Christian guys, please answer.?

Question

When you get mad or have a bad day, do you take it out on everyone, even your girlfriend? Is it just a guy thing? What would your girlfriend have to do to make you happy when you're upset and dont want to talk?

My fiance has been rude to everyone lately (not like him at all) he's just been really angry. I think he is having family problems but everytime I try to talk to him he bites my head off. How do I approach him in a way to make him happier and want to talk to me? I really love him and want him to be happy, but he's hard to talk to sometimes :'-(

***The reason I asked Christian guys is because me and my fiance are both Christians and I wanted to hear from other Christian guys what makes them feel better because christians think differently on some subjects. ***

Answer 1

He's not supposed to do that. The Bible says that he is "not to let the sun go down while he is still angry." Anger should only pass for a moment. Also it says that "in anger, one must not sin." This means he must not harm others while he is angry.

Pray for him because the load he is experiencing must be a terribly heavy one. I hope he's not in a situation in which he is loosing faith. In my country, there is a saying, "While there is yet life there is yet hope." Maybe you should tell him this. Ask him if what the problem is and how you can help. Encourage him. Please be patient with him and pray. Show him some love but don't take personally anything negative he says. Negative emotions can drive us to do things we wouldn't (and shouldn't) normally do. If this doesn't work for now. It will later. Let him cool off. Sow the seeds of love and "in due season you shall reap." Maybe not now but later it will. If he doesn't appreciate it now, he will appreciate you later when the anger is no longer clouding his mind. Again, please be patent with him. Have hope. Pray. We live in a world where there is a Just Judge. Love someone when they need it the most and someone will love you also when it is your time of need. Encourage and you will be be encouraged. The question won't be "if" it will happen. It is "when." That's a promise. I hope this helps. Have faith. God bless and take care. Farewell...

Answer 2

That's not a guy thing. I think it's quite silly to make assumptions about a persons behaviour based on gender. It probably is the cause for a lot of hetero relationship problems considering that there is nothing that gender is an entirely social contruct. Once you start to say that his behaviour is based on the fact that he has a penis, you forget about who he is as a person.

His behaviour is more likely the result of his family problems although the way that he is 'biting your head off' and 'taking his anger out on you' may be a warning sign for future abusive behaviour. Sure, he's upset right now, but all abusers have some sort of excuse. You need to talk to him, but take it slowly and don't expect him to pour his guts out for you right now. Not many people want to do that.

Do stand up for yourself though and tell him how he is treating you and that you won't tolerate it no matter what's going on in his life. He has no right to take his anger out on you and you deserve better than that.

Answer 3

No, it's not a guy thing. (In response to the answer below me, which is really good except for one damaging idea in it: Although gender is at least partly social, the idea that gender is entirely devoid of biological influences is somewhat ridiculous. Sex hormones are known to affect behavior in certain general ways.) In this case it's a human thing.

Go to him and hold him tight. Physical contact usually helps to calm people down. Tell him that you're worried about him and that it makes you feel bad to see him that way. Ask him what's wrong, and what's eating at him, and he should warm up to you. Be patient, because he might not know how to express himself or even be willing to talk about it for now. It sounds like he's hurting. You want to marry him, so you need to learn how to communicate with him and how to soothe him. You might need him to do the same for you one day. That's one of the main benefits of getting married in the first place.

Good luck with the wedding! Good night!

Answer 4

Maybe he doesnt want any help. Be there to listen to him if he wants to talk, but dont necessarily try to solve his problems. Guys naturally love trying to work things out for themselves, so im very sure that when he needs to talk about it he will. Just talk to him about everything else, except whats bugging him. Thats probably the thing that will make him happiest. He'll appreciate the support and love you show even more then.

Answer 5

Some times there is no easy answer to this question. Tell him you love him and are there for him. And you know something is bothering him and when he is ready you will be ready to listen to him and help him any way you can. But till then you are going to give him space because you don't want to be part of the problem but part of the solution. Then tell him again you love and not to shut you out because you can help if he'll let you.
The walk away and give him some space if he doesn't open up and tell you what's bothering him.

Answer 6

A religious Christian follows Jesus' teachings and instructions and lives their existence on a daily basis following His concepts. i for my section would not make investments time in any relationship that likely would not flow everywhere. there is not any coverage that a lady might want to "replace her conduct" or perhaps remodel in any respect if she already has those "conduct". i might want to opt for a lady that's likewise a religious Christian and lives the same way I already do. basically being honest.

Answer 7

Well when I've had a bad day I go home grab a soda and rot my eyes out playing Halo on the computer typing "bad" words when someone kills me. Yep it's the life..

Answer 8

You would be surprised to learn that not only Christian guys have emotional problems. A few of my friends, who are militant islamic separatists with psychotic plans to destroy democracy, also have family issues. If he is biting you he could be possessed or have rabies. Take him to your local vet.

Answer 9

Maybe he has somethin on his mind, or maybe its something bad. Dont assume to conclusion or maybe he getting tired of ya. who knows just try to talk with and ask GOD to help u with the situation u know he his always there:)

Answer 10

isn't this a little discriminatory, i mean, whas up with just asking christian guys...

but otherwise, this is how you approach him... approach him normally and when he starts biting your head off, be like, HEY SNAPPY, don't take the load out on me, i trying to help... so calm the f u c k down... now... lets talk...