I think you can't be friends with people you work with.It won't work. do you think it's right?

Question

I don't think you should be friends with the people that you're working with. When things are "rosy", everything is ok. But when there's conflict, everybody knows about it and it will go down hill. My husband is a physician and a very kind person. I trust him completely, but I don't trust the females (ie: nurses, social workers, secretary,etc..) he works with. Most of them are below his level, thus, they are very sweet talkesr and compliment him a lot. Those compliments which most of the time are just "brown nosing" and I'm sure they don't meant it. but he sometimes get flattered by those "fake" compliments. He is a very nice person, and some women can be very manipulative, calculated, and cunning, that sometimes my husband may not see through them. I know my husband is very committed to our family. Those women that he works with go after him for money. So in order to keep things professional, I don't think it's appropriate to be friends with people you work with,esp the opposite sex

Answer 1

No. I think you should be friends with them. I think you're letting your fears get the better of you.

Answer 2

1) I don't agree with everything you say, however stature is an important thing and that is a different question than you state.
e.g. Management can not be friends with their workers.. they can be friends with another managers workers but not theirs.
2) Men and women on an equal playing field (i.e. peers) can most definitely be friends... Yes, some are exactly what you say, but a lot of others are not that way at all.. The things you describe are character items... some people have character and some don't... period...
3) I think you should give your hubby more credit... does he think with the little guy??? I think not.... He may be wiser than you think... then again, there is midlife for all of us and I would most definitely be on the lookout for that...

Answer 3

NOPE!! You go to work to "work". I feel the same way. My hubby is in the Army and some of the girls are just plain slutty and don't care if a guy is married; they are manipulative. I worry a lot cuz he always tries to see the good in people, he's very sweet and very handsome. I know they know it too and there's somethin' about a man in uniform. So I totally agree with you.

Answer 4

Oh, I disagree. I have made great friends through work. The women your husband works with could genuinely like him. You seem very suspicious of them, not sure what that's about. By saying they are below his level, makes me think that you don't think highly of them and they know it. They sense your jealousy and insecurities and I'm not sure any of them are your biggest fan. I'm not trying to be hurtful, but you seem very jealous.

Answer 5

i agree i use to work for a doc n the girls use to tell me that if the doc got at them they would go ahead n do it cuz its money they will see n another thing is im 22 yes young but i have been with my hubby for 7 years seince we were 14 n belive me one thing that has always kept us together is not havein friends frm the oppsite sex girls n guys cant stand to see any one happy n together with some one so hold on to ur man cuz they will try any thing good luck k

Answer 6

I agree..you can be acquaintanances...but NOT FRIENDS....But if you introduce some one you'd have to say.."this is my friend....."Don't worry about those women...they are just co-workers,...that is all..(from a woman)...and yes women can be manipulative, and cunning...but some are not, like me..i pull my own weight and would NEVER BE INTERESTED IN SOME OTHER WOMAN'S MAN...DO NOT RUIN your marriage by asking him stuff about other women...TRY to let it go...it is not worth the aggravation...really..i hope i have helped...