still not getting it, christians please answer...?

Question

i just don't know how christians interpret "judge not lest ye be judged". if judgment can be defined as determining what is good, bad, beautiful, or ugly in another person's life, then how do christians that judge others justify doing precisely that?

the reason i ask this question is because my friend keeps telling me that what i believe is wrong and she makes up falsehoods about me, (things that are as personal as how i wear my hair, things that basically don't harm anyone) and insults what i hold sacred without ever asking questions, yet she preaches jesus.

if i am to be judged by my fruit, why am i being judged for my sacred beliefs? i have produced great fruits of love and beauty even though i don't share the same belief system as many christians do. the judgments i receive destroy that beauty and it feels really horrible, nothing like love.

Answer 1

the verses said " Mat 7:1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
Mat 7:2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
Mat 7:3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
Mat 7:4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
Mat 7:5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.

If we read the verses 1-5 there is the answer. We are not allow to judge someone if we had also "mote" in our eyes. So if you judge someone make sure that you had no mote in to your eye or you as yourself did not do it.

for example
Rom 2:20 An instructor of the foolish, a teacher of babes, which hast the form of knowledge and of the truth in the law.
Rom 2:21 Thou therefore which teachest another, teachest thou not thyself? thou that preachest a man should not steal, dost thou steal?

so before we judge, we must first teaches are self what is the right thing to do.

Now for the second issue. If you tell someone who he, really is: it is good, you are just being honest. it is wrong if you tell the opposite of his character. because in the of proverbs says
"Pro 24:24 He that saith unto the wicked, Thou art righteous; Peoples shall curse him, nations shall abhor him"

so being honest is the best policy

you said that your friend is keep telling you that your belief is wrong. I suggest that. frist try to listen to him/her because according to the bible "1John 4:1 Beloved, believe not every spirit, but prove the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets are gone out into the world. " This is the reality many preachers today is a bogus. and I also suggest try the site below

Answer 2

Christians cannot correctly weigh action, motives, opportunities, nor know all things about any individual: God alone is capable to do so.

However, Christians are to make decisions (appraisals, discernments, and even take corrective actions). But even judging in this aspect is intended to be remedial, and leaves the door open to the person for repentance and reconciliation. Any judging on the part of a Christian which does not, is a false aspect of Christian judgment. We are called upon to ''judge righteous judgment'' (John 7:24) and failure to do so is to be negligent in a crucial aspect of our Christian calling.

Answer 3

We all have the right to choose what is fitting for us after we have acquired accurate knowledge.
Do you sympathize with someone who would murder your father or your mother over a comment that they made 20 years earlier and it offend the person who killed them?
You know threw accurate knowledge that there are other ways to settle a dispute.
Christians are with the same flesh and blood that everyone else is. We all started out with the same 2 parents, Adam and Eve.
What choices or opinions we have and make some may not like, but that’s what keeps life interesting.
If we were all the same, it would be boring.

Answer 4

There is a difference between judging a tree by the fruit that it makes, and judging people.

I may judge a persons action, and determine that I'd be best to stay away from that person, but I wouldn't judge them personally. That was Jesus' point.

Jesus told this parable called the Pharisee and the tax collector.

Two men went to the temple to pray; one man a Pharisee, one man a tax collector. The Pharisee said "I thank you God that I'm not like every other man; not like these sinners, and murderers, and adulterers, or this tax collector. I fast twice a week and tithe the tenth of all that I have", and then the tax collector prays; he doesn't look up to heaven, or bow down on his knees, but he says in his heart "FORGIVE ME FATHER FOR I AM A SINNER", Jesus said "I tell you it is this man, not the Pharisee who will walk away justified in the eyes of God; for whosoever humbles himself shall be exalted, and whosoever exalts himself shall be humbled."

So you get the point now? Hope that helps.

Answer 5

Let me pre-empt this by saying the following answer does in fact come from a Christian.

First of all, it would seem to me your friend has found herself in the same trap many young Christians... including myself at one time... find themselves in. And that's the "Save the World" trap. Many Christians feel it is their personal duty to correct anyone else who does not fall into their realm of grace and glory. It's saddening to say the least, and doesn't do a heck of a lot to win people over to the Kingdom of God.

The length of your hair, your personal music choices, what movies you enjoy, the television programs you view... these have very little to do with your Christian faith. This is legalism. Legalism is an age-old belief that Christianity comes from a holier than thou attitude and a lot of unnecessary rules.

What your friend should be concerned with if they are really trying to convince you that you need to become a Christian is how she comes across as one. "They will know we are Christians by our love," says the Apostle Paul. Not by how we judge, point our fingers and parage in our own holiness. But how we accept, love and treat others.

I have many gay friends. This is not because I am not familiar with the Biblical stand on homosexulaity. It's because I am very familiar with Christ's views on how we should treat others as we wish to be treated. I do not preach to my gay friends nor do I waste time telling them they're going to hell because they're gay. I simply do not believe that. And even if I did... I don't think they'd become straight the moment I told them such a thing, anymore than I'd assume you're going to cut your hair because your Christian friend told you it was ungodly.

I guess this is a very long answer. Christians shouldn't judge or act in such a way, but sadly they do. I think the best thing for you to do is to ask God to guide you to someone who may speak a little more truth than what you've been used to by most "Christians." I'm ashamed to say that most people who catagorize themselves under the term are stunningly full of it and are only providing a pretty poor advertisement for Christ.

Christ loves you no matter how long your hair is by the way.

Answer 6

Here is the thing. People are hypocrites that is just human nature. Believe in one thing turn around and act like you don’t. (not act be action is opposite of what you believe.) Its not only Christians that have this problem, it is other religions two. You shouldn’t get worked up on what you friend does, because you are a hypocrite yourself. We say what we want to believe, but our belief does not change our action. Everyone judges each other, no one can say, “I don’t judge people”, it small ways you do. From skin, hair, clothes, shoes, books, etc etc.
That quote does not only count for Christians it counts for other religions mainly other people. You have no authority to judge others no one does but God. It is hard to work tellings like that in your life. So, don’t try to beat you friend down on it and if she does it to you, just tell her she is being hypocritical.
I hope that I made this clear for you.

Answer 7

a lot of modern day christians are torn when it comes to this subject. The thing is we're taught not to judge others, yet it also says in the bible to hold your brothers and sister accountable.....if you see your brother doing wrong you should correct him or you are as sinful as he is.....

this is where it stems from. The thing is many christian have forgotten what it is like to truely love someone regardless of their sins or of their beliefs. They think that if someone is doing something that does not agree with their doctrine, then they do not belong. A lot of christian sects have become hateful when it comes certain things such as difference in doctrine, ceremony, dress code, ethics, dancing....a whole bunch of meaningless petty crap.

I sympathize with you and hope that your friend will stop judging you, but if you really want to bear fruit, just love her back, because she is a mere human as well. And despite peoples faults, we are to love one another.

Answer 8

Christians are expected to act charitably (in a loving fashion) to all, but they are also charged with the responsibility of discerning right from wrong, good from evil.

The prohibition against judging another applies only when it comes to their eternal destiny, and not to more mundane matters.

Those who ignore their own faults while mercilessly criticizing others sin against charity, but those who lovingly apply correction in a sensitive and positive manner are doing God's work.

For a number of reasons, it's not an easy thing to do, or a simple distinction to make.

Answer 9

Matthew 7 is where you will read that passage.
Read the whole chapter, and maybe things will come into view.

Judge not by a double standard. (verses 1-5)
Do judge based upon the fruit of another's life...for the purpose of deciding to have fellowship with them. (verses 15-23)

Answer 10

If humans do judge whatever measure they judge with then they too will be judged by that same standard. Now when God judge and can do so through the vessel of mankind that person will stand still and hear what thus says the lord.

Answer 11

I like the condemnation answer. Also you could use the word "convict".
I cannot convict my neighbor of a behavior unless I know his heart or motives. Of course, this is regarding general behavior. Should I be on a jury, it would be my obligation to convict a murderer who shoots an unarmed person in the back or other criminal behavior.
For general behavior, only God can see the intents and purposes in our hearts. If I gave a gift to my friend with the intent of obligating him to me for a future selfish purpose, I would be wrong. However, God might be the only one who knows my real intent. I could even fool myself why I gave the gift. When God convicts us of our sin, we feel guilty, AND he shows us how to fix the problem. (To confess to our friend, or simply to change our ways.) He not only convicts us of wrong behavior, He gives us the inner conviction to change our behavior.
If we are being honest with our own motives and behavior, we are far less likely to condemn or convict our fellow man of their motives and behaviors. I have discovered that the more harshly I judge someone else without giving them any grace, the more likely I will fall into the same behavior. It gives all new meaning to "judge not lest you be judged".
Of course, as I said before, this does not apply to criminal behavior. This we must judge for justice to be applied and keep our society safe for the innocent.