I am 20 years old and i have been in my first real relationship for 4 years. I went to a club and met a amazing guy who made me feel comfortble imadeatly to be my self. I feel really bad for having these feelings for someone else when im already in a serious relationship.Is this wrong?Am i waisting my time?
2007-01-11 15:25:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I went through that too. At 20 I was still with my high school sweet heart and soooo in love. Even now I still dream about him at 17. But ultimately he was not the right one. The longer we were together the more apparent this became. And the longer we were together the more I was attracted to other people. Their was one particularly strong crush but I never acted on it. I never even told anyone about it. People change so fast in their early 20's. At 16 he was the sweetest boy that has ever existed in the history of the world ever, my best friend, and treated me better than anyone ever had. By 23 we were still together but things were so different. I think he changed so much because he had problems that he never dealt with. But anyway, he started cheating on me with my cousin, MY COUSIN!!!! EEEWW!!!! The boy I met at 16 would have never done anything like that. But it kind of makes sense because at that point she was about as messed up as he was.
So what does this mean? The person in front of you now, is he still the person you fell in love with 4 years ago? This would be a shallow question if you were both 40 and had been married for 10 years. But you are so young and not married. What is it about this other person that you don't see in your bf. Now at thirty something that is clear for me, after it's too late. While it is not a huge regret, I still wonder what if?
Be careful. Be nice (to everybody!!). Weight your options. Try to figure out if there is anything real that you would be getting from this other guy. Would it be worth it? BUT DO NOT CHEAT!! That's just such a mean thing to do to anybody. If you want to try seeing other people then have an honest talk with your bf. If he is the "one" for you and you for him then you can get past this whether you do or do not venture out. If you are the "one" for each other then that will soon become apparent and you won't stay apart very long.
2007-01-11 16:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Buttercup Rocks! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your very young and you have plenty of tI'me to explore.im not saying jump into bed with every guy,but if there's someone out there who makes you feel great about yourself than the only person your not giving a chance is you.you'll have many relationships some serious some not but that is how you find out exactly what you are and are not looking for in a life partner.
2007-01-11 23:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you truly love someone there will be no doubts, if you are haveing doubts then you need to take a step back and look at your relationship, better to get out now that stick around for a few more years of your youth just to try to make it work.
2007-01-11 23:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to feel these emotions. if you analyze why you liked that stranger, it's because your present bf has been particularly insensitive to you in that area and the stranger filled that void just by being sensitive to your needs and showing interest in you. you and your bf need to talk again and rekindle that lovey-dovey feeling you had for each other when you two first started dating... takes effort but it's really worth it :)
one of the consequences of long-term relationships--after awhile you two get so used to each other that you become less sensitive, less appreciative, less encouraging, and less interested in each other's needs. long-term relationships need to be worked upon on a daily basis if you want it to last--use imagination and do out-of-the-norm things :)
wish you all the best in your present relationship! :D ponder about what i've just said...
2007-01-12 01:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you meet someone you are attracted to. You are only 20 and have alot of time ahead of you. If you want to see him, be kind and tell the current one you are moving on first.
2007-01-11 23:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This incident is your subconscious telling you your relationship has problems. You need to take a long look inside and see where your head and heart are.
2007-01-11 23:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off with the other person before you hurt them. Is it just sexual attraction to the new person ? Are you sure it is worth hurting the one you love who has or has not been there for you?
2007-01-11 23:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by CARAMIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yer young, youre supposed to be experiencing different knew, exciting people. don't hobble your personal growth just to save a less desireable potential mate.
2007-01-11 23:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by fooz1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes
2007-01-11 23:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋