im 21 years old and currently have a bf (30 years old, a businessman) for more than 4 years. but the problem is, i havent met him!were only textmate (were oceans apart, take note of that)! im really confused! though i havent seen him yet, i love him. he helps me financially during my school years. sends me chocolates most of the time through airfreight, calls me everyday (4 to 5 times daily),sends me cellphone allowance monthly. in addition, he also call my mother daily, theyre close already.
when i was 18 years old, we broke up due to my jealous roommate(a girl, who i think also likes him). she told something bad about me with him over the phone. after 1 year of "no communication", he called me and told me hes so sorry for believng my roommate and that he wants me back so i accepted him.
but the problem is, everytime i asked him that its about time we meet, he will make up lots of excuses. that hes busy with his two business and he can never leave it blah blah.
NOW WHAT?HELP!
2007-01-11 17:40:37 · 22 answers · asked by ---q.ty pie--- 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He must be married. What is he really getting out of the relationship if he never meets you. I would move on, and tell him when he is ready to meet and have closer relationship then he can call. Maybe talking to you is great and he never talks with his wife but after four years there is definitely something wrong. Men (and women) have affairs all the time and hide their wife. If he is just truly busy and he is not married maybe he had a bad relationship and is afraid. The relationship is safe this way and he is afraid of what may happen. That is a stretch but a possibility. You could always keep talking to him and start dating also. If you find someone you'll lose interest in him anyway.
2007-01-11 17:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you've been talking to this guy for like 3yrs now and haven't even met, correct?
There are only 2 possible reasons for this.
1) He is a married 30yr old businessman
or
2) He is a pimply-faced 16 year old geek
Do you even know where he lives? What he does?
You are 21 years old. You should be playing the field and not wasting your time on someone like this. Don't even think about getting into a "serious" relationship until at least your late 20's.
2007-01-11 17:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are too young to be wasting your time with a computer fantasy. I would completely cut off all communication with this man, and insist your mother do the same (what is she thinking by the way?) Life is so short and your youth and freedom are precious commodities that you should not piss away (sorry, but it's true). Get out and do things for yourself--don't depend on any guy for excitement, financial debts, or purpose. Once you feel good about yourself and your life, the kind of guy you want will be attracted to you and pursue you IN PERSON. LIVE LIFE NOW.
2007-01-11 18:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by micheyL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 21:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by barn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships are almost always a big no no. im talking about the ones youve never met before. he could be living a split life. how do you know that hes not pycho?? obviously theres something really off right off the back when he refuses your invitation to meet eachother. hes hiding something. or maybe even someone. i would get out of that relationship fast! save yourself the time and trouble of getting hurt. you may be disappointed. just be careful. and good luck with whatever decision you make.
2007-01-11 17:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by sendmehanangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess, he is not the same person as he wanted you to believe. Says, he sent you pictures and al,l but they're not his. Maybe he told you he's 30 but in reality maybe he's 50? I mean, it's been 4 years! I know a lot of people having relationships online but they do meet offline!
Maybe he's married.
2007-01-11 17:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh and cold, but I'm just gonna lay it out straight. How can you waste your precious youth on a person you've never actually met, and therefore, in all honesty, probably know almost nothing about. Wait for him?!?!? You already have! Please, please, please do yourself a favour, meet someone who you can enjoy the comfort of touch with. In years you'll end up looking back wondering why you ever chased a foolish fantasy when you could have had something wonderful and real.
2007-01-11 17:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"have a bf (30 years old, a businessman) for more than 4 years"
No you don't. Why?
"but the problem is, i havent met him"
something else is very ****** up here but I can't put my finger on it.
2007-01-11 17:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look here sweety you dont want to be waiting for someone who might never show up so pull yourself together and stop fantasizing. As long as am concerned the best way a man can show you he loves you is by bieng close to you physically. find some one who will give you that!
2007-01-11 17:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by kevo m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wasting your time with this man. Try to let go of him and find someone close to you who will support you and love you in person...what's the point of the relationship? Money?
Chances are he's occupied with another person overseas, probably even married.
2007-01-11 17:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋