its like i wish we could be more lovey dovey, and we're not. it seems that it is not in him. what do i do with a man like that? when i have something bothering me its like its really no big deal to him. the only time he shows me alot of affection is during sex. i just feel like hes just going day to day. i use to initiate things but i got tired of being the only one who is romantic. what do you think. talking does no good. its just down right boring relationship.
2007-01-11 16:04:15 · 15 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hm very familar symptoms. perhaps he is depressed and on pills perhaps he is so down he cant handle your life too.. perhaps he needs meds .. when they dont care take it fro face valuie they cant care.. they are cold stone heartless emotionless beings that come from a syndrome they dont even know about or depression. he may not be ready either for a relationship or lacks the social skills of having being in one. something aint right so get out and it is not easy but neither is living with a person who dont give a rats as-s - i think he is depressed.
2007-01-11 16:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he is truly into you.. Sounds like he is not 100% into you. Ever read that book "He's just not that into you"...? It is really good. I dated 2 guys like this and one had a gf on the side I was unaware of... and the other was my bf for like 4 years and never had intentions of marrying me. "He just didn't care that much" Anyway, maybe you could see a counselor with him if you feel it's just his deep emotions.. However, even big tough guys act like little lovey dovey babies at times when they are head over hills in love. Food for thought.. Good Luck
2007-01-11 16:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by LJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've said it before and I will say it again:
You can't change other people. You can only change yourself and the way you react to things.
It is highly doubtful that things with your boyfriend will ever change. Some people cannot emote or be demonstrative like we would like. Many of us get the impression that relationships should be more like we see on tv or in the movies. People are rarely like that.
You need to decide if you can continue in this relationship knowing that you face a boring future with this person......plus run the risk of finding out that your fantasy romance isn't necessarily out there either!
Good Luck!
C-F
2007-01-11 16:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating is a time to figure out if someone really works with you or not. It is not in this guy's nature to give you the sort of affection you want day-to-day. So, it's time to end it. You can't change him, and you're wasting your time when you could be finding the man who will meet that need.
2007-01-11 16:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think it is boring then get out now while you can. I understand where you are coming from. Not getting the attention you crave is one thing but if you believe he is emotionally unavailable and that is something YOU need in a relationship then get out and find someone who can give you what you NEED. There is a difference in what you need and what you want. What are you needs? Figure those out and decide.
This will not get better with time...it will get worse.
Take this advice from someone who is living your nightmare right now....
2007-01-11 16:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time apart. Doing this is going to allow him to see that he needs to change. In the mean time keep on the look out for guys that meet your demands. You guys may get back together or may not. Your bf, like you said, doesn't have it in him, so you cant change him.
2007-01-11 16:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that your dissatisfied and give him a few days to respond with change and if he doesn't, dump him and move on.
People don't change if they don't want to. People don't change if they don't know they need to. Letting him know your needs and waiting for a response is how you find out if he wants to change or not. No one stays exactly the same their whole lives, we all change constantly, but the changes we make are the changes we chose to make. So to say that he will never change and not give him a chance is silly.
2007-01-11 16:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yeah...yet why do you want an emotionally accessible guy? If that is what you want then get a lady buddy. adult adult males are literally not your lady pals and god help us all in the journey that they wrestle to be. Be with a guy because he's a guy not because he's your gay lover. adult adult males are literally not emotional as a collection it truly is why we the girls exist. i does not have him as petty as me any day of the week. would you be blessed.
2016-11-23 13:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to get a guy that is more what you are looking for because your guy is not going to change. Over time you will get more and more frustrated. Cut your losses now.
2007-01-11 16:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by Al J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. Find someone who acknowleges you. If it's already boring, don't keep torturing yourself. Mr. NOT Boring is out there !
2007-01-11 16:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋