I really like boys, and I love to hang out with them. I also would like to be in a relationship with one. But for some reason, I feel like every time a boy starts to like me, I push him away, before I even get to know him. Is it because I'm immature? Is it because I'm not ready for a relationship? Am I judging him by the way he looks instead of his personality? What can I do to be more open to people?
2007-01-11 17:27:48 · 9 answers · asked by Becca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You seem to know the problem you have, now all you have to do is work to correct it.
Realize right now you can't change anybody, no matter how much you nag, so start accepting people for who they are and not for who you want them to be.
2007-01-11 17:34:08 · answer #1 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't necessarily blame yourself. It's just as likely that those guys just didn't feel an early connection. That's an important bit. Just liking someone isn't enough to get into a relationship with them. You have to be able to see yourselves holding hands and being in the relationship. There's a difference between that and lust. Try to figure out if it's that the guys change their mind or if it really is you pushing them away. List some possible ways you're pushing them away and then fix them. As you do cross them out on the list.
I promise you, however, that either way you will find someone. I promise. Have faith.
2007-01-12 01:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you think too much about it. If you feel a connection just let it flow I think the reason is that you're scared about what a relationship will bring you. We are all scared but you'll regret it your whole life if you keep pushing potential boyfriends and good friends away just because you're scared. I'm not telling you to go out with everyone who makes an advancement but if you like the person you should make it work and don't conceal yourself in a shell.
2007-01-12 01:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by surani_ud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you are not the problem. More then likely the problem is that men today, or at least a good chunk of us, do not want love or relationships. They are not mature, and want just one thing, you can figure that out. It's not worth it if it's not real anyway....I'd just try to be a little bit more patient with your feelings, maybe keep a slight distance, and eventually go for one who is worth your time, 'cause time is very precious.....But I won't entirely exclude the possibility you are part of the problem, thus the suggestion.
2007-01-12 01:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tomier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but you sound very young. You probably just haven't found your "type" yet. Just give those boys a chance. If you find anything interesting or attractive about a guy, go on a "group-date" or something. And just because you go out with someone once does not mean you have to commit or anything. Just wait until you get older to blow people off for trivial reasons.
2007-01-12 01:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats all gurls......when a guy jus so happens to like them they tend to push them away for wut reason? i would love to know the answer to that. One thing you can do and it would honestly be a rare thing if you do it si tell this guy how you fell not in a way to put ur selfouth there to get hurt but to let him know whats up and im pretty damn sure he wont say no. I take you still a teen im only 21 and i act like im 15 its just the way i like to be so i can understand where u are coming from even if i am a guy ^_~ dont worrie relax dont stress it to much
2007-01-12 01:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by J E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to this vince guy up here- he's an idiot. dont be so quick to push guys away. i mean if you know for a fact that you dont like them, then dont try and get to know them because it will drive you crazy, it wont work, and someone will end up heartbroken (chances are it wont be you that does). but if you dont know someone that well, and know for a fact that their not annoying to you, then give them a chance. it may be the best thing you ever do.
2007-01-12 01:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im just like that. ive just been trying to like force myself to not judge anyone. i dont htink cuz its immaturity. maybe u just dont want to get hurt or something. not sure, i dont really kno u that well. but yea...i guess u can just hang out and be freindly and all.a nd the moment u see yourself pushing someone away, back up and think bout wat ur doing. its more of an inner conflict u ahve to get over.
2007-01-12 01:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by shortie0609 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date the fattest and ugliest guy you can. Then you can get over judging people and see them for the nice guys they are.
2007-01-12 01:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by Vince 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋