She says that all men masturbate, but I can't imagine my sweet, conservative boyfriend doing stuff like that! He struggled with porn years ago and forced himself to quit, and that's all I know about it. We're both Christians and saving sex for marriage, and I'm just a little bit disturbed that he might masturbate? What on earth about? Please serious answers only. Thanks! (We're 19 and just modest, not some 12 year olds).
2007-01-11 16:13:27 · 20 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry if I seem judgmental or close-minded, but I'm just confused as to what he would masturbate over? Would he think about like... our making out or something?
2007-01-11 16:19:45 · update #1
All men masturbate, it's a fact of life. Men don't have the same self control most women have. It's nothing to be disturbed about, I would rather have my honey do that vs. the alternative. It's OK and a very natural. It's ok to to save your self for marriage and very admirable too, but don't be disturbed it's perfectly natural. Good luck.
2007-01-11 16:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is completely normal. There is nothing wrong w/ it unless he's so obsessed it takes precedence over other things. I don't know where anyone gets the idea there is something wrong w/ it. At 19 you both have sexual feelings and masturbation is a way to explore your body and release these natural feelings. I'd be more concerned if he was a rapist to release these feelings instead he's doing what people have done for thousands of years.
2007-01-12 00:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why does it disturb you? it's a natural thing to do and there's nothing about it that means he doesn't think sex is special or that he's dirty. little kids masturbate until thier parents make them feel guilty about it by telling them it's dirty and wrong.
and just because he doesn't read porn doesn't mean he doesn't masturbate, he just doesn't look at stuff while doing it. and about? odds are good he may be thinking about you often, and if he's not, no reason to be upset about it.
99% of men masturbate and about 80% of women. think about that next time you're in a crowded room. it's human and it's ok.
:-)
2007-01-12 00:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian guy and I can say that masturbation is super addictive and a HUGE perecentage of men that do it. There is a big chance he does too. We all have different struggles and no sin is worse than the other. Its a constant struggle for Christian men to not masturbate. One thing to help your man is pray for his purity and supporting him in his spiritual walk.
2007-01-12 00:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by brent21fool 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well finding it hard to take you serious, but here goes. it is natural for men, and would find it extremely difficult to comprehend if he didn't. You'd be best not to talk about it and just ignore it, cause it doesn't sound like you'll understand it being a "christian".
Please don't take offense to it if he says he does, or heaven forbid you ever catch him in the act. It is nothing against you, it is just something we do. Totally natural and healthy.
Masturbation was around far before Christianity. No offense to your faith.
Keep in mind your 19 and a christian.......The world is not what you think.
tc
2007-01-12 00:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by shaker 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yep, he does and so does almost all other men as well as most women.
This will shock you but he will masterbate even after you marry him. Maybe not for the first year, but within 3 he will. I would bet on it. It is nothing against you, it is just a natural release.
Any man that says he has never is a complete liar, reguardless of who he is.
Proud Mommy claims men don't have as much self control... Bet she has rubbed a few off in her time. :)
2007-01-12 00:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by e.sillery 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He masturbates or he's sick, only people who have sex/body issues dont masturbate. If he doesnt masturbate i'd worry. The actualy figures more like 98% of men masturbate.
2007-01-12 00:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by jinxintheworld 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've never met a guy that doesn't masterbate, but... I have also never met someone that has sworn off porn. So I think that shows that he has made different commitments to sex. He really may not masterbate. But, even if you find out he does, he's probaby thinking about you. Don't be upset, it's quite reasurring that he is trying.
2007-01-12 00:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It perfectly normal for men to masturbate. Men are horney all the time and if you guys are waiting for marriage then that about all he can do for himself. i don't think i have meet a guy that doesn't.
2007-01-12 00:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by hydes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 19yr old guy... who doesn't touch himself... was probably born without hands.
Or has body issues. Its great to save yourself, but what he chooses to do alone isn't a threat to your faith. And if you have somebody labeled, they can feel trapped in that label and never want to show you any other side of their personality, so lighten up.
2007-01-12 01:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋