NEVER DATED SERIOUSLY UNTIL HIM MET HIM SEPT. 2005 GOT ENGAGED ON MY BDAY LAST YEAR. HE'S GENERALLY A GOOD PERSON BUT THE PERSON I FELL IN LOVE WITH IS NOT WHO I HAVE BEEN TICKED OFF AT LATELY. HE IS NOT RESPONSIBLE HE IS A MOMMAS BOY AND BASICALLY NOT THE ATTENTIVE COMPASSIONATE AND FUN PERSON I LOVE
EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE ELSE COMES BEFORE ME. I FEEL HE TAKES ME FOR GRANTED BECAUSE THE TUDE I AM GETTING IS LIKE I GOT YOU SO THERE IS NO NEED TO DO THE THINGS THAT MADE ME LOVE HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE
2007-01-11 15:58:07 · 10 answers · asked by nyqijones 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This doesn't really sound like a relationship ready for lifelong commitment. Have you considered pre-marital counseling? This could help you guys work things out. If it is something that can't be worked out, it is better to find out now than after you get married. If you are not completely happy with this guy, don't go through with a marriage.
2007-01-11 16:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by beccaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Are you my daughter? Lol.... I wish you were! She's in the same boat and I'm pointing out a lot of things she needs to see! But she's dead set on getting married to this guy.anyway.
I SAY DROP HIM LIKE A HOT POTATOE. IF he loves ya, he'll to a turn-about and if doesn't, then he either doesn't love you enough or has some real issues to deal with. And being a momma's boy isn't going to go away.... That's going to always be there! Either way, you're looking at future problems......
He doesn't sound like Mr. Right to me. My advice? FInd someone you can trust and talk to them right away. Maybe a preacher/priest or a close friend....or even a counselor. If you talk to family....you might turn them against him forever.....
Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
2007-01-12 15:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by Brenda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the things bothering u surround wedding plans? if so kinda normal but if not u need to let him know exactly how you feel you dont want to get stuck in a unhappy marriage i have been married for 2 yrs now some ups and downs will come with the marriage but im just gonna say it is work and you have to meantally ready and on the same page. I have been through some things that are normall and im happy, that's the most important thing
2007-01-11 16:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by toonice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's kinda youthful to commit for existence. youthful sufficient to no longer understand that "in love" is a chemical imbalance interior the strategies, "love is something else" never, ever commit to absolutely everyone until you have been jointly a year a minimum of, to verify that your strategies and not your hormones are making the determination. yet could or no longer it is so detrimental to stay a aside for a at the same time as? in all danger it may be much less detrimental than to stay 2 an prolonged time with the doubt, which finally will corrode what you have. consistent with danger it quite is in basic terms "grass is greener" syndrome, yet at your age, the only thank you to understand for beneficial is to examine out the different grass a minimum of as quickly as. In any experience, do no longer sweat it too plenty, even once you're making a mistake, you have a great form of time to locate somebody in basic terms as sturdy to love. Screwing up on love is painful, in spite of the shown fact that it is not a tragedy, 9/11 become a tragedy.
2016-12-12 09:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by kulpa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All couples go through this at some point. He's taking you for granted and probably doesn't even realize it. You need to sit down and really communicate your feelings to him in a way that won't cause him to feel defensive or cause further arguments. When you're both calm sit down and tell him how your feeling. Be sure not to use phrases such as "when you do this it makes me feel....." he'll just get defensive. Word it instead as "When you do this I feel this way". One of my favorite statements when having one of these "what's-your-problem" chats is to say "This is how I feel about the subject, be it real or imagined".
2007-01-11 16:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am never this blunt but DITCH HIM, do it now. If he's a Momma's boy and you haven't been able to put you first in his life, which I'm sure you have put him first in your life, he's never going to change. His mom facilitates his ways. He will never put you first. You will be miserable during your marriage. Especially when he informs you that his Mom is moving in with you, and she chooses the room next to your bedroom! OMG! Don't do this to yourself. Love yourself first! There is so much out there in the world to see before you imprison yourself to a person that cares only about himself and oh yeah, his mommy. Mommy Booby anyone?
2007-01-11 16:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by MzzandtheChuchuBees 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very unhappy. End the engagement and move on from this man - find someone you truly love and are happy to be with.
2007-01-11 23:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your having doubts, don't do it. Consider everything about him, yourself, your relationship and where it will be in five, ten, twenty years. You could be getting cold feet, too. I personally wouldn't be involved with a mama's boy.
2007-01-11 16:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just got out of a 5 year relationship exactly the same way, get out while you still can!!!
2007-01-11 16:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready just till him you would rather wait and you are just making sure you can do it.
2007-01-11 16:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋