OK so me and my boy hang out in the group and there is this chick in there that has only been my friends for 6months and my boy the same amount of time but I am better friend as we go out for coffee( u know) The other night she asked my boyfirned for his number (she has a boyfriend) and he gave it to her. She has been msging him, and Its not that I don't trust my boy or anything, I just think it is inapropriate so I told my boyfriend I didn't want him msging her, and he totaly flipped.
Who is in the right. Is it normal and should I be happy with them msging each other. Me and my boyfriend live together and are very serious.
2007-01-11 16:43:08 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There not rude msges there just chit chat. But I just don't think its normal.
I don't mind if there friends I just don't want them msging
2007-01-11 16:47:29 · update #1
If you two are very serious then why are you so jealous and insecure? Why can't your boyfriend have female friends? She's your friend too!
2007-01-11 16:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he would feel if the situation were reversed, but don't be accusing or anything. Just say calmly "hey, it's really bothering me that you and my friend are messaging so much and I don't know why because I totally trust you. I'm just jealous though, I guess. " If you start off this way more so asking him to help you with a problem, he won't start off defensive and will be more open to conversation. Also, I recently learned in a communication class so avoid asking why questions because they will make the other person defensive. After you guys problem solve for a few minutes, ask him if he would be fine with the situation if it were reversed and what he would do to cope. If he still goes off when you talk about it, try to talk to your friend. If she's the same way about it, mention it to her b/f since you guys are in the same boat and he probably wouldn't be too happy about it either. Mainly what your b/f is mad about when you tried to get him to stop though is the fact that he probably wants to do what he wants and have independence since he's probably lost a lot of it when you guys moved in together. Well this is getting really long so I'm going to stop here. but just try to approach him in a completely unaccusing way in somewhere that's either neutral or "his" territory, like the garage or his car or something so he doesn't feel like you're attacking him. Good luck!
2007-01-12 00:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Heather-Nicolle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u just made things bad by saying what u said. Kinda let him know you don't trust him.
ya'll are hagin in a group, you have to expect people to want to know each other more, exchange numbers, msg ppl from the group and what not.
It could've been completely innocent ( or not ) but you should have given him the benfeit of the doubt Now i'm sure his mind is on what you probably think his mind was on even if it was not.
I could be wrong tho
2007-01-12 00:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by kinev2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too serious if he doesn't care that your upset.
Guys keep their escape plans until the very bitter end. You could have a ring on his finger and he's still going to want to have other girls around him giving him attention. Just look in the 'divorce' category for some examples.
2007-01-12 00:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes if a guy "flipps" it is only to turn it around on you so he doesn't have to ask questions. (can't beleive i broke the guy rule and told you that lol)
But honestly as long as it is only random I wouldn't worry. Just keep your eye on it. It does sound like the start of a "i stole your bf" play girls like to do.
Try to keep your emotions in. If he is doing something wrong and thinks you suspect, he will be careful. But if you act like you don't care he is more likely to slip.
Good luck amiga
2007-01-12 00:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by freshlybakedj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very dedicated to my husband and he has a hard time with me having friends of the opposite sex but I do. After I'm with someone the opposite sex pretty much becomes sexless, if you know what I mean. She could be a friend. Not a girl. You might have a prob. with it but you can't make him stop. He'll just do it anyway and resent you.
2007-01-12 00:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bitches are so damn animalistic and competitive. When hot girls go to clubs, or out on the town with their girlfriends, or too the mall or shopping or to an event, or at school, they're not there for the guys; they're there for the other girls. Females want to beat the other females. Your friend is no exception. Females are your worst enemy. Give that male of yours an ultimatum, me or her and move on quickly.
2007-01-12 00:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by cpinkfloyd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all men tend to give themselves away when asked something. if a man comes in the house and his socks are on inside out, that's a giveaway. if he comes home from a hard day's work smelling like irish spring, giveaway. when your bf flipped out when you asked him about your friend txting him, that was a dead giveaway. the best thing you can do is get his phone and dig thru his messages and see for yourself. i'll tell you now... you're not gonna like what you're gonna read but you need to know
2007-01-12 00:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by jordy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's being unkind and doing something you don't like, which makes her a bad friend.
He is communicating with her too often considering you've told him it hurts you.
It doesn't sound like either of them are committed to their significant others, meaning her boyfriend and you. Maybe YOU are serious, but I'm not so sure he is. If he doesn't stop texting her, and won't limit his contact with her to only your group 'dates', he doesn't care enough about you. You deserve better.
2007-01-12 00:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety ... the best thing you should do is tou wait ....wait and see whats happen ... if your boy do something wrong you know what you have to do ...is good ... you can test your boy with this thing... also is good thet you live together .. you can see better what hes doing....
So i think you should wait ... test your boyf
Also .. you can talk to your boy to leave you his phone for a while .... and answer to that bi..ch and see what she want... if she is talking somthing like fasdfjkkj asfjaf ag then kick her a.s.s
2007-01-12 00:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by corpsdevorator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some boys dont like it when being ask to stop messaging a certain girl,maybe you should be a little careful with the wy you ask the question so he wouldnt think your doubting his faithfulness,,,tell him your sorry,you just dont want to loose him,and just dont forget his limitations
2007-01-12 00:47:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋