I have told the mom on several occasions that the girl won't listen to me. She shrugged it off.
I sent the girl who is 11 to bed. She didn't go. I ddin't send the older boy to bed... he usually listens pretty good, but his sister didn't go to bed and so why should he have to when he is actually allowed to stay up later?
So when the mom got home, the kids were up at after 10:00 on a school night and boy was she mad.. Her eyes looked totallly ticked off... and she yelled at the kis to get their asses in bed. On my way out the door I said 'I sent her to bed and she wouldn't go. I am not going to go throwing punishments around without your say. But if you want to to take away a privelege or something.. I will enforce it, but I cannot make them do something.' She said it is a school night and they need to be in bed. I told her I will enforce anything she says, but I am not going to make up punishments without her say...
Did I do ok? Will this compromise my position babysitting?
2007-01-11
16:50:34
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this is just a fun job for extra cash and is really easy.. I make supper. Do dishes and watch t.v. The kids do their own thing, homework and stuff and sometimes watch t.v. with me. I don't thik I am expected to do more.. just kinda supervise the house I think.. now I am hoping that I am really doing ok.. I like it there and just want opinions from other paretns
2007-01-11
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you told the mom a lot of good things. I think she should respect that you are willing to discipline ... but only on her terms and not your own. That shows a lot of courtesy and maturity.
If she is upset with you and lets you go, don't get worked up about it. If this happens, then you really didn't want to work for someone like that anyway.
2007-01-11 16:55:36
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answered by bb 3
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Sounds a little tougher than you might have thought originally. She may or may not have you back again, depending on how available other sitters are and whether the kids like you or not.
I personally agree with the Mom that the kids needed to be in bed earlier on a week night (esp. the 11-year old). You may need to spend some time bonding with her away from the TV set... ask if there is something that will help her to get to sleep, knowing how important it is to sleep well when you have school the next day. Maybe there are all kinds of reasons why she doesn't go to sleep-- it might be useful to find out what they are. Then de-stimulate.... turn off the TV, put on some soft music (or not), do some hygiene or beauty task (clipping her nails, brushing her hair, cleaning teeth, etc.) Do some quiet, gentle talking... what it was like for you when you were her age, what she likes best about school, etc. Be there with her... away from the TV and other noise and distraction. Help her de-stress. The most effective way I know is using the Emotional Freedom Technique... it's easy to learn and to apply. You can teach it to the kids as well. Download the free "Getting Started" package here> http://tinyurl.com/yh5zhu
All the best!
2007-01-12 01:02:04
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answered by Anonymous
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First thing I would do before I sit those kids again is have a talk with their mom. (I hope she doesn't talk to her kids like that on a regular basis) Ask her what she would like, if she expects to you enforce any rules, how does she discipline the kids and would she like for you to do the same. I personally would not sit for kids that had no rules to follow. What's the point? Then they just run all over doing what ever they want with no repercussions from you or a parent. They can do that without a sitter present. What ever agreement you two come to, I would enforce it. STRICTLY. It works best if there is consistency so if you and the mom can get on the same page, then the kids will get the message that they can't act like that just because mom isn't home. She would also have to agree to uphold a punishment or follow through if she comes home to find they misbehaved.
2007-01-12 01:08:03
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answered by jigsawinc 4
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Interesting that the mother wont take any action when you have told her time and time again that her daughter will not listen. It's difficult to give you advise about a child at that age becuz that is truly when it is most difficult time for them to listen, Esp females...All I can say is yes do what your told by the parent and if the kids are up when she gets home esp on a school nite explain to her again that you have told her time and time again that the daughter will not listen. There's not much you can do under the circumstance but send her to her room and if she goes to sleep she goes to sleep if not then oh well at least she will be in her room. Also even if the brother is being good..it sounds like if it is a school nite the mom want them to bed at a decent hour understandably so just follow her rules good luck!
2007-01-12 01:26:10
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answered by collins2004_08 2
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You did ok, but do remember that babysitting should be taken as a serius job. The mother should provide you with a list of punishments that you can carry out, then she should also describe to you what you should do if they refuse the punishment . I think you did well, you played it safe, the mother would have been even more mad if you had punished them in a way that she did not see fit.
2007-01-12 01:02:55
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answered by Anonymous
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I find it a little strange that an 11 and 14 year old have a babysitter to begin with! They should be doing the babysitting if you ask me...however I totally agree with you. It's a little hard for you to punish kids so old so if the mother wants to punish them, you should enforce it, but don't dish it out.
Good luck!!
2007-01-12 00:57:34
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answered by farmersdaughter 4
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I wouldn't think so, but if she's not going to suggest anything, then the kid will keep doing it because she is "getting away" with it.
2007-01-12 00:54:42
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answered by ?only?me? 6
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you should talk to the mom and ask her what should be done if they don,t listen, and then she should let the kids know what you guys decide to do when they don,t listen. there old enough to know better
2007-01-12 01:03:48
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answered by deauby5 1
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Just do as the mom ask you to do.
2007-01-12 00:54:57
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answered by Tenn Gal 6
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leave her,get another job before it gets worse.
2007-01-12 00:57:52
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answered by likeablerabbit_loose 4
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