How many women out there feel like you can take the boy from the momma but you can not take the momma out of the boy? I am married and I feel as if anytime my husbands mom calls and wants him to do anything or go anywhere he is like a lost puppy dog. I have a family and they totaly respect me and my family they never tell me what to do or when to do it. They ask if I would like to go or if it would be okay for them to come stay and check the dates out with me. We live 12 hours apart from our families. When we go to visit his family always has our entire vacation planned out. We now end up going seperate ways when we go visit because I totally do not allow this to happen. what do you do ?
2007-01-11 15:28:10 · 6 answers · asked by Sassy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You tell your husband that he should try to control his own life and not let his family control your's too. If that doesn't work, try planning your own vacation and telling your in-law family that you already have plans to go somewhere. Say it firmly.but don't act all stuck up or they might get offended.
2007-01-11 15:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married now to "mamma's boy" and am divorced from a mamma's boy. It gets tough but you've got to make sure they know that your opinions and desires are more important than their mother's and still make sure your husband knows that you respect his mother (after all she made him who he is and you fell in love with him). My first husband did not understand the concept but my second husband is much more understanding about it. maybe you could call his family before you show up and tell them a few things you would enjoy doing while you are there. Maybe they would take the hint that you don't appreciate not being able to plan anything.
2007-01-11 15:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I tell my ignorant wife, I hope our sons don't treat you the way you want me to treat my mother. I could barely go see my 83 year old mother in the hospital after bypass surgery for the guilt that my wife has laid on me our entire marraige. Yet she has open invitation for her family and can go do things (shopping, lunch, bs stuff) anytime. I can't go help my mom because then I get this "you have a family of your own" crap thrown in my face. Double standards.
I hope your sons don't treat you as you want your husbands to treat their mothers.
2007-01-11 16:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its all good to love your mom,but his mom is wrong for treating him like he is a kid and he need to put his foot down,,,,,how would she feel if you treat him like a boy.the bible said to forsake all others,meaning your wife come after God.He have to learn to say no to mom,and she need to respect his marriage.And please sit down and let both of them know how you feel and talk it over and work out a solutions,so all of you will be happy,because he love both of you,and am sure he want to make sure you both are happy.
2007-01-11 16:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by hanagal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to tell your husband whats on your mind,don't hold back.i think you also need to sit back and think about the situation between him and his mom,i mean is he the oldest child ?,is he the only boy?, is his dad in the picture?I'm the oldest child and my mom is always depending on me and i don't mind,because you have only one mom,so don't let it up set you that much.i also think that when you two go to visit your families maybe you might want to alternate between your families.
2007-01-11 15:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by sassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have it figured out. Or at his family do half of what they planned out and half of what you want.
2007-01-11 15:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋