Why does love disappear after a while?

Question

First you can't live without someone special, but after a while the magic disappears and all that is left is compromise... why does that happen. is it our fault that we fall for the wrong person or the worng person feels right at that specific time?

Answer 1

If it were true love it wouldn't

Answer 2

good question i was thinking about this too.............ok there is what i have come up with.......:
perhaps sometimes the love we know is just an infatuation and so after a while it will disappear rather than grow cuz of difference in point of view/opinion or it could be cause by something else .....for example, some ppl find things they can't have very tempting but once they have it the thrill is gone.....it is the same thing
passion is very much like water in a glass, it will disappear as time and the rate at which it disappears is up to the temperature which is like the difference between u too and the original reason that brought u too together..........like many chemicals the intermolecular bond between each molecule which is u and ur significant other is different from pair to pair and so believe it or not perhaps fate has something to do with how strongly tied u two are
good luck , cheers :o)

Answer 3

I'm an "expert" in this field - ha! Actually, I have a great deal of experience - 20 year marriage...that failed because of just what you've mentioned.

People change drastically over time and in order to keep that "magic", you have to work HARD at making those changes together. What gets in the way is LIFE...work, kids, money - that sort of thing.

It takes a lot of compromise, yes...but you have to decide what you're willing to compromise to make a relationship continue to be exciting...and it is possible. I definitely didn't marry the wrong person, but the person I married was definitely not the same person I divorced.

Answer 4

Well actually it doesn't. What people feel in the begining which they they think it's love, isn't really......... It's just more of an attraction/like/infatuation/lust that is new which seems so wonderful in the begining....people think it's love. If the 'magic' dissapears just shows that the excitement has gone. Love is different. It grows on you. It's not that lustful but you start to care for the person more. For example, couples fight all the time, they feel they hate each other for awhile. And when they make up, it feels wonderful.......this can go on for years....but when you've been with a person long enough........the fights get lesser and lesser because you learn to understand and to see each others needs better (lessons through the fights of course).... and the relationship gets stronger.......and the appreciation for eachother gets stronger also. That to me is really love within...love needs to grow in all of us and it doesn't happen in a few days or months....it takes years......

Answer 5

love changes because we as people change and grow, and if we don't take the time to nurture the love that we give and want to receive then it becomes lost. also, some people will tell you that you don't really love a single person, you become addicted to the feelings you have when you are around a person. those feelings are created in your brain by different types of secretions like endorphines. if your endorphines stop producing those feelings as strongly or at all then it could be said that you no longer love that person. however, technically you were then never in love with that person you were in love with the feelings from the endorphines.

Answer 6

i'm not afraid to apply the "L" note. i do not favor to hearken to those words for the first time at my eulogy or on a huge floral association. I talk it, ask it, and stay it prevalent. existence's too short to save love a secret, do not you imagine?

Answer 7

It's all wrong.