My Mom Is Never Happy For Me?

Question

My Mom Is always saying mean things about guys, she tells me that whenever I find a boyfriend, she Is going to feel sorry for me because he Is going to become abusive just like my father and she told me that all guys are abusive, she Is giving me the feeling to never fall In love and she Is wrong. my mom treats me bad, tries to live my life, I have to ask her for her permission to do everything, and I am 23 years old. I want to go to church too but I can't because of my Mom, she Isn't religious and she doesn't care about It, but I DO! I want God to know that I love him. my Mom Is wrong she should be thankful that God blesses her with more days to live but she Isn't thankful. I have no friends, my mom won't let me have any. Is this the way I am going to live year after year? I wish my Mom wasn't like this. I remember when I was about 5 years old. she even wished that I was dead. she Is a mean Mom and always yelling and swearing to me for no reason. please help me. she Is never happy 4me

Answer 1

Honey this is your life, I wish you the best..U need to get out, if you are living at your mom's.. Your mom has some real issues going on..To be happy you need to be possitive.. Just don't seek out the first guy that comes along.. Have you thought of going to a good seminary? Pray and ask God for his help he is there for the asking

Answer 2

Wow...well for one thing, being that ur 23, u had the power to stand up 2 ur mother when u turned 18. Mother or not, u shouldn't let any1 change u..if u wanna go 2 church, u go 2 church..of course, i don't know how hard this can be for you 2 just up and do it..mayb it's easier said than done, but i can be done. It sounds like ur mother is very bitter and is blaming u for problems that she could have had in the past. No all men r not abusive..u have to start believing in urself..ur on the right track knowing that she's wrong..but sometimes u can't save ppl from that kind of attitude and life if they wanna be saved. Sometimes u just gotta let people go, and u have 2 do what u feel is right. It isn't fair for u to be holding back (especially on the best years of your life) for somebody that downs u all of the time..u have 2 get away from that..and if u believe in God (which i am assuming) u have 2 start praying..He always answers..but sometimes the answer u get isn't the answer u want, so if u really love ur mother, u have 2 really pray for her, and pray that God has mercy on her whenever he's ready to punish her..and yes, she should b thankful that God blesses her with more days 2 live..He's having mercy on her already..but sometimes u just gotta let go and let God, even if it is ur mother..just like friends, family can even get u in big trouble and keep u from striving for the things u want 2 achieve..it's up 2 u...she gave u life, but she doesn't have the power over ur life..only God does..u just have 2 stand up for urself..go out and meet ppl..c what's out there..believe it or not, there is always somebody out there who is thinking of u, even if they don't know u..they could b thinking about the kind of person they wanna meet, and it could b that u fit the category..u never know..but u have 2 stand up and believe..but even if u do let her go for a while, she still is ur mother..u have to continue 2 love her..forgiveness is a beautiful thing..good luck...peace n love

Answer 3

I would say talk to her, but I think you are way pat that point. If she acts this way, then forget her. She shouldn't let her own self pity get in the way of her relationship with her daughter and you should be free to do the things you feel. Going to church isn't a privilege, its a real need. And as far as all men being wife beaters, that is simply not true and I'm certain you will find a good man and be able to prove her wrong. Take a stand and be the person YOU want to be - no matter what your mother says.

Answer 4

At 23 you should be able to find your way to church if that's what you want. You are getting beyond the years of having to follow what your mother says. Yes it does seem that she's abusive and perhaps that trait wasn't all your father either. Do what you need to gain the strength to make good decisions ... parents don't live forever and sometimes you have to succeed without their blessings. Keep your thoughts to be thankful for what you have and forgive your mother for the life she feels she had.

good luck

Answer 5

Are you serious? Why don't you move out? If you want to go to church go. Why would you stay at home and be abused by your mother when you are 23 and can do what you want? Not getting that, are you handicapped in some way?? Then get out of there and make your own life.

Answer 6

if your 23 years old and being treated like that by your mom then its time to move out and finally be your own person...i know shes your mom but a mothers love should be unconditional...it seems like shes just trying to protect you from the heartache that she was put threw but you learn from your own mistakes and im sure your not going to put up with the crap that she did...not all men are bad people and your mom just hasnt met her soulmate yet...you need to find a way to be on your own...ask a friend and become roommates...do whatever because she may be saying that men abuse and they are nothing but trouble but shes mentally abusing you and those scars dont heal....you carry them with you forever so shes no better then the men shes accusing....i wish you luck and hold your head high....life is what you make it....:)

Answer 7

well.i think that your mother got hurt really badly by your father and that's why she doesn't want you to go through what she went through.You might find this stupid but you have to understand your mother and make her see that the guy that you will love will not hurt you yes there will be the normal ups and down but you have to take the challenge and she will have to support you.Eventhough you are not getting the opportunity to go to church you can still pray at home because god sees you everywhere you go.sit down and talk to your mother because it is time that she listens to your opinions because you are not a child anymore you are 23 okay there are still things for you to learn but she cant live your life.Talk to her make her see reasons try to get in contact with your dad if possible but your father must not react with anger and hatred because that will only worsen things.

Answer 8

so, as your Mom is such a bad person ...WHY at the age of 23, are you still living there?

GET out!...you are more then old enough to go it on your own....and by the sounds of thing you would be doing yourself and probably her a real favour!

You could then persue your love and knowledge of God. As you did this you would understand the importance of loving and forgiving ones family..you have obviously had a rough time.

Cut to the chase - bite the bullet - LEAVE.

Answer 9

It sounds like for your own sanity that you need to move out of her home. You need to live your own life and not live for her. She is just a bitter, unhappy person because she allowed herself to be a victim of domestic violence. Since you have self-esteem issues you could end up falling into the same trap unless you get counseling. Do find a church to go to and then you can talk to the minister.

Answer 10

Hon, sounds like you need to just let Mom's feelings go and worry about yourself!! You need to get out of there and get some friends and a church is a great way to do that! Good luck!