I recently found out the guy I am "talking to" has a girlfriend for 6 years, they even have a baby together. I broke down in tears crying... he loves her and i still like him. how do i get over this misery?
2007-01-11 15:13:54 · 5 answers · asked by LILY [ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should break contact with him. Take it one day at a time. You will get stronger each day. Even should he have feelings for you, he has a family and he should do everything he can to preserve that family.
2007-01-11 15:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by mike j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple dont focus on it. Focus on something else. Ive been through two divorces. And I allways ask myself in times like that how bad is it really. At least I had the chance to love or feel pain or make love or get dumped etc. How many never get a chance to feel what u r feeling. how many cant even read what I've typed. I'm not trying to make what yer going through seem trivial because it aint but how bad is it really. Instead of thinking about the misery as a bad thing think of it as a good thing at least u get to feel it. I guess what I'm trying to say is this old adage
BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST THAN TO HAVE NEVER LOVED AT ALL.
2007-01-11 23:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by Vinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut yourself off from him completely; you can't get over him if he's still around. In addition, you must realize that you were "in like" with someone who doesn't exist. You were attracted to someone who was available for a relationship with you, not someone with a girlfriend of six years plus a baby, neither of which he admitted to having. It's difficult to move on, but better than getting involved with a liar and a cheat with a built in family.
2007-01-11 23:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how you get out of your misery:
Beat your pillows and scream and yell.....you should be angry because you should feel deceived. Express the right emotion for starters!
Then celebrate the fact that you learned the number one rule of the Internet....Nobody is who they seem on-line.
People represent themselves. We put them on pedestals. They just aren't what we imagined. Happens ALL the time.
Lastly....be happy for him and let him go. He's starting a little family. He's tied down and needs to be a parent. He needs to grow up. Be happy that you will grow and mature from this experience.
Good Luck!
C-F
2007-01-11 23:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him don;t talk to him any more. Its going to hurt like hell but seeing this guy or listening to his bullsh*t explanations will only make things worse. Hang out with friends, go places to take your mind off this jerk. Whatever you do don't sit around the house and feel miserable. YOu're free now to find a decent man who's going to treat you right. I don't know why you like him if he's lied to you.
2007-01-11 23:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋