share your thoughts. So, make friends so that u can solve your problems.
and one thing more problems arise because of fault of both sides and not of one.
So, do not blame your dad for all this . there might have been some wrong done by u.
Hope u think over it.

Answer 3

My step-father was the same way. I left home on my eighteenth birthday, moved in with a friend and her family so I could finish school. I was determined he wasn't going to ruin my life. Up until my eighteenth birthday I was involved in anything and everything at school so I wouldn't have to go home until late. Only problem is that I didn't realize what an emotional wreck I was and I ended up looking for the love I should have gotten from a father in the arms of way too many lovers. I'm sorry for your pain, I know how real it is. Fortunately I was the youngest so I didn't have to worry about the pain of younger siblings. Do the best you can in school, a good education can get you out of there sooner and in a better situation to help yourself and your siblings. If you can get vocational education in your school go for it since you will be able to get a better job after graduation. And please, don't do what I did and try to fill the whole in your heart with sex. Wait for the right guy, someone who appreciates you and gives you the respect you deserve. Although you may not think you need it get counseling if you can, at school or at church or at a local clinic, but it will help a lot. You will be an adult soon and can choose the life you want, but don't do anything that will screw up your chances to succeed by dropping out of school or becoming promiscuous. Be tough. Be smart. And don't believe the stuff he tells you about yourself.

Answer 4

My dad was like that too. It didn't matter what I did, it wasn't good enough to please him. If I got a 92 he would say, "if you tried harder, you could have han an A" so next time i got a 95 and he said "if you had tried harder you could have had 100". I spent 40 years of my life trying to be good enough, smart enough, capable enough to please him and get my pat on the head.

It was only 5 or 6 years ago that my dad quit bringing up something I did at age 5 or 7 for gosh sakes. That came about because I told him to quit living in the past and realize I am an adult with a child and grandkids.
Many people like our dads were raised in a negative environment, so they just don't know how to be supportive or encouraging. Some are insecure or have poor self image so they are threatened by success or growth in their children and family/friend circle.
My maternal Grandfather had a saying. "It is knowing who and what you are that will get you somewhere in this life, NOT what someone thinks you are."
Believe in yourself and resolve to be the very best person you can be. Pat yourself on the head and smile. Please do not become a person who constantly seeks approval from boys or men because you did not get it from your dad which is what happens to many girls.
Get some counseling so you can have a safe discreet place to vent your feelings.
Finally, you don't hate him. It is an overabundance of frustration at his refusal to validate your accomplishments while magnifying and beating your self confidence with imperfections.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. I'm the oldest at 24, I have a better job compared to my sisters and I still am treated like ****. They live with my parents and they don't do a damn thing around the house and I have my own place and I still have to jump when my dad says jump. Its pathetic. I think your dad is trying to protect you. He may be overprotective and doesn't know it. At the same time, your 15 and there are things in this world you don't need to experience yet.

Answer 6

like the other guy said, get counseling. At 15 years old, one doesn't really know anything about life but thinks they do. At least thats how I thought and everyone else I know says the same. Maybe your dad is doing some things wrong and being too overprotective or whatever. Go to counseling and the counselour will help both of you find where the problem lies because you don't sound very happy.

Answer 7

Don't hate your dad. He is still your dad where ever you are. Don't ruin your life thinking your dad not loves you. He loves you. Think your future study hard and do the house hold chores. Give your Dad some greetings cards for every occasion that you really made. Get some hobby to keep you busy and excel from it and let your dad know. If he did not appreciate ignore it . I know deep inside he's happy for your achievements. My father is like that too. I always tell him I LOVE YOU even his attitude is like that. You know what he is very proud of me now because I'm the honor of our batch and I excel in many things. I ask God to guide me and give good health to my father. Pray to God always.

Answer 8

Same as happened with me, but my father has been married 3 times and the kids he had with my mom are useless...we do everything wrong. i am the oldest of 10 kids. My dad is a drunk/cop/army guy and has always blamed me for everything..even stuff my mom did to him..he blamed me. So my senior year..we got into fights..cause he never came to any of my activities or award ceremonies...nothing...and then he kicked me out at midnite one nite..and we haven't talked since..and he lied to his family and now they wont talk to me. So now i live in Oregon and going to College. Im a much stronger person cause i wont let my father bring me down. Yes i know how you feel...i bet one day you will look back and say " wow, i survived "....

GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

Trust me, as you get older it will get better. My dad used to do that crap to me all the time, but when I got older, I proved that I was an independent women that didn't need his approval for the choices I made in my life. My dad now respects me for standing up for myself and not putting up with his crap anymore. I work full time and raise 3 kids, by myself. Just be patient, it will get better. And trust me, I know that it sucks right now.

Answer 10

Are u my kid? I only do that because I want you to succeed in life. Down falls are tragic.You'll be better prepared for disappointment and since you are the middle child and not the baby anymore, you are expected to set an example. now go to bed!!