My ex-bf was the one who ended our relationship. We dated for one month & it never went past kissing cuz he knew I wanna save myself for marriage. Yet, even after it was over he would still say hi to me on msn. Last week he called me, (it has been almost a year since the breakup), & he asked me to go see a movie with him. I went, he picked me up, then he drove me home. On the drive home, I asked him why he wanted to see me after all this time & he said "just to see you, I wanna see u every once in awhile". Now, since we're kinda friends does this mean that I can ask him to do things too? He's in Asia now but he comes back in one month, should I ask him for coffee when he gets back? Why did he wanna see me after one year? Did he mean he only wants to see me when HE wants to, on his terms, or do u think he'll be happy if I ask him to hang out sometimes too?
2007-01-11 15:34:22 · 9 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he just doesnt wanna lose contacts. like catch up dates. Sometimes me and my ex boyfriends go on random dates every couple of months just to catch up on how each others lives are going. were not really hang-out friends..we just wanna keep in contact. i think that might be what he is trying to do
2007-01-11 15:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation. I have been best friends with this guy for 6 years. When we met, it was because he liked me. I didn't feel the same way towards him, so i insisted we stay friends because he is an awesome guy. When he got a g/f, I knew right up front that she was bad news and I didn't like her, and I told him that. I didn't see him for 10 months. When she screwed him over, like I knew she would, he called me and told me I was right. He had moved to the state north of me and he was lonely and devestated. I drove 7 hours to keep him company 3 or 4 times in a matter of 2 months. I developed feelings for him. When I told him how I felt, we tested the waters. We ended up fighting all the time, and didn't speak at all for 9 months. I found out that he moved about 10 minutes from where I was living, about 6 months after we stopped talking. He randomly IMed me one night and asked if we could have dinner. I told him sure, why not. He continued to mess with my head for another 10 months. We faught, we loved, we cared, but he just knows that I will be there for him through the good and the bad and so he wants to keep me around so he will have options. I finally cut things off with him, which is a shame to throw away a 6 year friendship. Your guy could just be trying to keep you around so that his options are open, or he may just want a friend. You mentioned you were saving yourself for marriage... therefore you could just be a conquest to him. If you like him, give him a call... if not-- is it that big of a loss?
2007-01-11 15:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by jvcheerio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move pass being friends. Your mother is your best friend. He's probably on a brake from another relationship. Don't put your life on hold, next time his in town don't be so available. Do what make you happy thats all that counts.
2007-01-11 15:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by minagrandmaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there's some interest but hes not ready for a no sex relation you can go for coffee or a movie it will give both of you a chance to really know each other without the pressure of sex and in time if you and him decide you want to be in a relationship than that's always a possibility.
2007-01-11 15:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
listen honey,dont read into it! just becuzz he called you dont mean he wants to get married,take it as it comes people can be friends without a commitment,maybe he's just being nice or maybe he wants some azz after a year has went by,he's probly thinking you changed your ways and maybe you might just give into him,who kno's just take one day at a time sit back and either 'take him for a ride or let him take you for a ride! :)
2007-01-11 15:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by sha g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just reminding himself of what he'd be missing in Asia. Maybe it's better in Asia, and you won't have to worry about what happens when he gets back. Or maybe you will, and have to worry about the next time he goes to Asia.
2007-01-11 15:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by mld m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deffinatly. The guy likes you even if it is a friend-to-friend basis. He will appreciate your effort to make the friendship work. And who knows maybe some sparks might fly.
2007-01-11 15:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ellen the Estonian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ON his terms only. He wants to see if you've changed you tune about doing the wild thing, and he wants to be the first, p[erhaps.
2007-01-11 15:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
yeah you're freinds right
2007-01-11 15:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋