I'm not an unattractive girl...so why does my boyfriend look at porn? Weve only been together for three months...and we have good sex. How come i don't have any desire to look at other people in a sexual way and he does? Why can't I be enough for him, since he said he really cares about me, and only wants to be with me? It makes me feel that he's unattracted to me..and it's so early in the relationship.
2007-01-11 17:16:12 · 18 answers · asked by Lauren<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Part of the fun of porn is its taboo. It also is like clinging to a sliver of bachelorhood. I have never thrown out my porn for a girl. Whether I'm single or in a relationship, the one thing that stays the same is my Playboy subscription. Ask to look at some of his videos or magazines with him. It may not turn you on directly, but its always fun to get ideas. Plus if he sees you accept it he may be less inclined to want it. Be happy its movies and pictures instead of real life. If He keeps coming back to you in spite of the porn you should be flattered. Just make sure he isnt in it.
2007-01-11 17:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that you are unattractive at all. To be honest he is probably horny much more often thatn you are, therefore when he is ready to roll and you are not, he's got to take care of business somehow. Don't think of it as him looking at other women either, porn is kind of like when you have a sexy dream. The people in your dream that you may see naked or be having sex with don't really have faces, just bodies. Porn is the same way, its not something to watch in pursuit of a gorgeous girl, just something to make you feel good quickly. I guarantee that when you two are having sex there is no way he is thinking about anyone he has seen in porn, and when he's watching porn, at least for me, I'm imaging my girl is the girl that I'm watching on the screen. Hope this helped. :)
2007-01-11 17:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it's because of you. It's a guy thing. All guys watch porn just for their own way of entertainment. Or maybe they are looking for new tricks to try out with their girls. Don't look to much into it. Maybe he's researching for new moves to make you even happier and more satisfied with the relationship.
2007-01-11 17:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by iLoveJUICY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, almost all men look at porn occassionally, including married men. Men look at porn because it offers variety and their girlfriend/wife can't put out every time he is horny. You don't have any desire to look at other men in a sexual way because you have high estrogen levels, whereas your boyfriend has high testosterone levels, totally different body chemistry. The only way you can force a guy to stop being horny is if he's willing to get castrated.
Be glad that he's only looking at porn and not cheating on you with another girl!
You need to have realistic expectations and stop being so neurotic and insecure.
2007-01-11 17:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations, its a boy!
Men are visual. he's not thinking "Oh I want to marry her and buy her presents" He's looking at her like an object, which is displayed in a way to invoke sexual feelings in men or women.
There is no emotion in porn, its all visceral reaction to stimulation. He doesn't care about them, so they are not a 'substitute' because you 'aren't enough for him'
2007-01-11 17:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, a guy looking at porn. Call the Christian Coalition, have an intervention, block his internet access, place a shock collar around his neck.
This question has been posted a few hundred times before. Why didn't you just search answer archives? The people posting are giving about the same answers as previous posts on this topic.
When you finally grow up and shed your insecurities, a boyfriend looking at porn occassionally will not cause you grief.
2007-01-12 05:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Thundercat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is watch it with him. He doesnt find you unattractive. It's just the old saying. Just because he is on a diet doesnt mean he cant look at the menu and men love to look at menu's!
2007-01-11 17:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personally, it's not you, nor is it about you. We men are more visually stimulated than women, so naturally, we like to watch and are more interested in porn.
2007-01-11 17:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by mike w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he obsessed with porn? if so run. If not porn is normal. I wouldn't have a problem with my man being able to share that with me. So many men hide it. You're lucky. He doesn't think of you any less.
2007-01-11 17:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by Tasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is really nothing to be concerned over I know it may hurt your feelings though. All guys do this and its not because they are not happy with what they have . If he tells you that he is happy with you cares about you and only wants to be with you then more than likely he is tellin the truth. I guess you can say its more curiousity than anything. I truely believe that he is still everybit as much attracted to u as he was in the beginning so dont let that discourage you. Trust me every guy does it. Have you let him know how this has made you feel? If not try that darlin but even the guy after this one and the guy after that one will still do it. I should know cuz all my exes done it and it hurt my feelings so bad... I have gotten used to it.
2007-01-11 17:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋